Ubuchopho Bentsha Yakho Ayayi Kukuhlakulela Ngokuzeleyo Uneminyaka engama-20
Ngaba uyazibuza ukuba yintoni ehlabathini eqhubekayo engqondweni yengqondo? Nabani na okhulisa umntwana osemncinci mhlawumbi uzibuze, "Yintoni ecinga ngayo umntwana?" ngenye indlela okanye enye.
Umntwana osemncinci uzibophelela ekuziphatheni okungathandabuzekiyo kunye nemimoya engazinzileyo, ezininzi zazo ezibangelwa uphuhliso lwakho lobuchopho oluqhubekayo. Ukuqonda ukukhula kwengqondo yakho kwentsha kunokukunika ingqiqo malunga nento eyenzekayo nomntwana wakho kwiminyaka.
1. Ubungqina Bentsha Benza ezininzi Iintetho ezintsha
Ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho abe ngumntwana osemtsha, kukho ukuhluma kwe-neuronal okanye, ngokwemigaqo yomntu, ukudala udibaniso olutsha kwingqondo. Abaphandi baye bazi ixesha elide ukuba iintsana zinokudalwa kokuxhamla okufanayo, okubanceda bafunde izakhono ezifana nokuqhawula, ukubamba imfoloko okanye ukwakha indlu yeebhloko.
Ukuba ucinga ngazo zonke izinto ezithintela ukufunda - ezifana nezakhono zentlalo okanye imidlalo emitsha - kuyacaca ukuba ukukhula kwengqondo kufana nengane. Enyanisweni, oku kubonakala kukukhula kokukhupha kwengqondo kubini umntu oza kuvela.
Iingingqi zengqondo zikhula ngeerhafu ezahlukeneyo. Iingxenye zengqondo ejongene nokulawula iimpembelelo nokucwangcisa phambili ziphakathi kweendawo zokugqibela ukufikelela ekuvuthweni.
2. Ubunjengebuntsha bubangela ukuphuphuma komzwelo
Ngaba ucinga ukuba wenziwe ngomsindo xa umntwana wakho ekhulile?
Kukho ithuba elihle lokubona utywala olusakhulayo olusakhulayo olusakhulayo.
Ininzi intsha ayinakho ukukwazi ukujamelana neentlalo, ukukhathazeka, kunye nokuchithwa kwengqondo ezihamba kunye neenguqu zabo. Ngoko ungamangaliswa xa ubona ukugqithisa okungenangqondo kunye nokubonakalisa ngokukrakra komsindo ngezikhathi ezithile.
Inyani yinto yokuba ingqondo yomntwana osemtsha ifana nomntu omdala ngokwemandla engqondo. Nangona kunjalo, intsha ibandakanyeka inxalenye ehlukeneyo yengqondo xa kufikelele ekulawuleni umonakalo kunye nemvakalelo; banako ukulawulwa yiloo mvakalelo kunomntu omdala xa kuziwa kwiimpendulo zentlalo.
Ukongezelela, abantwazana bahlala besichaza ngokucacileyo iingcinga zoluntu kunye neemvakalelo. Ezi ngxaki zoqhagamshelwano , ezidibaniswa nokuguquguquka kwemizwelo , kunokuba nzima kumtshato wakho ukuba awuqapheli.
3. Ubungqina Bentsha Ayilunganga Ngokuchanekileyo Ingozi
Ukuqhuba ngokukhawuleza, ukuzama izinto ezingekho mthethweni, kunye nokusika kweeklasi zizinto ezimbalwa zokuziphatha okusemngciphekweni umntwana onokuyithandayo. Kwaye nangona usenokucinga ukuba unqongophe obunobomi bokubaluleka, unokuba nzima ukwenza ezo zigqibo kuze kube yilapho ingqondo yakhe iqhutywe ngokupheleleyo.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba ukufa ngokulimala kubangaphantsi kwamaxesha angama-6 ukuya kubangama-15 ukuya ko-19 xa kuthelekiswa nabantwana phakathi kweminyaka eyi-10 no-14. Ixabiso leendlela zokuziphatha kakubi kunye nokusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala kuphezulu kule bhokisi yobudala.
