Inyaniso: AmaMama Abenetyala lokuNikwa kweNkxaso yabantwana abangabhaulwanga, Njalo
Ibinzana elithi "ufile" ngumntu oqhelekileyo, kodwa ke kaninzi ukusetyenziswa kakubi. Nangona igama elithi "ukubulala" liyabonakala nakwezinye izikhokelo zokuxhasa abantwana, akubona bonke abazali abaye bawa emva kweentlawulo zokuxhasa abantwana banqabe ngokwabo ukuxhasa abantwana babo ngemali. Ukongezelela, ukuxhaswa kwabantwana abangakhokhelwa nako kungabonwa ngabasetyhini. Yintoni ebaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba iilebula zijongene nombandela wangempela.
Nantsi into enokuyenza xa uye wabizwa ngokuthi "ubaba obulalayo" okanye ukuba uzama ukuphinda uxhase abantwana abangabhataleli egameni labantwana bakho.
Yintoni "u-Deadbeat Dad" okanye "Umama obulalayo"?
Xa umzali elelwa yinkantolo ukuba ahlawule umxhaso wabantwana rhoqo, kodwa ehluleka ukwenza njalo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ubizwa ngokuqhelekileyo ngokuthi "umzali obulalayo." Eli gama lenkcenkceshe lisetyenziselwa umgaqo-mthethweni wezinye iinjongo, kwaye kaninzi kuqondwa kakuhle. Abazali abawela emva kokuxhaswa kwabantwana ngenxa yokulahleka kwemisebenzi okanye iimeko ezingalindelekanga azikho "izifele." I-termbebeat yegama eliqhelekileyo ligcinwa kulabo baneendlela zokuhlawula kodwa bangakhethi. Abazali abafuna ukuxhasa abantwana babo, kodwa abavumelekanga ngokusemthethweni ukuhlawula bangafanelekile ukulungiswa kwabantwana.
Iingqungquthela
"Abazali be-Deadbeat" kunye "nabazali bokufa" abahambelani. Akunabo bonke abazali ababulalayo ababawo, kwaye akubona bonke ootata abangabikho okhokelela ekuncedeni abantwana.
Enyanisweni, kukho ininzi yabamama abaye bayalawulwa ukuba bahlawule inkxaso yabantwana kodwa behluleka ukwenza njalo rhoqo njengoko ubona kwiimimandla ezipapashile uluhlu lwabazali babo abafuna ukufa kakhulu.
Nangona kunjalo, ukubala, kuyinyani ukuba inani elikhulu lamadoda liyalwa ukuba lihlawule inkxaso yabantwana kunabesifazane.
Ngoko kuyacaca ukuba, ngokulandelelana, abaninzi oomata babeya kuphinda bawa emva kweentlawulo zokuxhasa abantwana kunomama. Nangona kunjalo, umntu akakwazi ukuhlola umbandela wokuxhaswa kwabantwana abangakhokhelwa ngaphandle kokuqaphela ukuba kukho amadoda namabhinqa avumele ukuxhasa abantwana ukuba bangabikhokhelwa. Ngoko ngoxa iileyibhile idlalwa kubabawo, akuyiyo nje ingxaki yamadoda.
Iziphumo
Kwimizamo yokunciphisa impembelelo yokuxhaswa kwabantwana abangahlawulwa, ithi ibeke imiphumo emininzi kubazali abawela emva kweentlawulo zokuxhasa abantwana, kuquka:
- Ukuhlawula ukuhlawula
- Ukula ukuvumela umzali ukuba athole ipasipoti esemthethweni
- Ukuthintela ukuhlawulwa kwemisebenzi
- Ukugxotha ukubuyiselwa kwemali yentlawulo ye-federal kunye / okanye karhulumente
- Ukunyanzeliswa kwejele
Thatha isenzo xa i-Child Support Checks i-Stop Coming
Ukuba wakho okwangoku uhlawula abantwana bakho ukubuyisela iintlawulo zokuxhasa abantwana, qha ga mshelana ne-Ofisi yakho yoLondolozo lweNkxaso yaseKhaya kwaye ufake ingxelo. Yilungiselele ukubonelela iinkcukacha malunga neentlawulo ezingekhoyo, kubandakanywa nemihla kunye nexabiso leedola, kunye naluphi na ulwazi onalo malunga neli dilesi yakho yokugqibela eyaziwayo.
Uncedo lwabazali abakwazi ukuhlawula
Abanye abazali abafumana kwiimbuyiselo nje abanalo imali yokuhlawula iintlawulo zokuxhasa abantwana. Kwezinye iimeko, iintlawulo zingadinga ukulungiswa ukuze zibonise imali eyona mivuzo.
Kwamanye amaxesha, umzali unelungelo lokuxhasa abantwana kangangokuba imali ayiyi kuhlawulwa ngokupheleleyo. Ukujongana nale nkxalabo, amanye amazwe sele aqalise ukubonelela iinkqubo zokuxolelwa kwabantwana apho kuxhaswa iintlawulo ezihlanganisiweyo kunye nenkxaso engabhadalwa ngabantwana xa kunokuba umzali aqale ukubuyisela iintlawulo.
Isilumkiso Ngokuxhasa Inkxaso Yomntwana kunye noTyelelo
Abazali abaninzi banokukhungatheka kwaye baqala ukuzibuza ukuba kufuneka bafune ukuvakasha ukwenzela ukuba benze iphuzu. Nangona kunjalo, enkundleni, ukuxhaswa kwabantwana kunye nokugcinwa kwabantwana kukho imibandela ehlukeneyo. Emehlweni omthetho, umzali obhatala imali yentlawulo yokuxhasa abantwana unelungelo lokutyelela nomntwana.
Ngenxa yoko, nawuphi na umzali ohluphekileyo ngenxa yokulahlekelwa kweentlawulo zenkxaso yabantwana kufuneka athathe amanyathelo akhankanywe ngasentla endaweni yokutyelela ukutyelela. Ukungavumi ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba atyelele umzali-ntsebenziswano ngenxa yokuba uncedwa ngumntwana ongenakhokhelwa unokuphazamisa ukuma kwakho okuhle neenkundla.