Iingcebiso ezi-5 zokujongana nezingane zakho 'Izikhalazo ngeeveki zeeveki
Xa kufika ukutyelela ngeveki, uvile zonke izizathu eziphantsi kwelanga. "Ndinomsebenzi omkhulu wesikolo." "Kunzima kakhulu! Akukho nto yokwenza endlwini kayise." "Ndiyicinezele umama akayi kubakhathalela ukuba andiyi kuhamba. Akaphulaphuli nantoni na endithethayo, nangoko." Ngaphantsi kwesi sililo kukhona ukukhungatheka okuqhubekayo: ukhathele ukuva xa umntwana wakho ekhononda ngokutyelela.
Okubi kakhulu, kunjalo, uloyiko akuyi kuba ngcono. Ngaphambi kokungena kwixhala, cinga ngala macebiso ngelixa elizayo umntwana wakho egxina malunga nokuchitha ixesha kunye nawe.
Indlela Yokujamelana Nayo Xa Umntwana Wakho Ukhazela Ngetyelelo
- Mamela xa umntwana wakho ekhononda ngokuhambela . Namela ingqalelo nayiphi na eyenza iindlebe zakho zenzeke. Futhi sebenzisa umthambo wakho ukuhlukanisa izikhalazo ezindala, okanye 'ezincinci' kwezikhalazo ezivela kwimibandela enokuthi ingqalelo ngokukhawuleza-njengengxaki malunga nokukhuselwa kokuvakasha. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho okhulayo akafuni ukuphoswa ngexesha kunye nabangani bakhe, isizathu esinengqiqo kunye nesidala sokuba ufuna ukuhlala ecaleni kweedolophu. Kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci ukhononda ngee-stomachaches emva kokutyelela, lelinye ibali. Isisombululo sinokuba sisilula nje ukugubha ukutya kwakhe ngexesha lokutyelela ukunciphisa ukutya okutyhukela okanye ubusuku bobusuku, kodwa isikhalazo esimele siqwalasele.
- Thetha ngombandela ovulekileyo . Isinyathelo esilandelayo kukuthetha nomntwana wakho malunga nomcimbi. Ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko, unokuthetha ngokufanelekileyo xa umntwana wakho eqala ukukhalaza malunga nokuchitha ixesha kunye ne-ex yakho, okanye unokubeka eceleni ixesha elikhethekileyo lokungena kwi-issue. Fumana into eyiyo intliziyo yezikhalazo zomntwana wakho. Ngaba kukho into evakalelwa kukuba ulahlekile xa ehamba naye? Okanye ngaba kukho into ephazamisayo malunga nokuba endlwini yakho yangaphambili efuna ukujongana nayo? Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba avule kwaye akhulume ngento aziva ngayo ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda kakuhle ingxaki.
- Fumana yakho yangaphambili . Emva koko, kuya kufuneka udibanise umcimbi kunye nowekho. Ukuba unobungozi bobuhlobo bobuhlobo bomzali, mhlawumbi sele usenokuxoxa rhoqo ngeendlela abantwana bakho abazenza ngayo. Yintoni enokuba yinkathazo xa kufuneka uvumele ukuba uyazi malunga nesikhalazo ocinga ukuba ufuna ukujongana naye ekhaya, kodwa engayakwaziyo ngaphambili. Kukunceda ukubeka umba nje ngokuba ulwabelana ngolwazi oluthemba ukuba uya kukwabelana nawe ukuba imeko iguquliwe. Ibhonasi yebhonasi: hamba enye inyathelo kwaye uqinisekise ukuba wakho uya kukuxelela lo hlobo lwento ngexesha elithile, naye. Ukuvuma nje ukuba uya kuba nesabelo sakho sezikhalazo ezifanayo ngexesha elifanelekileyo unokuhamba ngendlela ende ekuvuseleleni ukuzithemba kunye neyokuqala.
