" Njengotata ongatshatanga, ndifuna ukugcina ngokupheleleyo abantwana bam, kodwa kubonakala ngathi akukho nto." "Ngaba oobawo banamalungelo afanayo njengomama?" "Ngaba obawo banokugcinwa ngokusemthethweni enkundleni okanye ngaba ngokuzenzekelayo bahlezi?"
Le yimibuzo yangempela yabantwana abangatshatanga kwi-US bayabuza. Ngaphambi kokuba ulahlekelwe ukugcinwa ngokupheleleyo kwezingane zakho, zilapha iimpendulo zabazali abangatshatanga.
Ngaba Abantwana Abangabodwa Bangaba neenjongo ezipheleleyo?
Nangona inkundla zibona ukuba zikhethwa ngabazali ukuba babelane ngokugcinwa kwabantwana, kukho iimeko apho iinkundla ziza kuthathelwa ukunikezelwa ngokupheleleyo komzali omnye. Ukongezelela, iinkundla zivumelekile ukuba zibonise naluphi na uhlaselo olunxamnye nooyise, ngoko ukuba unokubonisa ukuba ungumzali ongcono , unalo ithuba lokugcina ngokupheleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka ulungele ukulwa neengxaki zokugcina umntwana ukuba umama womntwana uphinde uceba ukufaka ifom yokugcinwa ngokupheleleyo.
Yazi Ukwahlukana Phakathi Kwezikhundla ezipheleleyo kunye neNkxaso yokuBambisana
Ugcino olupheleleyo lubizwa ngokubhekiselele ekugcinweni kwedwa. Abazali abafuna ukunqoba amalungelo agcinwe ngokupheleleyo kufuneka baqonde ukungafani phakathi kokugcinwa kokugcinwa kunye nokugcinwa ngokubambisana. Ekugqibeleni, inkundla inqwenela ukunika abazali igunya lokubambisana nomntwana. Kwilungiselelo lokubambisana, abazali baxhamla umntwana ngokomzimba kunye / okanye ngokusemthethweni; nangona, ngokulungelelaniswa ngokupheleleyo, umzali omnye unembopheleleko yodwa yomntwana.
Izinto eziqwalaselwe yiiNkundla xa unikezela amalungelo apheleleyo
Umzali ofuna ukuphumelela amalungelo okugcinwa ngokupheleleyo kufuneka awazi ukuba alindele ntoni phambi kwenkundla. Inkundla iya kuqwalasela le miba elandelayo ekuqaliseni ukuba ngabaphi umzali okufanele anqobe amalungelo okugcinwa ngokupheleleyo:
- Ubuntwaba : Ubaba onomdla wokufumana ukugcinwa ngokupheleleyo kwengane kufuneka ukuba wavuma ukuba ngumntwana. Ubawo uvumelekile ukuba avume ukuba ngumntwana ngokusayina isitifiketi sokuzalwa komntwana okanye ngokuvuma ukuba ngumntwana ngexesha lokuzalwa kwakhe enkundleni.
- Ulwalamano lukaYise nomntwana : Ijaji iya kubuza ubuhlobo bomzali nomntwana, phambi kokunikezelwa kwamalungelo agcinwe ngokupheleleyo. Umzali kufanele alungiselele ukuphendula kwimibandela malunga nolwalamano lwakhe nomntwana ngexesha lokugcinwa kwengane. Ijaji iya kubuza malunga nokuhambela okuqhelekileyo kwangaphambili.
- Ulwalamano lomntwana kunye nonina : Inkundla iya kunqikaza ukuphazamisa ilungiselelo lokugcinwa kwabantwana elibonakala lisebenza, ingakumbi ukuba unina womntwana ngumncedisi oyintloko womntwana . Ngokomzekelo, inkundla iya kuqwalasela ukuguqula ilungiselelo lokugcina ukuba umntwana usengozini. Umzekelo, ukuba unina womntwana unesifo sengqondo okanye ukuba umama wengane usebenzisa iziyobisi. Ubaba ofuna ukugcinwa ngokupheleleyo kwengane kufuneka alungiselele ukubonisa ubungqina ukuba utshintsho kwiimeko lufuna ukuba utshintsho olupheleleyo lugcinwe.
Ubaba ofuna ukufumana amalungelo okugcinwa okupheleleyo komntwana kufuneka aqonde ukuba iinkundla ziza kunika amalungelo okutyelela ngomama wengane, njengoko ubudlelwane nabazali bobabini babucingelwa ukuba bayabathanda kakhulu. Ukufumana ulwazi oluthe xaxa malunga nokufumana amalungelo agcinelwe ukugcinwa, abazali kufuneka babhekiselele kwimithetho yokugcinwa komntwana kwimeko yakhe kunye neenkcukacha ezongezelelweyo malunga nendlela yokuphumelela ukugcinwa kwabantwana.
Ulungiswe nguJennifer Wolf.