Ungamangaliswa ukuba umfundi wakho oneminyaka eyi-13 ubudala ubiza nantoni na 'isisithakazelo-intloko' kwi 'doo-doo ubuso'. Kuqhelekileyo kwiintsana ezi-3 kunye ne-4 ubudala ukuvavanya ukusabela kwakho ngokusebenzisa 'amagama angamanzi.'
Indlela ophendula ngayo ngokubiza igama, kodwa wenza umehluko omkhulu kwimeko enokuthi umntwana wakho onokufundela ukuba aqhubeke nokubiza igama.
Lawula indlela owenza ngayo
Nangona kunokuzama ukuhleka xa isikolo sakho sokufundela isikubiza ngokuthi igama elingenalucalulo, ukunyamekela ngokugqithiseleyo igama elibizayo likhuthaza ukuba ufundela esikolweni ukuba akwenze kwakhona.
Ngokufanayo, ukuba utyhafile kwaye uyiguqule into enkulu, ungaphinde ukhuthaze ukuziphatha ukuba uqhubeke.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukungahoywa ngamagama kuyona ndlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yezenzo. Ukuba awubonisi impendulo enkulu, umntwana wakho unokunyuka aze akhohlwe igama alivavanyayo.
Ukuba uyaphinda igama okanye uyaqhubeka ebonisa ukungabikho ntlonipho, kubalulekile ukungenelela. Phendula ngokuthi, "Oku kukubuhlungu xa undibiza ngamagama. Nceda ungenzi oko kwakhona, "uze uhambe uye ugxininise kwisifundo esithile. Oku kwenza umntwana wakho azi ukuba lilizwi elingalunganga aliyi kukhawulela ingqalelo yakho .
Fundisa iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokujongana nobushushu
Ukuba umntwana wakho uphosa ngenxa yokucaphuka, kubalulekile ukumfundisa izakhono ezintsha. Ufuna ukwazi ukuba akulungile ukusebenzisa amagama aphazamisa iimvakalelo zabanye abantu.
Fundisa umntwana wakho ngobuncinane bezakhono zokulawula umsindo . Mxelele ukuba ukuvutha komsindo kulungile kodwa ukulimaza abanye abantu akuvumelekanga.
Ncedeni ukuba afunde ukutshiloza iimvakalelo zakhe ukuze athi, "Ndithukuthele," kunokuba "Uyiziphukuphuku." Abantwana abakwazi ukuthetha indlela abavakalelwa ngayo akunakwenzeka ukuba bakubonise ukuba bahlanya.
Ukubonelela ngeziphumo xa kuyimfuneko
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyaqhubeka ekubiza ngamagama, okanye uqala ukubiza amagama omntakwabo, anikezele ngesiphumo esibi.
Ukukhawuleza ixesha okanye ukukhutshwa kwamalungelo kunokufuneka ukuba uncede ukuba afunde ukuba akanakukubiza ngamagama. Kubalulekile ukunqanda ukuziphatha ngokukhawuleza ngokokuba akabizi ngamanye amagama abantwana xa esesikolweni.
Yenza Imigaqo Ngokuhlonela
Misela umgaqo malunga nokuphatha abanye abantu ngomusa. Yenza kucacise ukuba awuvumeli abantu ukuba balimkise umzimba womntu nabani na ukunyanzela kwaye kwaye awuyi kuvumela ukuphazamisa iimvakalelo zabantu.
Fundisa ukuba ukubizwa kwegama kubangalisa njani abantu kwaye akuyinto enhle yokwenza. Ngamanye amaxesha, kwanokuba usithi igama elithi "U-Ouch," xa umntwana wakho ekubiza ngokuba negama kunokumomeleza kuye ukuba ibuhlungu iimvakalelo zakho.
Mkhumbuze ngemithetho xa ebiza umntu amagama. Yithi, "Sisebenzisa amagama omusa kwintsapho yethu kwaye loo mazwi ayinomusa."
Bamba Umntwana Wakho usebenzisa Amagama Amnandi
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba asebenzise amagama omnene ngokumdumisa. Yithi, "Kwakumnandi kuwe ukuba utshele udade wakho ubukeka buhle," okanye "Ndiyabonga kakhulu ngokuthi unomdla wesonka endikwenzele yona."
Ukudumisa kukuqinisa ukuziphatha okuhle. Ngoko ke ngokumdumisa umntwana wakho ngokusebenzisa ulwimi olufanelekileyo, mhlawumbi uya kuba ngumsebenzi omhle.
Uhlobo loLwimi olufanelekileyo
Ukuba ufunga okanye ubiza abantu amagama kwiilwimi zakho zansuku zonke, umntwana wakho uya kukukopisha.
Kubalulekile ukuba lube uhlobo oluthile lomzekelo kunye nolwimi oluhloniphayo.
Musa ukuvumela igama ukubiza endlwini. Ezi ziquka izilwanyana. Ukuba ubiza umnqweno inja, umntwana wakho uya kuqala ukubiza abantu bentsiphu.
Musa ukubiza amagama omntwana wakho. Ukuthetha izinto ezinje, "Ulo hlobo olunjalo," uxhasa umntwana wakho ukuba kulungile ukubiza abantu amagama (ukungathethi nto kungabangela ezinye izikrakra zomzwelo). Imodeli yohlobo indlela yokusebenzisa amagama anomusa, nangona uvakalelwa ngumsindo kwaye udidekile.