- Imephu isisombululo . Sebenza kunye ne-ex yakho ukuze ufumane isisombululo. Ukuba unezinye iimbono sele uzibeke etafileni. Ukulungiswa kwakhona kweeshedyuli kunye neentsuku zokutshintshana kungabi lula, kodwa kuyafaneleka ukuqikelela ukuba kunceda ukulungiswa komntwana wakho. Cinga ngendlela oye waphatha ngayo imiba efana nayo ekhaya, naye. Xa unesiluleko esibalulekileyo sokuba wabelane, siyibeke ngendlela efanelekileyo. Umdala wakho uya kuba ovulekileyo ukuva ulwabelana nento eyenziwe ngaphambili, kunye nemimiselo ethile, kunokuba uvile 'umxelele' ukuba wenzeni. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uyakhonkxa emva kokutyelela kuba engalali ngokukhawuleza, zama ukuthi: "Sasihlala neendleko zokulala kwindlu yam, kunye nantoni na. ukwabelana ngeengxaki zakho kunye nezisombululo zakho kunokukunceda ukuba ube nencoko engakumbi malunga nezixazululo ezinokwenzeka xa umntwana wakho egxina malunga nokuchitha ixesha kunye nawe.
- Khangela oko kusebenzayo kwaye ubuyekeze isicwangciso sakho phezu kwexesha . Nantsi inyathelo edlalwa yiyo: ukunika izicwangciso zakho ukuzama ukuvavanya kwakhona. Ukuba lusebenza, lukhulu. Buyela uye uvumele ukuba wazi ukuba ubona umehluko. Yenza iingxoxo ngokulandelelana nomntwana wakho, ngokunjalo, malunga noko kukunceda kunye nendlela aziva ngayo. Kwaye njengoko ufuna, sebenzisana ne-ex yakho ukuze ulungise isicwangciso sakho. Mhlawumbi ucinga ukutshintsha ubusuku buya kuthatha ingxaki, kwaye ayikho. Buyela ebhodini lokudweba uze uhlale kuyo uze ufumane isisombululo esisebenzela intsapho yakho. Akusilela ukuqala kwakhona. Inxalenye yenkqubo.
Indlela yokungenelela ngayo xa ubuhlobo bomntwana bakho kunye ne-Ex yakho ye-Falling apart
Xa umntwana wakho egxina malunga nokutyelelwa, unokhathazeka ukuba umbandela wangempela uhamba kunye neyokuqala kwakho. Kwaye xa kwenzeka oko, ukusabela okuqhelekileyo kwamadolo kukutsala iplagi ngokutyelela. Kunoko, yenza okusemandleni akho ukukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba ahlanganyele iimvakalelo zakhe ngokuvulekileyo. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, misela ixesha apho abathathu kuni banokuthetha nokusebenza njengomququzeleli. Kungaba nzima kubafundi kunye nentsha ukuzithetha, ngakumbi xa bevakalisa izikhalazo ezinokuba nzima kuwe nangaphandle kwakho ukuva. Sebenzisa amagama anjengaye athi "Yintoni endikuvayo ukuthi kukuthi ..." kwaye "Yenza ukuba uzive njani?"
Zama ukuqeda ingxoxo kwinqanaba elihle kwaye ukhumbule ukuba kuya kuthatha ixesha lokulungisa izinto ezidlulileyo kwaye ufike kwindawo engcono kulwalamano. Yiba nenkxaso umntwana wakho ayifunayo ngeli xesha kwaye ukhuthaze yakho ex ukuze ugcine ingqondo evulekile kwaye ube neengxaki kwiinkxalabo zomntwana wakho. Yaye khumbula, kuya kufuneka uhlaziye amanqanaba 1-5 ngaphezu kwamaxesha amaninzi njengoko usebenza ngezikhalazo zomntwana malunga nokuvakasha. Gcina kuyo, kwaye uqaphele ukuphuculwa okuncinci kwindlela. Uya kufika khona!