Nangona ubudala bomama bokuqala boomama nabantwana ababele abantwana baseUnited States bekhuphuke ngokukhawuleza kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, abaninzi abafazi basenomama kwiminyaka yabo yokuqala. Ngokomzekelo, iifomanani zakutshanje ezivela kwi-CDC zisitshela ukuba izinga lokuzalwa kwabasetyhini abaneminyaka engama-20 ukuya ku-24 lalingama-79 ngokuzalwa kwabafazi abayi-1 000.
Njengoko abanye besetyhini balinda kude kube ne-30 okanye ngaphezulu ukuqala ukuba nabantwana, kunokuba nzima ukuba oomama abancinci bazi kakuhle indlela yokuhamba njengomntu omdala kunye nokuba nomntwana.
Ngexesha elivakalelwa ngathi uninzi lwama-twenty-somethings alinakudlulela ngaphandle kwezindlu zabo zabazali kwiminyaka yabo engama-20, makungabikho nje ukukhulisa abantwana, kuba ngumama osemncinci onokuvakalelwa.
Kodwa ukuba ungumama omncinci, akufanele uhlazeke. Kukho nabanye abaninzi besetyhini ababa ngamama kuma-20 kunye nabasetyhini abaninzi bafumana amaninzi amancedo ekuqalekeni kwintsapho yabo ngaphambili, njengokuba kukho ukuguquguquka komsebenzi kwimisebenzi yabo kunye nokhetho olungakumbi lokuzala. Ukuba ungumama osemncinci okanye ucinga ukuba ngumama osemncinane, nakhu iziphakamiso zokugubungela unina kwiminyaka yakho engama-20.
Zinike ixesha lokufumana umonde wakho
Ukuba unenkxalabo yokuba nokuba nosana ebusweni ubomi kuya kuthetha ukuba uya kulahlekelwa yiminqweno yakho namaphupha, cinga kwakhona. Abaninzi abasetyhini abanabantwana kwiminyaka engama-20 baye bafumanisa ukuba ukuba nomntwana kwasekuqaleni ebomini uye wabancedisa ukuba bafumane iinjongo zabo, nokuba ngaba yinto yokuzilibazisa, ukubuyela okanye ukugqiba isikolo, okanye ukulandela umsebenzi wephupha.
Akukho sikhuthazo sokwazi umntwana wakho ukhangele ukuba ufikelele kwiinkwenkwezi. Yaye ukwazi ukuba unethuba lokufumanisa oko uphuphayo ngamaphupha akho kunokukuthuthuzela, nangona ungaqinisekanga ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba izifiso zakho ziphi.
Fumana Iimali Zakho kwiNkundla
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ongayenza njengomama oselula usebenzisa iminyaka yobudala ukuba uzuze xa ufika ekulondolozeni ikusasa.
Gxuma kwiingcebiso malunga nendlela yokugcina imali xa unesana , qalisa uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali, uqonde ukuba yeyiphi indleko yomshuwalense wezempilo oya kuba nayo, kwaye ulondoloze umhlalaphantsi. Misela ukuqeshwa nomcebisi wezezimali ukukunceda ukuba uqalise ukulondoloza umhlalaphantsi wakho ngoku ngenxa yokuba xa usemncinci, ukugcina imali encinci kuya kuhlawula ixesha elide ngexesha elide. Umcebisi unokukunceda ukuba uqalise inkqubo yokulondoloza umntwana wakho.
Fumana Uncedo lokuhlawula iKholeji
Kukho iinkqubo ezininzi zoncedo ezifumaneka kubantwana abancinci kwiikholeji. Ukuba ukholeji okanye uceba ukuya ekolishi kwaye okwamanje ukhulelwe, qi niseka ukuba uquka umntwana wakho kwifomu yakho yeF FAFSA. Ukuba umhla wakho wokugqibela uwela ngexesha lonyaka wesikolo, unakho ukufumana uncedo olongezelelweyo lwemali ngokufaka umntwana wakho njengomxhomekeke xa ufaka iphepha lakho lephepha. Kukho kaninzi amanqaku amaninzi ahlala kwindawo yangasese nakwii-eyimfihlo afumanekayo kumama omncinci eklasini, ngoko cela umcebisi ngezezimali ukuba zeziphi iinkqubo ezikhoyo kwiziko lakho.
Yamukela Iingenelo zoMama abaselula
Kubonakala ngathi ukuthetha ngokwezinto eziphilayo, imizimba yethu yenzelwe ukuba neentsana ezingama-20. Izifundo zibonisa ukuba incinci (abaselula) kunye nomama omdala (abangaphantsi kwama-35) banenkxalabo eninzi nayo yonke into ukusuka ekukhulelweni ukuya ekuhambisweni, ngoko ke ukuba uneminyaka engama-22 kwaye ugubungela ukukhulelwa kwakho kokuqala, qiniseka ukuba umzimba wakho unokukubulela ngoku, nokuba uvakalelwa ngathi 'usemncinane.'
Ekupheleni, ixesha elilodwa "elifanelekileyo" lokuba nomntwana xa lixesha elifanelekileyo kuwe. Kodwa njengokuba uluntu lwethu luhambela oomama kunye neentsapho ezineentsana kamva, oomama abancinci bangadinga inkxaso eyongezelelweyo ekulungiseleleni nasekungeneni kwabazali. Oomama abathile banamathuba okuba nabantwana beselula kwaye xa befika kuwo, kwaye unina kunanoma yiphi ubudala ubudala unokufumana inzuzo kwizibonelelo ezimbalwa ezincedo kunye neengcebiso zokuhamba ngomzali. A