Hlala ekhaya: Mfumana ukuxinwa kwengcinezelo oyifunayo!
Ukuhlala ekhaya umama angabonakala enomsebenzi olula, kodwa ngokwenene, kubandakanya ukuxinzezeleka okukhulu. Abantu abaninzi (kubandakanywa nabamama ngokwabo iintsuku zabo zokuhlala-ekhaya-ekhaya) banokucinga ngokuphila komama wokuhlala-ekhaya njengomtya ongapheliyo wokuphucula ama-tea-parties, imidlalo yokuzonwabisa yama-dominoes, okanye ( ngokoqobo) ukuhamba epakini.
Umama-ekhaya ungabandakanya ezo zinto, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo 'kukhwaza epakini' (ukuba kuthathwa amathoyizi okanye isanti ingena kwamehlo amancinane), 'kukhwela ngepaki' (ukuba i-iloli yekrimu ibonisa kwaye umama akafuni ukuthenga), okanye 'ukuwa kwepaki' (ukususela ekuphelelweni kokuzama ukugcina abantwana abancinci yonke imini)!
Abahlala ekhaya -baninzi babo - bahlala befumana ukuhamba ukusuka ngexesha (okanye abantwana babo) bavuka ekuseni baze bafike belele embhedeni ebusuku. Xa abantwana belele, lixesha lokuhlambulula emva kokuzonwabisa okanye ukunika ingqalelo uTata. Umsebenzi omthandayo kakhulu, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo ukhangeleka ukhululekile ngaphandle!
(Akunjalo ukuthetha ukuba omama abasebenza baxineke kakhulu, kwaye baninzi abaxinzelelo babo bafana, kwaye ngamnye umama usebenza nzima ukuba abe yinto engcono kunazo zonke abantwana abakwaziyo ukuzifunda.
Iingcebiso ezilandelayo zingancedisa ukuhlala ekhaya kumama zigcina ubuncwane kwaye zixinzelele ekuphumuleni kwabo ubomi.
Cwangcisa phambili kwaye Ulungelelaniswe
Ukuzicwangcisa ubuchule obubalulekileyo bokuhlala kumama, njengokuba kusebenza kumama. Ukuba unako ukukulindela izibangela zokudabuka, ukuhamba-kwindlu kudinga, kunye nezinye izibande zengcinezelo, uzakufumana iingxaki ezimbalwa.
Ukuba uceba kwangaphambili kwaye uhlaziye umzila wakho, akukho nto ixubushayo, ukulibala izinto, nokugxininisa njengoko uhamba ngosuku lwakho oluxakekileyo.
Setha imida
Ngaphambi kokuba ube nezingane, imisebenzi osebenze yayinexesha elithile lokuqala kunye namaxesha okugqibela; ngoku u-call ngexesha lonke nobusuku! Kwaye, ngenxa yokuba 'awusebenzi', mhlawumbi kulindeleke ukuba uzinikele ngokwengeziwe, cwangcisa imisebenzi emininzi, kwaye ugcine indlu ingenabala, nayo!
Ukuba ukuhlala ekhaya kumama akuyibeki imida, banokuthatha ngokulula umsebenzi ophezulu kunabantu ababini okanye abathathu banokusingatha kakuhle, kwaye baxhomekeke ekutshiseni kwinkqubo. (Jonga eli nqaku malunga nokubeka izinto eziphambili.)
Hlala uxhumeke
Esinye sezizathu ezibalulekileyo abafazi abakhethayo ukuhlala-ekhaya ekhaya kumama ukuba bakwazi ukuhambelana nabantwana babo yonke imini kwaye banandiphe ixesha elilodwa lokukhula kwabo. Ukongezelela, umsebenzi wendlu makwenziwe, kufuneka kwenziwe isidlo, kwaye abantwana badinga imisebenzi yentlalo. Ngelishwa, ngamanye amaxesha ama-moms agqiba ukuzama ukugqithisa le miqathango ngokupheka kwizidlo ezidliwayo, ukugcina indlu ingenabala, kunye nokungena kumbuthano 'omama okhuphisanayo oncinci malunga nenkxaso kunye nokuxinzeleleka kunokuba kufanelekile! Khumbula oko kubaluleke kakhulu: ixesha elifanelekileyo kunye nabantwana bakho! Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba usebenza kanzima ukugcina yonke imifanekiso-epheleleyo, vumela indlu ibe yinto encinane, fumana iindlela zokupheka ezilula kunye nezilula, kwaye ujonge kunye nezingane zakho. Zikhula ngokukhawuleza! (Jonga eli nqaku malunga neengxaki zokuxinwa kwengcinezelo.)
