Ukuqonda ukupheliswa koLungelo loMzali kunye nenkxaso yabantwana
Ukunyinwa kwamalungelo omzali akufanele kuthathwe lula. Umzali okhuselekileyo unokufuna ukupheliswa kwamalungelo omzali kwiimeko apho umntwana wakhe engasenalo ulwalamano nomzali ongekho phantsi, okanye xa umntwana ekholelwa ukuba sele esengozini . Kwiimeko ezinje, inkundla iya kulandelelanisa ukuva. Nangona kunjalo, abazali abafuna ukuphelisa amanye amalungelo abazali abazali kufuneka baqonde phambili ukuba kwiimeko apho umzali ongekho mthethweni uvuma ngokuzithandela ukuphelisa amalungelo akhe omzali (ngamanye amagama, ukusayinwa kwamalungelo omzali ngokuzithandela), ukuxhaswa kwabantwana ngokuqhelekileyo ukuyeka.
Oku kuthetha ukuba umzali ongeyena okhuselekileyo akayi kusayi kuba nexanduva lokuhlawulwa kwexesha elidlulileyo lokuhlawulwa kwabantwana.
Ukuqwalaselwa kweNkundla ekuphelisweni kweeNkundla zamaLungelo eMala
Abagwebi benkundla yentsapho banqumla amalungelo omzali kakhulu. Abaqhelekanga ukucima ngaphandle kokuba bekholelwa ukwenza oko kuya kunceda umntwana. Ekujonganeni nezicelo zokuphelisa, iinkundla ziqwalasela ngenyameko ezi zinto zilandelayo:
- Imizamo yoNxibelelwano: Inkundla ngokubanzi iqwalasela abazali abangenakugweba imizamo yokudityanisana nomntwana.
- Inkokhelo yokuxhasa abantwana: Inkundla nazo zikhangele ukuba ngaba inkxaso yenkxaso yabantwana yenziwa ngexesha elidlulileyo kunye / okanye linikezelwa okwangoku.
- Iminqweno yomntwana: Inkundla zigcina ingqalelo iminqweno yomntwana kubantwana abaneminyaka elishumi elinamithathu ubudala okanye ngaphezulu.
- Iminqweno engcono yomntwana: Oku kubhekisela kwizinto ezibhekwa njengezona zinto zibhekiselele kuluntu, kubandakanya ukunyamekela ukhuseleko lwakhe kunye neemfuno ezisisiseko, imfundo kunye nokuzinza.
- Ukugxothwa : Ingaba umzali washiya umama ngexesha lokukhulelwa okanye wamshiya umntwana emva kokuzalwa kwakhe.
- Ukhuseleko: Inkundla nazo ziqwalasela ngokucophelela ukuba ngaba umzali ongekho wokuphepha ekuhambeni kwangaphambili wambeka umntwana engozini.
Ukulindela izigqibo zeNkundla
Abazali emacaleni omabini kwisicelo sokuphelisa bahlala rhoqo, kwaye kuyaqondakala, banxungubele ukuqikelela okanye ukukulindela isigqibo senkundla.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula, nangona kunjalo, ukuba inkundla iza kugxininisa kwiminqweno engcono yomntwana xa iqwalasela ukupheliswa kwamalungelo omzali wabazali. Oku kudla ngokubhekisela ekugcineni ukulingana okuninzi kwimpilo yobomi kunokwenzeka. Nangona kunjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuqikelela iziphumo kuzo zonke iimeko.
Kuyinyaniso ukuba iinkundla zikhetha ukungaqedi amalungelo omzali, ingakumbi ukuba zikholelwa ukuba unxibelelwano oluphuculweyo phakathi komzali nomntwana, kunye / okanye phakathi kwabazali bobabini, lukhoyo. Ngale ndlela, iinkundla zihlala ziba nethemba kwaye ziqwalasele ukupheliswa komzali njengendlela yokugqibela yokugqibela. Ngaphandle kokuba umntwana esesimweni esinobungozi ngokucacileyo-okanye umzali ongeyena umgcini-myalelo ucela ngokuzithandela ukungena ngemvume ngamalungelo omzali, kwaye umntu ulindele ukuba amkele ngokukhawuleza umntwana-iinkundla zikhetha ukuphepha ukuphelisa amalungelo omzali we-biological. Endaweni yoko, inkundla ezininzi ziya kuzama ukufumana iimfuno zomzali kunye neenqwenela, kwimeko efunekayo. Kwezinye iimeko, oku kuthetha ukubonelela ukutyelelwa okonganyelweyo kwindawo yokupheliswa kunye / okanye ukuba umzali athathe inxaxheba kwinqanaba leeklasi zabazali.
ILizwi Lokulumkisa Ngabazali Abafuna Ukuqeda Amalungelo AbooMzali
Ukupheliswa kwamalungelo omzali kunye nazo zonke iinkqubo ezinxulumene nazo akufanele zithathwe kalula.
Kwiimeko apho iintlawulo zenkxaso yabantwana ziqhuba ngamandla okuba ngumzali onqwenela ukuphelisa ilungelo lakhe lomzali, kufuneka aqale azame ukuguqula iintlawulo zokuxhasa abantwana ngaphambi kokuba acinge ukukhululwa kwamalungelo omzali.
Ulungiswe nguJennifer Wolf.