Abantwana abancinci bangathethi ukuba bangathembekanga, kodwa ukuxoka kunokuba ngumkhuba omubi
Ukuphila nomntwana oselula, mhlawumbi usenokuvakalelwa kukuba ufuna ukuthetha inyaniso , uzama ukufumana ukuba yeyiphi imvelaphi ephuma emlonyeni womntwana okwenene kwaye yiyiphi into ecinga ngayo.
"Andizange ndiwuchithe ubisi," watsho lo mntwana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala omi ekhondweni lezinto ezimhlophe enekomityi engenanto esandleni sakhe. Ingane yaphule imoto yam. "" Andizange ndiwuthabathe zonke iimathoyizi, inja yenze. "Iingxelo ezide ziqhubeka kwaye ziqhubeke.
Kodwa inyaniso yalo mbandela bonke abantwana balala ngezinye izihlandlo. Yaye nangona ukulala kuyingxenye eqhelekileyo yophuhliso lomntwana, akuyinto ongayiboniyo. Njengomzali, ngumsebenzi wakho ukufundisa ukunyaniseka. Ukuze ukwazi ukujongana nale meko, kufuneka ukwazi a) kutheni iPinocchio yakho encinci ilele kwaye b) indlela yokumfundisa ukuba axabise ukunyaniseka .
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Abantwana kule minyaka bangavela kunye nabathile bebali - bangabikho nkohliso kodwa ngenxa yeyona nto ininzi, bafunda into eyinyani kunye nento engamangalisa. Kwiimeko ezininzi, umntu oneminyaka engama-3, 4, okanye- 5 ubudala usemncinci ukuba aqonde kakuhle ukuba buxoki. Iingxelo zabo zeengxelo zengqondo zibangelwa ngumcabango osebenza kwinqwelo ephezulu, kungekhona nantoni na.
Xa uneminyaka engama-4 ubudala uthi akazange abe nombala eludongeni ngelixa ephethe ikrayoni esandleni sakhe, oko kuthetha ukuba ufuna ukuba akenzanga nto ngenxa yokuba uyacatshukiswa.
Ekubeni wayengathethi ukuguqula udonga lwakho lokulala egumbini lakhe, engqondweni yakhe akazange. Ukunquma kwi-thread ejikelezayo, thintela ukumbeka kwimeko enokumenza azive ngathi ufuna ukulala. Esikhundleni sokubuza ngokukrakra, "Ngaba umbala eludongeni lwam?" Uthi, "Sinomgaqo kule ndlu ukuba sinebala kuphela kumaphepha.
Masifumane amathawula kunye namanzi kwaye sihlambulule kunye. "
Ukuba ibali lakho umntwana lipheka likwinqanaba elibalaseleyo - "Kwakukho indlovu kwizikole zasenkulumeni namhlanje." - inselele ngendlela elula. Buza ukuba oko akuxelelayo yinyani okanye yenziwe. Xa evuma ukuba u-fibbing, angene kwisenzo kwaye umncede ukuba acacise - "Khawucinge ukuba indlovu yafika esikolweni? Ngaba ungadla iipanutshi zokunwaba? "Ibali elide liba libali elingenangqondo apho bobabini onokubelana ngayo kwaye uncedisa ukuba umntwana wakho ongeyena unyaka wokufunda usebenzise ingcinga yakhe.
Ukunyaniseka kwenkqubo
Xa umntwana wakho ethetha ubuxoki, sebenzisa ithuba lokuthetha ukuba kutheni ukunyaniseka kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukumthiwa ungumqambimanga okanye ukumemeza kungabangela ukuba umntwana wakho ahlale eqamba amanga ukugwema uxanduva. Ukukhuthaza ukunyaniseka kwenyaniso, zama ukususa imiphumo. Yithi, "Kungakhathaliseki ukuba wenze ntoni, ndiyathembisa ukuba andiyi kuthukuthela nje nje xa uthetha inyaniso." Abantwana abaninzi baxoka ngokuba bayazi ukuba benze into engalunganga kwaye abafuni ukuphoxeka wena kunye / okanye uhlwaywe. Gxila kwizinto ofuna ukuba umntwana wakho afunde - ukunyaniseka. Xa umntwana wakho exelela inyaniso malunga nento ayenzile ngayo, qi niseka ukuba umdumise.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uqala ukujikeleza ngeendaba ezingenakuze zenzeke - xela ixesha ajoyina kwiesksi okanye uhambo oluhle kakhulu lwakho usapho lwakho lwafika kwiWalt Disney World - ukujamelana naye, kodwa kungekho ngendlela enomsindo.
Ukucinga okunqwenelekayo kuyinto eqhelekileyo kumntwana kule minyaka kodwa kuyadinga ukulungiswa. Yilula nje, "Uhambo oluya kwiesksiphu luvakala. Ndiyazi ukuba ufuna ukuba kwenzeka ngokwenene. "
Ziqhelise Oko Ukushumayelayo
Kwixesha lakho lemihla ngemihla, amathuba okuba uxelela amanga amhlophe okanye amabini. Kwaye kulungile, ngokuyinxalenye. "Ubuxoki bentlalo-ntle" - ukuphepha inyaniso ukukhusela iimvakalelo zomntu - ziqhelekile kwaye ziyamkeleka kakhulu. Kodwa ungalindelanga ukuba uthathe yonke into-ngokusemthethweni ukuba ufunde. Ukuba uthetha esikolweni sakho esikolweni, "Ungaze uxoxe ngamanga," kodwa umxelele ukuba uthi kumakhulu ukuba ii-cookie ezingabonakaliyo zihle, uya kumdibanisa.
Beka umzekelo omhle ngokunyaniseka wena.
Akukaze kusondele ukuba ufundise abantwana bakho bathembeke. Thetha ngesizathu sokuba kutheni ukuthetha amanga-kukukukhathaza xa uthetha izinto ezingekho nyaniso. Xa umntwana wakho eqaphela ukuba ukuxelela inyaniso into oyithandayo , yinto abaza kuzama ukufikelela kuyo.