Ukulahlekelwa ukugcinwa kwabantwana bakho yintlungu ephazamisa intliziyo kunoma yimuphi umzali. Kunzima ukwamukela imbono yokuba inkundla ikholelwa ukuba abantwana bakho baya kuba bhetele nomnye umntu, nokuba ngaba ngabade bakho, abazali bakho, okanye kwinkqubo yokunakekela abantwana. Kodwa ukulahlekelwa ngumgcini-mali akufuneki ukuba unaphakade; Abantu abaninzi baye baphumelela kwamalungelo abo okugcina.
Kulula, nangona kunjalo. Ukuba oku kwenzeka kuwe, yazi ukuba kukho amanyathelo onokuthatha ukuze wenze isigqibo esitshintshileyo kwaye uphumelele ukugcinwa kwezingane zakho.
Thatha Ukunyaniseka Khangela oko kwenzeka
Abagwebi banembopheleleko yokuthatha umdla kumntwana. Ngaloo ngqondweni, cinga ukuba kungani ijaji yenza isigqibo sokunikezela omnye umntu. Ngaba waphula umyalelo? Ngaba utyholwa ngokungafanelekanga ngokuxhaphazwa kwabantwana okanye ukunganyaniseki? Ukuba nesigqibo sokuba kutheni isigqibo senziwe sinokukunceda uthathe amanyathelo okulungisa imeko.
Funa uMcebisi wezomthetho
Ukuze uzuze ukugcinwa kwezingane zakho emva koko, kuya kufuneka ukuba usebenze kunye negqwetha elinawo amava okufumana amacala afanayo omthetho. Ukufumana ummeli ogciniweyo wokugcina umntwana, qalisa ngokucela abahlobo kunye nezihlobo ngokuthumela. Unokuqhagamshelana nesahluko sakho sendawo ye-American Bar Association okanye i-Legal Aid Society ukuze uncede.
Hlola nayiphi na ingxaki
Fumana ukuba ukubuyiswa kokugcinwa kwetyala kunxulumene naziphi na izenzo ezizodwa. Ngokomzekelo, ngaba kufuneka ufune ukucebisa, unyango okanye utywala, okanye ufunde kwiiklasi zabazali? Ukuba inkundla ifake nayiphi na into enokukwazi ukufumana ukugcinwa, yenza phambili kwaye uthathe amanyathelo ekuzaliseni ezo mfuno, kunokuba uphikisane ngokungqinelana kwazo.
Ngokukhawuleza, ukuthotyelwa ngokuthe tye kuya kubonakalisa kakuhle kuwe phambi kwenkundla.
Cela uVavanyo
Xa usuqale ukusebenza kunye negqwetha kwaye uqalise ukugqiba nawaphi na amanyathelo enkundla ayifunayo, cela ijaji malunga nokuvavanywa komntwana osekhaya. Oku kuya kunika iinkundla ngeemvavanyo zokuhlaziywa kwekhaya lakho, ezinokukunceda ukuba uphumelele ekugcinweni.
Yenza Yonke into iNkundla icela kuwe
Ungalibali nto into enkundleni ecela ukuba wenze. Yiba khona kuzo zonke iintetho, kwaye uzame ukuphinda utyunjwe ama-aphoyintimenti kunye ne-ad ademem yakho yomgcini okanye umlamli wenkundla.
Yiba Nomonde kwaye Uthobele
Nangona ulindele ukulungiswa komntwana wakho ukuhlaziywa kwakhona, qiniseka ukuba usebenzisa ilungelo lakho elipheleleyo lokuvakasha kunye nexesha lokuzali. Musa ukwenza nto ukunyusa imeko, kwaye wenze konke umzamo wokuba uhloniphekile nobubele xa uthabatha abantwana bakho ukutyelela.
Cinga ngenye indlela yokulungiswa kwempahla
Ekugqibeleni, se benzisa eli xesha ukuhlaziya iimfuno zakho. Usenokuba ufune ukugcinwa ngokupheleleyo kwisigxina, kodwa ngoku ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumgcini, zibuze ukuba ngaba uya kucinga ukuba uyavuma ukuvumela ukugcinwa. Ukuba oko kukukhetha kwakho, sebenze kunye ne-ex yakho (okanye nabani na oza kubelana naye kunye nokuhlola) ukuba kungenzeka.