Ingaba Ingxaki Yokwabelana Ngokubambisana? Cinga ngezi Nzuzo
Ngokuxhomekeke kwindlela o fikile ngayo ukwabelana ngokugcinwa ngokubambisana kunye nawe, ungase ucinge nge 'imivuzo' yelungiselelo lokugcinwa kwabantwana kufuneka linikeze. Nangona uphoqelelwa ukuba uhambe kunye nale fomu yokugcinwa kwabantwana xa kwakungeyona nto ekhethekileyo ngayo, la maxabiso angalindelekanga angakhohlisa. Nangona ezi zicalulo zecala akumele zibe sisona sizathu esona sikhulu sokhetho lokugcinwa ngokubambisana, kufanelekile ukuba sicinge ukuba unenkxalabo ekhangele kwicala eliqaqambileyo lenkundla yokubambisana.
7 Iingeniso eziNcinci ezingaqhelekanga
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Ukwabelana ngomthwalo wokuqeqesha abantwana bakho.Ukwabelana ngomzali ngokwabelana kuthetha ukukwabelana ngolonwabo, imingeni ... kwaye, ewe, noqeqesho. Xa ukwabelana nge-50/50 yokugcinwa ngokubambisana, unethuba lokusebenzisana kunye nomva kunye kunye ngokudala imithetho yomthetho nokunyanzelisa imiphumo efanelekileyo. Indlela yeqela lokuqeqesha ingaba luncedo ngakumbi njengoko abantwana bakho bekhula kwaye bavavanya imida ngeendlela ezintsha. Musa nje ukuwela kwisicupho sokuthembela kumdala ubudala "Linda ade ndixelele unyoko" (okanye ubaba) mantra. Ingongoma kukuqinisa igunya lakho lokuzalwa lomzali, ungabi buthathaka.
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Ukucwangcisa ixesha lokuba ngumzali kunye nexesha lakho elide liya kukuphoqa ukuba ube ngumsebenzi.Kuyavunywa, ungeke ufune ukwabelana ngexesha lokuba ngumzali kunye lakho lokuqala. Kodwa ukuba iinkundla zenze isilungiselelo sokubambisana ngokusemthethweni, kuya kufuneka usebenze kunye ukuze ubone ukuba ixesha lakho liya kuhlulwa. Iishedyuli ezithandwayo zokugcinwa kwamanyathelo zibandakanya rhoqo iintsuku ezithile zeveki, kodwa kukho iindlela ezininzi ozikhethayo. Zama ngeeshedyuli ezahlukeneyo ukubona oko kusebenza kakuhle kubantwana bakho. Omnye ufikile kwixesha eliqingqiweyo, sebenzisa ithuba lokuba ukwazi kwangaphambili iintsuku apho abantwana baya kuba nawe baya kukunyanzela ukuba uhlele phambili, naye. Ngokomzekelo, uyazi ukuba yiyiphi imini yeveki ilungele ukudibana nomhlobo wekhofi okanye uphume ngenxa yeziphuzo emva komsebenzi kunye nabo osebenza nabo. Nangona ukugcinwa kokubambisana akuyiyo into oyithandayo, unokusasebenzisa intsha yentsapho yakho, ishedyuli eyakhelwe ngokuzenzekelayo.
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Ukugcinwa kokubambisana kwenza kube lula ukutshata.Kwakhona, oku akusiyo isizathu sokukhetha ukugcinwa ngokusemthethweni, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo yi-perk. Xa uyazi kakuhle xa iifowuni zakho ziza kuba kunye nawe, ngoko uyazi ukuba ukhululekile ukuba nomhlobo ngaphandle kokuba uqeshe umntwana okanye ufike ekhaya ngexesha elithile. Kuba amaninzi abangamaqabane kunye nabazali bangena kwakhona kwindawo yokuthandana, oku kunceda ukususa enye inkxalabo kwiinkqubo ezinzima zohlobo lomzali ongatshatanga.