Nangona kunjalo, ngandlela-thile, lo mnqweno wokuziphatha okubi unokuzuzisa; Umntwana wakho osemncinci akanako ukwesaba ukuqhubela ekolishi kunye nobomi abadala. Kakade ke, kubalulekile ukutshutshisa eyona yingozi kakhulu yokuziphatha kokuthatha ingozi.
Bamba i-adolescents account for your choices ukuze afunde ukwenza izigqibo ezingcono.
Ukuseka imithetho ecacileyo kwaye ulandele ngemiphumo enengqiqo xa kuyimfuneko. Kwaye xa uneminyaka eyi-17, umntwana wakho osemtsha uya kuqala ukuguqula ukuziphatha kwakhe okuyingozi. Kodwa, unokuba phakathi kweminyaka engama-20 ngaphambi kokuba athole ukulawula okungcono kwiimfuno zakhe.
4. Ubunzima Ubuthandana Ngokuqinisekileyo Abahlobo
Umama nobaba basenomdla kumntwana osemtsha, kodwa kungekhona phantse ngabahlobo. Njengoko ingqondo yakho yentsha ikhula, iya kuba ngcono kwiingcamango ezingabonakaliyo. Ngaloo nto, ukungakhuselekanga kwakhe kuya kwandiswa ngenxa yokuba iingcamango ezingabonakaliyo ziya kwenza umntwana wakho ukuba acinge ngendlela abanye abambona ngayo.
Kwaye, njengokuba nayiphi na umzali oselula esaziyo, kugxininise ekukhangeleni "okupholileyo." Imiba ejikeleze umzimba kunye nokuzithemba iya kuba yinto ebonakalayo kwaye abafana bafumana uxinzelelo lokuba bahambelane neqela lontanga .
Intsha iyanandipha ukuchitha ixesha kunye noontanga kuba ukuhlala kunye nabahlobo kuvuselela amaziko okuzonwabisa kwindawo yengqondo. Yingakho xa abantwana behamba kunye nabahlobo babo, banokuphindwa kabili ukuba bathathe ingozi abangayi kuthatha xa bodwa.
Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho atshale ixesha kunye nabahlobo, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba ahlakulele ubudlelwane nabantu abanezempilo. Ukubandakanyeka koontanga kuyinkalo ebalulekileyo yokwakheka kobunikazi. Abahlobo bakho abancinci baya kumnceda ukuba anqume ukuba ngubani, ngaphandle kokuba ngumntwana wakho.
5. Ubunzima Ubunzima Ukulala
Umntwana wakho ufuna ukulala ngokukhululekileyo njengokuba wenza ngexesha lokuqala kwasebuntwaneni-ubuncinci kwiiyure ezili-9 ukuya kwi-10 ebusuku. Nangona kunjalo, uphando lubonisa kuphela malunga neepesenti ezingama-9 zabafundi besikolo esiphakamileyo bafumana ukulala ngokwaneleyo rhoqo, okwenzakalisa ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo.
Xa umfana esweleka ukulala, ingqondo ayikwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezizwakalayo. Ukuntuleka kobuthongo kubangela ukuziphatha okuphazamisayo nokuthatha ingozi. Ukunyanzelwa kokulala kwintsholongwane kuye kwadibaniswa nokunyanya, iingxaki zempilo yengqondo, imiba yokufunda, kunye neengozi yokwanda kweengxaki zokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi.
Ukubeka ixesha lokulala nokuthatha iikhompyutheni yakho yentsholongwane ebusuku ziindlela ezimbalwa ongakhuthaza ngayo umntwana wakho ukuba aphumle ubusuku bonke.
Ukuxhasa Inkqubela Yakho Yentsha
Nangona ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ukubeka i-adolescents account for behavior bad, mhlawumbi ukuqonda okwenzekayo kwingqondo yakho kunokukunceda ukuba ube nokuqonda okungakumbi ukuba kutheni kwenzeka. Ukuthetha nentombazana yakho ngentuthuko yengqondo inokumnika ingqiqo ngamandla akhe, kunye nokubuthathaka.
Iingxelo:
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Isiseko seSizwe sokulala: 2006 I-Poll yokulala eMelika