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Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana babuyele kwiintetho zentwaba emva kokuba beyifake ngexesha elinye. Enyanisweni, abafundi basesikolweni bahlala bexhamla ukusebenzisa igama lomntwana njengenxalenye yophuhliso lwabo oluqhelekileyo. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, abantwana abakhulile bebanga lesikolo bangabetha njengezingane kwakhona ixesha elide.
Nangona ukuphulaphula intetho yentsana inokucaphukisa, mhlawumbi iya kuba yisigaba.
Ngeendlela ezimbalwa zokungenelela, unokubamba umkhwa ombi ngaphambi kokuba uphume. Ngokuqhelekileyo, isisombululo ngokukhawuleza ngokungenelela okufanelekileyo.
Ulawulo oluphantsi kweengxaki
Intetho yabantwana akufanele ibe yimbangela enkulu yokukhathazeka. Ngamanye amaxesha kuvela kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo, ezifana nokuba nomntwana omtsha ekhaya .
Ngamanye amaxesha, abantwana babuyele kwingxoxo yabantwana kuba baphoswa kuba ngumntwana omncinane kwaye bafuna ukukhishwa kwakhona. Ukuba unomntwana osekhaya ofumana ingqwalasela eninzi ngokusebenzisa amagama akhe, umntwana wakho omdala unokuzama ukujonga.
Kukho amaxesha, nangona kunjalo, xa intetho yesana ingabonisa ingxaki enkulu. Qinisekisa ukulawula ukulibazisa ukuthetha okanye ezinye iingxaki zokuphuhlisa. Thetha kumntwana wezingane ukuba uqinisekise ukuba umntwana wakho uphuhliso ngokulandelelana.
Ukuba intetho yomntwana wengane yakho idibaniswe nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha, ezifana nokulala, funa uncedo lobuchwepheshe .
Ngamanye amaxesha, iziganeko eziphazamisayo okanye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo zinokubangela umntwana ukuba ahlaziye.
Musa ukwenza i-Big Deal
Ukwenza intsebenziswano enkulu ngaphandle kwentetho yabantwana kunokuyikhuthaza ukuba iqhubeke. Musa ukukhupha umxholo xa umntwana wakho engasetyenzisanga intetho yabantwana kwaye uqinisekise ukuba umntwana wakho akayi kukuvalela ukuba ukhononda ngezwi lakhe losana kunomnye umntu.
Kunoko, hlalani. Ukungenelela ngendlela echanekileyo necacileyo. Nangona iyakucasula, ungamvumeli ukuba umntwana wakho ayazi kukuqhuba. Ngaphandle koko, unokuqhubeka nokukwenza ukuze ufumane ingqalelo.
Uyila
Xa isikolo sakho sokufunda esikolweni sibuza umbuzo ngelizwi lomntwana, unokuzenza ngathi awukwazi ukumva. Emva koko, ngokukhawuleza xa usebenzisa igama lakhe eliqhelekileyo, phawula uze uphendule.
Ngamanye amaxesha inkulumo yentsana iba ngumkhuba omubi kwaye abantwana abakwaziyo xa bekwenza. Isikhumbuzo esithi, "Sebenzisa izwi lakho lebhokhwe elikhulu," lunokuba luncedo. Unokwenza ukuba umntwana wakho azi, "Andiyiqondi intetho yabantwana. Sebenzisa igama lakho lebhokhwe elikhulu ukuba undixelele oko ufuna. "
Ukuba umfundi wakho wesikolo usebenzisa intetho yomntwana, usenokuphendula ngokubonisa iimvakalelo ezingasemva kokukhetha kwakhe ukubuyela kwizwi lakhe lomntwana. Yithi into enje, "Ndiyabona ukuba usebenzisa igama lomntwana ukuba undixelele okwenzekayo esikolweni namhlanje. Ndiyazibuza ukuba unesixhala malunga nalo kwaye kunzima ukuthetha?"
Ngenkxaso, umntwana wakho unokufunda ukuthetha ngokucacileyo indlela aziva ngayo , kunokuba akubonise ngokusebenzisa intetho yabantwana.
Dumisani Ukuziphatha Okulungileyo
Enye yeendlela ezifanelekileyo zokuguqulwa kokuziphatha kukunika ingqwalasela enokuziphatha kakuhle.
Thatha umntwana wakho usebenzisa izwi lakhe eliqhelekileyo kwaye unikezele indumiso . Yithetha into efana nale nto, "Ndiyayithanda xa usebenzisa igama lakho lebhokhwe elikhulu ukuba undibuze into ethile."
Ukuqwalasela kunye nokudumisa kuya kunika umntwana wakho ngokuqiniswa ngokufanelekileyo ngokusebenzisa igama lakhe eliqhelekileyo. Oku kunokumkhuthaza ukuba agcine xa eqonda ukuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokufumana ingqalelo yakho.
Fundisa Umntwana Wakho Izakhono Ezintsha
Intsana inokubonisa ukuba umntwana wakho udinga uncedo lokufunda izakhono ezintsha. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho usebenzisa intetho yabantwana ngenzame yobudlelwane nabanye abantwana, unokuzuza ngokufunda izakhono zentlalo entsha.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana basebenzisa intetho yabantwana ukuzama nokuqinisekisa abazali ukuba abanakugqiba umsebenzi onzima.
Umzekelo, umntu oneminyaka engama-6 ubudala unokumelana nokutya kwintsapho kunye nokuthi, "Ndifuna ukudla," kuba unomdla malunga nokuzama ukuzikhonza.
Kule meko, fundisa umntwana wakho indlela engcono yokusingatha imeko. Yithi, "Yintoni eya kuba yinkwenkwe enkulu inokucela uncedo?" Emva koko, hambani ngeendlela okanye oko angathetha ukufumana iimfuno zakhe zidibene ngendlela efanelekileyo.
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