Zikhathalele
Njengoko usuvele uyayazi, ukuba awunako konke okusemandleni akho nangokomzwelo, awuyi kuba yinto engcono kakhulu kubantwana bakho.
Ukugcina uhlobo lwesigxina olufunekayo ukuqhubeka kunye nezingane zonke iintsuku, kubalulekile ukuba ahlale ekhaya kwikhaya ukuba bazinakekele ngendlela abanakekela ngayo abantwana babo: ngokufumana ubuthongo obuninzi, ukutya okunempilo, kwaye ubuncinane " ixesha eliphantsi. " Kwakhona kubalulekile ukufumana impendulo emihle (ngohlobo lwe-hugs) ukuphepha ukutshiswa. (Jonga ezi nkqubo zokuzinyamekela iingcamango.)
Cela uncedo
Ukuhlala emakhaya omama bahlala bekulindeleke ukuba benze yonke into enxulumene nokunakekelwa ekhaya kunye nokunyamekelwa kwabantwana, kwaye oko kubakhokelela ixesha elincinci lokuzinakekela. Yenza umsebenzi wakho ube lula ngokucela uncedo lwabantwana kunye neqabane lakho.
Abantwana bayakwazi ukuguqula i-Stiffer, bathathe izitya, bancede banakeke ukutya. Nangona abantwana abaselula banokukunceda ngemisebenzi ethile yasekhaya, njengama-socks afanayo xa uhlamba impahla. Unokuthengisa urhwebo nabangane. Kukho iindlela eziqhelekileyo zokuqesha uncedo olungathengiyo ngezinto ezinje ezifana nokucoca okanye ukupheka, ukwenza impilo yomama ibe nzima. Kanti ukhetho lokunikezela imisebenzi kubantwana ludlalwa. Ukuhlala unina kumama, ukucela uncedo yindlela efanelekileyo yokwenza ubomi buncinci, kungabi nantoni 'yokwenza konke', nokukhulisa abantwana abanokuzithemba.
Gxininisa kwiCress Management
Xa bexinekile kwaye bexinezelekile, ukuhlala-ekhaya-mama bafumana ukuba banako ukuxhamla nabantwana babo okanye iqabane, oku kunokukhokelela ekusebenziseni abantwana, umtshato ophikisanayo kunye nezinye izinto ezandisa ukhathazeka kwabamama kunye zabo intsapho. Ngoko ke, ukuthatha isigxina ngokufanelekileyo ekulawuleni uxinzelelo kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba noxinzelelo olukhawulezayo lokuxininisa ngesandla, njengendlela yokuphefumula kunye neendlela zokumelana nokuphefumula (iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokujonga imeko esicinezelekileyo), kunye nezicwangciso zokulawula uxinzelelo lwexesha elide, njengendlela yokuzilolonga rhoqo okanye ukucamngca, ukuzonwabisa, okanye ukuxhasa isangqa sentlalo, kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo olubalulekileyo lokuhlala kumama kunye neentsapho zabo.
Ukongezelela kule miqathango yokulawulwa kwengcinezelo yamama-ekhaya, kubalulekile (kwaye kaninzi kunqatshelwe) ukugcina ingcinezelo yabantwana engqondweni. Nangona abantwana abancinci banokuzuza kwiinkqubo zoxinzelelo zoxinzelelo ezifana nokuphefumula, ixesha lokuthula nomama, kunye nokuxuba. Ngenxa yokuba oomama nabantwana abancinci banamathelana, ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kwintoni enye nomama.
Ukufumana inkxaso eninzi, jonga ezi zixhobo zolawulo lwexinzelelo.