Yintoni oyenzayo xa umfundi wakho wokufundela esikolweni ezama ukulawula ukuphakama
Ukwazi ukukhetha ihembe lakho. Uyazi into oyithandayo kwaye ufuna ukuyidla. Ukulungele ngokugqibeleleyo ukugqiba ukuba yiyiphi imagazini oyifunayo ukuyifunda. Ukuhlala kunye nomntwana osemfundela, nangona kunjalo, unokufumanisa ukuba kukho umntu onobukhulu bendlu yakho ocinga ukuba bayazi ngakumbi kunani (kunye nabahlobo babo, kunye nootitshala babo nabo bonke abantu abahlangana nabo).
Ngexesha leminyaka yokufundela, ungakufumanisa ngokukhawuleza usebenzisana nabantwana abangabantwana. Akunomdla wokuzonwabisa, kodwa ukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo okulindelekileyo nokulindelekileyo. Ngenhlanhla, le nto ungayifumana, ngaphandle kokuba ikhaya lakho liguqulwe libe ngumbuso (okanye wena okanye abanye ubeka umgudu wombuso). Nantsi indlela.
Indlela Yokumisa Umntwana Wakho Ukusuka Ekuhlaleni Ekhaya
Linda. Esona sizathu esikhulu sokuba abantwana baxhamle kukuba bazama ukuziphatha ngendlela abonwa ngayo imihla ngemihla. Akunakutsho ukuba ulawula ikhaya lakho ngenqindi yensimbi ekhupha i-oda ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa isikolo sakho sokufundela esikwaziyo siyazi ukuba uxelela abantu ukuba benzani (ngokukodwa yena kunye nabantakwabo ) kwaye ufuna ngaphakathi kwenzo. Ufunda nokubonisa oko afuna. Ngoxa u-bossiness and confidence are not always qualities, they can be asset (in small measures) xa ekhula. Ngolathiso oluncinane (kunye nokulungiswa kwakhona ) uya kuba nakho ukuhambisa ezi zixhobo kwizakhono zobunkokheli.
Buza ukuguquka kokuziphatha. Ukuba isikolo sakho sokufundela esikolweni siqala ukuxelela okanye omnye umntu ukuba enze izinto, umkhumbuze ukusebenzisa iindlela . Cacisa ukuba unako ukwenza into ethile kuye - umdlala umdlalo, funda ibali, uncede atshintshe izicathulo zakhe - ukuba abuze kakuhle, kunokuba afune.
Mnike amandla. Ukuqhaqhaqhayisa kubantwana kubangelwa ngumntwana nje ezama ukulawula imeko kunye nobomi bakhe.
Oku kuyinyani ngokunyanisekileyo xa umntwana ekhula kwaye eba ngumntu ozimeleyo. Ngoko, yakha imeko apho umntwana wakho angenza isigqibo okanye asebenze "njengomntu okhulile." Umzekelo, xa kufike ixesha lokuhlala phantsi kwaye udle isidlo sasemini, unike izigqibo ezimbini (ukuqinisekisa ukuba ukhetho luyakwamukeleka kuwe). Ukuba ulungele ukudlala umdlalo nomntwana wakho, makenze isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi na. Makhe "angamele" umntwana omncinci ukuba agqoke . Kulezi zihlandlo, umntwana wakho unako ukuba ngumphathi, anelise imfuno yakhe yokulawula.
Fumana ootitshala kunye nabanonophelo ababandakanyekayo. Ukuba uyakrokrela ukuba umntakwabo wengane yakho idlulile kwikhaya lakho, cela abantu abadala abandakanyekayo nomntwana wakho rhoqo ukuba ancede uhlole imeko kwaye ubandakanyeke xa kufuneka.
Vula ietafile. Xa umntwana wakho eqala ukukhupha iilaydi kwabanye, mkhuphele eceleni ukuze uthethe intetho. Mbuze ukuba uya kuvakalelwa njani xa umhlobo wakhe eqala ukumxelela into enokuyenza. Awufuni ukuphuma kwaye uxelele umntwana wakho ukuba akayi kuba nabahlobo xa ehlala ekhohlakele, kodwa unokuchaza ukuba abantwana banokufuna ukudlala nomnye umntu xa bengenalo ithuba lokwenza oko bafuna ukwenza. Ukuba imeko yinkcaso - abantwana badlala umdlalo ngomzekelo - zama ukuwahambisa ukuba benze enye into.
Mfundise indlela yokubuza indlela efanelekileyo. Umzekelo wokuziphatha kakuhle kumntwana wakho. Endaweni yokuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba agcwalise isitya se-dog, cela ngokuthobeka - "Ngaba unokwenza ugcwalise isitya sikaManzi ngamanzi?" Ukuba kukho umzekelo xa umntwana wakho eqala ukukuphatha, umlungiselele kwindawo apho ungathanda ukuba asebenzise. (Musa ukwenza oko phambi kwabahlobo okanye nabantakwabo, nangona kunjalo, umntwana wakho unokuba neentloni. Mhlawumbi ungene endaweni yangasese okanye uthethe naye emva kokuba abaphulaphuli bakho bahambe.
Chaza ukuba akakwazi ukufumana indlela yakhe ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ukuva abantu bathi " hayi " isifundo sobomi ukuba isikolo sakho sokufunda esikolweni singcono ngokufunda ngoku.
Umntwana wakho ufuna ukuba umntakwabo ahambe phantsi kwesilayidi okanye asebenzise isondo ngokukhenketha endaweni yokudlala, kodwa umntakwabo omncinci ngumntu onelungelo lokubona kwakhe. Chaza kumntwana ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo angacela abantu ukuba badlale umdlalo othile okanye bamlethe itekisi, kodwa bavunyelwe ukuba bathi cha.
Mdumise ngenxa yokumhlonela. Xa umntwana wakho eziphatha ngendlela efanelekileyo, yibizele. Uya kuyonwaba uye waphawula kwaye uya kuba nokuqhubeka nokusebenza kunye nokuthetha ngaloo ndlela kwixesha elizayo.