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Ukugcinwa okuhlanganyelweyo kwandisa ithuba lokubelana ngeendleko kwizinto zansuku zonke.Nantsi ingqwalasela engundoqo. Xa ukwabelana ngokugcinwa ngokubambisana, ngokuqhelekileyo ugqiba ukukwabelana ngeendleko ezinxulumene nokukhulisa abantwana bakho. Ngoba? Ngenxa yokuba iimfuno zikhulayo ngokusemthethweni. Omnye umntu uhlala ecela ibhodi yeposta yesikolo kwiprojekthi yesikolo, isheke ukukhawulela uhambo olulandelayo lwenkqubela, ukutyhukela ukutya ukuzisa ukudlala ibhola ... kwaye uludwe luqhubeka. Xa abantwana bakho benesithuba sakho sokuqala kwiintsuku ezinikezelweyo, unokulindela ukuba i-ex yakho iya kubakho iindleko ezichaphazelekayo. Oko akutsho ukuba kufuneka uceba ukuba abantwana bakho baxelele ukuba badinga i-$ 400 isheke kwibanga lesibhozo ngohambo lokuhamba ngobusuku ngelixa bahlala kunye nabo, kuba iindleko ezinkulu kufuneka zabelane okanye ziphathwe ngendlela efanayo. iindleko ezinxulumene nomntwana. Kodwa ngenxa yezinto ezincinci, kunengqiqo ukulindela ukuba ngamnye uya kuthatha iindleko ngexesha, njengoko ephakama.
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Ixesha elingakumbi.Akunjalo nje ukuba uya kuba nexesha elide '(elinzima ukuza njengomzali ongabodwa). Yinto yokuba uya kukwazi ukuyilungiselela. Kuyavunywa, akunakuhlala uthanda. Ngokukodwa ekuqaleni, iimpelaveki ngokwakho kunokushiya unesizungu. Kodwa xa usetyenziselwa ukucwangcisa phambili kwiindawo ezongeziweyo, uza kufumana izinto ezininzi zokwenza ... ukusuka ekubanjeni ukulala, ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabahlobo kunye nokukhaba ukuqala kwenkqubo yakho yokuzilolonga. Kwakhona, akunakube yintoni oya kukhetha, kodwa ixesha lakho lingenza ube ngumzali ongcono.
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Ukungaphumeleli abantwana bakho kunokukunceda ukuba uyayixabise.Xa uhlangene 24/7, iintsuku ezingama-365 ngosuku, kunokuba nzima ukubuyela emva kwaye ufumane umbono. Ukuba kude nezingane zakho ukwenzela ukuba uhambisane nesilungiselelo sokugcinwa ngokubambisana kukuvumela ukuba ubone umfanekiso omkhulu, ukuba abantwana bakho bakhula kwaye ixesha abachithayo kunye nexesha lakho elide lilungile kubo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akakwazi ukwenza zonke izigqibo ngendlela oya kuyenza ngayo, kodwa oko kuvumela abantwana bakho ukuba babone ukuba ngamnye wenu uzisa amandla abo kulwalamano lwakho ... okubenza ukuba bakuxabise ngeentsuku xa hlukana,!
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Inkululeko yokugxila kumsebenzi wakho (okanye imfundo).Ukugcinwa okuhlanganyelweyo kunokukunika ixesha kunye namandla onokuyidinga ukuba uthathe umsebenzi wakho kwizinga elilandelayo. Ingaba unikezela iintsuku ezithile zeveki ukuba usebenze ngokukhawuleza ngaphandle kokukhathazeka malunga nabani oza kuthatha abantwana, okanye ekugqibeleni ube nexesha lokuthatha isitifiketi sokuqinisekisa ukuba unokunyusa umvuzo wakho wokusebenzisa, usebenzisa 'ixesha' lokugcinwa ngokubambisana kuwe inzuzo inokuhlawula igalelo elikhulu kwixesha elide.