Ngaba ukhungathekile ngokuzama ukuqonda intetho esemthethweni esetyenzisiweyo kwimeko yakho yokugcina umntwana? Ngokomzekelo, ngaba ufuna ukucaciswa ngokucacileyo kokugcinwa kwengxelo yomthetho ukuze uqonde indlela ehluke ngayo ekugcinweni komzimba? Awuyedwa, kwaye inokudideka. Nantsi into ekufuneka uyazi malunga nenjongo yokugcinwa komthetho ngokusemthethweni, kunye neenzuzo kunye neengxaki zalolu hlobo oluthile lokugcinwa kwabantwana:
Inkcazo yokuBambisana noMthetho
Ukugcinwa komthetho ngokusemthethweni kuthetha ukuba bobabini abazali banegunya lomthetho lokwenza izigqibo ezinkulu kumntwana. Ezi ziquka izigqibo malunga nemfundo, inkolo, kunye nonyango.
Abazali kufuneka baqonde kwakhona ukuba ukugcinwa kwezomthetho kuhluke ekugcinweni komzimba. Ngamanye amazwi, kunokwenzeka ukuba abazali-codi babelane ngokugcinwa komthetho kodwa bangabelani ngokugcinwa komzimba. Ngoko ke, abazali abafanelekanga ukutolika isigwebo sokugcinwa komthetho ngokusemthethweni njengombonakaliso ukuba inkundla inokunika inkxaso yokugcina. Kuqhelekile ukuba abazali bahlanganyele ngokugcinwa kwezomthetho nangona abantwana behlala ngokukodwa nomzali omnye kunye nokuvakashelwa rhoqo kunye nomnye.
Iinkonzo
Abazali baqwalasela iindlela zabo zokugcina ulondolozo kufuneka baqikelele okulandelayo 'inzuzo' yokugcinwa komthetho ngokusemthethweni:
- Abazali ababelana ngokugcinwa komthetho ngokusemthethweni kufuneka baqhubeke bexhulumana ukuze bafikelele kwizigqibo ezidibeneyo. Nangona omnye abazali okanye bobabili abazali bebanqabile ekuqaleni, isiphumo sinokuba luncedo kumntwana.
- Ngexesha, iqondo elithile lokuphumelela linokufikelela phakathi kwabazali njengoko befunda umzali-codi ngokubambisana.
- Abantwana bazuza ngokubona abazali babo bebenzisana ngokunyanileyo, ngokucacileyo ukubonisa oko kuthetha ukuthintela kunye nokusebenza ngokungahambelani ngendlela ephilileyo.
- Ukuzali kuba yinkqubo enamandla. Kuza kwenzeka ukuba uphakamise kwaye uphuphe phambili (cinga: iminyaka yeshumi elivisayo.) Yonke intsapho ihamba nale nto, kwaye xa kwenzeka, igalelo lomzali wakho-mzali lingahle libe lihle kodwa liyakwamkela. Oku kuyinyani ngokukhethekileyo kwizigqibo ezinkulu malunga nemfundo kunye nokunakekelwa kwezokwelapha.
Umxhasi
- Kunzima ukusebenzisana kwizigqibo ezibalulekileyo. Akukho nhlobo 'indlela yokuhamba' yinto ekufuneka ibukeke ngayo okanye yintoni impumelelo.
- Kukho amaxesha apho kungenakukwazi ukubonisana ngaphambi kokufikelela kwisigqibo.
- Abazali abaninzi bakhononda ukuba inkqubo, ngamanye amaxesha, inokusetyenziswa. Umzekelo, xa omnye umzali egxeka ukuba omnye 'kufuneka' enze oko akufunayo kuba babelana ngokugcinwa komthetho.
- Ukuphoqelelwa kwabazali ababini ukuba basebenzisane akuqinisekisi ukuba baya kuvunywa okanye babonise izakhono zoqhagamshelwano ezinokwenene nabazali.
Xa uMthetho oManyeneyo woMthetho usebenza kakuhle
Ukugcinwa komthetho ngokusemthethweni kuyona nto ilungele abazali abaye babonisa ukuzimisela ukusebenza kunye nokwenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo kumntwana wabo. Ngamava am, kuyona nto ingcono xa umzali engabambeleli omnye okanye engafuni ukuthetha-okwenzekayo, ngelanga.
Kwiphepha le-flip, inkundla kufuneka iqaphele ukuba ingabaniki-mvume ngokusemthethweni kwiimeko apho omnye umzali engathembekiyo okanye unembali 'yokukhangela' kwaye ungabikho kokuthinta ixesha elide. Izakhono zonxibelelwano zibalulekile ekwenzeni lo msebenzi wolungiselelo lokugcinwa kwabantwana, kwaye ungaya ngasemzantsi ngokukhawuleza ukuba ngaba abazali bobabini bangekho ebhodini.