Kubalulekile ukunika intsha imilayezo emihle malunga nokukwazi kwabo ukudala i-future future. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, injongo enenjongo, imiyalezo 'yokuvuselela' inokwenzakalisa ingozi ngaphezu kokulungileyo.
Nazi iimpawu eziyisixhenxe ongazifanele uzinike umntwana wakho.
1. Ungalokothi Ulahleke kwiingubo zakho
Nangona kubalulekile ukuba namaphupha, akufanele usenokuthi ukuhamba kude nephupha kuyafana nokuyeka.
Ngamanye amaxesha, kufuneka uvumele ukuphupha kwelinye iphupha ukuze wenze indawo yamaphupha amatsha.
Ukuba umntwana wakho akabhalwa yi-NFL ngeli xesha aphendulela kwi-45, mhlawumbi ixesha lokuyeka loo phupha. Ngoko kunokuba uthumele umyalezo omele uqhubeke uzama, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yindleko, fundisa wakho umntwana ukuba kukho ixesha elifanelekileyo ukuyeka okanye ukutshintsha iinjongo zakho.
Umyalezo olungcono - "Beka iinjongo zakho eziphezulu, kodwa qhubeka uguquke kuba iinjongo zakho zingatshintsha ngexesha."
2. Phishekela Ukunyamekela Kwakho Xa Ukhetha Umsebenzi
Lo myalezo ungenangqiqo ngezizathu ezimbalwa. Okokuqala, abaninzi abaselula banomdla ngeendaba zoluntu kunye ne-pizza-ubuncinci kweli nqanaba lobomi babo. Bambalwa abatsha bayazi ukuba zithandwa ngokwenene, okanye nokuba yintoni ekhona apho ukuba ube nomdla.
Okwesibini, umntwana wakho unokuqala ukukholelwa ukuba yindlela eyoyonwabile ngayo ebomini kukuba enze umsebenzi owenza unomdla kakhulu. Kodwa, ngamanye amaxesha, imisebenzi yokuzilibazisa iyonwaba xa ihlala ihlala izithabiso.
Ukwenza imali izinto ozithandayo zingenza uvuyo.
Umyalezo olungcono - "Nantoni na oyenzayo, yenza okusemandleni akho kwaye ukhumbule ukuba unokukhetha ukonwaba, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenzekani."
3. Hlala Ulandela Intliziyo Yakho
Abantu abadala abadala- banemvakalelo engenangqondo . Ukuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba usekele izigqibo zobomi kwiimvakalelo zakhe kunokukhokelela kwiingozi ezinkulu, ukunyaniseka ngokukhawuleza kunye nokuziphatha okungaqinisekiyo.
Fundisa wakho umntwana ukuba alinganise iimvakalelo zakhe ngeengcamango, ngoko unokuphila ubomi obonwabisayo-kodwa obomeleleyo-ubomi.
Umyalezo olungcono - "Intliziyo yakho inokukukhohlisa. Uya kwenza izigqibo ezilungileyo ebomini xa ulinganisela iimvakalelo zakho ngeengcinga."
4. Khawucinge ngokucokisekileyo
Xa intombazana yakho ithi ukhathazekile malunga nendlela awayeyenza ngayo kwilo vavanyo lwezesayensi, okanye uziva enganeliseki malunga nesicelo sakhe sasekholeji, ukumxelela ukuba "acinge ngokuqinisekileyo" akuncedi. Iingcamango zakhe aziyi kuphazamisa umphumo emva kokuba sele esenza oko angakwenza.
Ukucinga ngokuqinisekileyo akuyi kunceda ngandlela-thile ukuphumeza uvavanyo aluzange alufundisise kunye nokuvutha okulungileyo akuyi kubangela ukuba umqeqeshi amkhethele iqela lebhokisi. Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zakho zentsha kodwa ungazami ukumkhulula ekungcoleni kwakhe ngokuzama ukumqinisekisa ukuba iingcamango zakhe ezintle zinamandla omlingo.
Umyalezo olungcono - "Hlanganisa iingcamango ezilungileyo kunye nesenzo esihle ukuba ufuna ukubona iziphumo ezilungileyo."
5. Awufanele Unyamekele Ngayiphi na enye into ecinga ngayo
Nangona umntwana wakho engafanele akhathalele ukuba ubani ocinga, kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho akhathalele oko abanye abantu bacinga. Umntwana wakho kufuneka afune ukuba abahlobo bakhe kunye neentsapho bamhlonele kwaye kubalulekile ukuba aphathe abanye ngobubele.
Umyalezo olungcono - "Gqiba iimbono ozixabisa ngayo ebomini uze udibanise izimvo zabangenandaba nawe."
6. Into elungileyo iya kuza
Ukuzama ukukunceda umntwana wakho ukuba azive ngcono emva kokukhanyeka kwakhe kunye nesithembiso sento engcono akuyona into efanelekileyo. Ingaba i-adolescence yakho yachithwa ngumhla wokumisa, okanye akazange enze iqela lebhola lebhola lebhola lebhola lebhola, akukho nto inokuthi ilungile into elindelekileyo kwixesha elizayo.
Ithemba lobuxoki liza kubonelela ngokukhawuleza ixesha elifutshane. Fundisa wakho umntwana ukuba akwazi ukujongana nokuhluleka nokuchaswa ngendlela enempilo .
Umyalezo olungcono - "Ukuphazamiseka akunakukhathazeka, kodwa inxalenye yobomi. Ungakwazi ukuguqula ukungaphumeleli kwithuba lokufunda."
7. Unako ukuphumeza nantoni na oyifunayo ebomini
Nangona oku kuvakalelwa njengomyalezo okhuthazayo phezulu, le ngcamango ingaba yingozi. Inyaniso kukuba, wonke umntu unemiqathango. Ngoko ukuba wakho umntwana usemngeni obaluleke kakhulu, akanako ukukwazi ukuba ngumNxweme weNavy. Okanye, ukuba engenayo italente yomculo, akanakuze ahlawule ingxelo enkulu.
Ukumxelela ukuba unokwenza into ayifunayo kubonisa ukuba umsebenzi onzima uya kumnceda ukuba aphumeze nantoni na-kungakhathaliseki ukuba iinjongo ezingenangqiqo okanye iinjongo zakhe zingabikho. Kodwa inyaniso kukuba, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni umzamo awafaka ngayo, kukho izinto ezithile engazange azifeze. Ukuba akalokothi athabathe ukuphuka okukhulu ebomini, ukuhlambalaza ukubonisa ukuba kungenxa yokuba akafunanga okwaneleyo.
Umyalezo ongcono - "Umsebenzi okhuni uza kukuthabatha ebomini, kodwa wonke umntu unemiqathango. Gxininisa oko ungakulawula kwaye ukwamkele oko kungaphaya kolawulo lwakho."