Ukuthabatha uvavanyo lokukhulelwa kusemgangathweni ukulula. Uthenge ukuvavanya, okubizwa ngokuqhelekileyo njengentonga yontanga, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, uyayifaka. Akunzima ukwenza, akunjalo?
Ewe, kungekukhawuleza apho. Abasetyhini abaninzi bafumana ukufumana uvavanyo lokukhulelwa kunzima kakhulu ukwenza ngokomzwelo. Zinezinto ezizodwa ezifuna ukuba uvavanyo luzithethe. Nangona ukhetho oluthile okanye olungalunganga luyahlukahluka kumfazi ukuya kumfazi, ukwesaba impendulo kuyafana.
Kwabo abavayo ukuvavanya ukukhulelwa okungahambi kakuhle , kunokube sekuyiminyaka yokuzama ukudibanisa impendulo. Mhlawumbi uninzi lweemvavanyo ezivuthiweyo zokuzala. Ngaphandle koko, ukufuna nje ukukhulelwa kwanele ukukhupha umbuzo engqondweni yabasetyhini- ndiyakhulelwa?
Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe uvavanyo, impendulo inokuba yintoni na oyifunayo. Unokuqhubeka ucinga ukuba ukhulelwe. Unokucwangcisa umntwana omtsha ebomini bakho, kwanamanwe okuhlobisa kunye nokukhetha amagama omntwana engqondweni yakho. Oku kunokuzonwabisa kwaye kukhuselekile. Eminye, ukuthatha uvavanyo lokukhulelwa lunikeza impendulo ecacileyo ukuba mhlawumbi ufumana ukuhlala kule ndawo ephuphayo okanye ufanele uphinde uhlawulelwe ekuqinisekiseni ukuba ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa kukubi.
Mhlawumbi ukhona kwenye inkampu, apho ungathanda ukuba ukuvavanya ukukhulelwa kukubi. Oku kuthetha ukuba impazamo yakho kukuba awuzange ukhulelwe kwaye ukuba impilo yakho yangoku ihlale ifana.
Ngeke ube nexhala malunga nobusuku bokugqibela kunye neentsana ezililayo, nje uqaphele ukuba ube kwindawo yokufuna olunye uvavanyo lokukhulelwa naliphi na ixesha kungekudala.
Ngoko ke, kukuphi ukunyathela ngaphaya komda wokuthatha uvavanyo lokukhulelwa? Ekugqibeleni nje ukwazi i nyaniso. Ukwazi ukuba yeyiphi ikampu owela kuyo kunye nento ezayo yokuhamba.
Kukho umonakalo ekungathathi ukuthatha uvavanyo lokukhulelwa xa unqweneli ukwenza okungenani ukuba "uthathe ukhulelwe," oko kuthetha ukuba ubukele into oyidlayo, uziyekele kwizinto ezinobungozi, njl. Ungayifakela kwindawo engaphephile kwaye ulahlekelwe ebalulekileyo ukunakekelwa kokubeleka kunye nezinye iindlela zokukhetha ngenxa yokoyika. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyazi ukuba ukhulelwe, bhetele ukhona kwizinto ezininzi, ubuninzi.
Ngoko unqoba njani uloyiko kwaye ushukunywe kwisenzo?
Yiba neSicwangciso
Ukwazi oko uza kukwenza, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni na isiphumo esiwa ngayo kuyona nto ingcono. Nangona isicwangciso sexesha elifutshane lokufumana umntu ofanelekileyo ukuthetha nokuthetha malunga neziphumo. Oku kubalulekile.
Uvavanyo kunye noBuddy
Ungazami ukuthatha iimvavanyo zokukhulelwa zodwa. Buza umngane wakho okanye iqabane lakho kukunceda. Ukuba nomntu ekuncedeni ukubamba isandla sakho okanye ukufunda iziphumo zokuvavanya kunokusikelela. Ingenza yonke inkqubo ibe lula.
Sungcangcazela
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni umphumo, ukukhathazeka kuza kwenza izinto zibe zibi nakakhulu. Phinda ubuye kwisicwangciso sakho oqale ngaso kwindawo yokuqala. Khumbula ukuba kulungile ukuba ungenzi nto kancinci. Fumana umntu onokukunceda, ube ngumsebenzi othembekileyo, iqabane lakho, umgqirha. Unokufuna ukuba umntu athethe naye, mhlawumbi okanye ngokuzibandakanya, mhlawumbi bobabini.
Kwenzeka ntoni emva koko?
Ngaba udinga ukubona ugqirha okanye umbelethisi? Ngaba uya kufuneka ukuba uvavanyo lokukhulelwa luqinisekisiwe? Ngaba uya kufuneka ucele ukuvavanywa okanye unyango? Kukho indawo onokuya kuzo ukuxoxa ngazo zonke iinketho zakho zokukhulelwa kwakho.
Umgca wokugqibela kukuba ukuvavanya akutshintshi umphumo wovavanyo lokukhulelwa. Ukhulelwe okanye awukho. Ixesha lakho lingabonakalisa. Akunakho ukukhulelwa. Unokuba ukhulelwe. Ukungathathi uvavanyo lokukhulelwa akunandaba nayiphi na enye ngaphandle koko unokulawula. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukhulelwe, ukufumanisa ngokukhawuleza, kuya kuba luncedo ekunakekeleni ukunakekelwa kwangaphambi kokubeletha nokwenza ukhetho olukhuselekileyo kuwe nentsapho yakho.