Izindlela Zokuphumelela Ngokufanelekileyo Ukuziphatha Okulungileyo
Xa umntwana wakho engalunganga, umvuzo unokuba yinto yokugqibela engqondweni yakho. Kodwa, ukuqiniswa ngokuqinisekileyo kungenye yeendlela eziphambili zokuguqula ukuziphatha .
Ungasebenzisa ngokuqinisekileyo ukukhuthaza ukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo, njengokwabelwana okanye izikhokelo ezilandelayo. Yaye, ungayisebenzisa ukukhusela ukuziphatha kakubi, njengokushaya nokulawula ukuphulwa.
Ukuqiniswa okulungileyo kunokuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokukhuthaza umntwana ukuba abe noxanduva, ngokumkhuthaza ukwenza imisebenzi okanye ukugqiba imisebenzi yakhe yasekhaya ngaphandle kokuphikisana.
Ukuphuculwa kweZakhono ezifanelekileyo
Uninzi lwabantu abadala baya emsebenzini ukuze banokufumana umvuzo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokubakho neminye imivuzo ababa nayo, njengokuba baziva kakuhle ngabo kunye nokukwazi kwabo ukunceda abanye.
Kodwa i-paycheck yabo inikeza ifom ephezulu yokuqiniswa ngokuqinisekileyo ekusebenzeni. Ukuqinisekiswa okuqinisekileyo kubakhuthaza ukuba baqhubeke besebenza.
Abantwana abafumana ukuqiniswa ngokufanelekileyo emsebenzini wabo omuhle bashukunyiswa ukuba baqhubeke besebenza nzima. Ngoko kubalulekile ukuvuza umgangatho ofuna ukuwujonga rhoqo.
Imizekelo yokuThuthukiswa okuKhuselekileyo kunye nabantwana
Zininzi iindlela zokuqinisa ukuziphatha. Yaye imivuzo eninzi ikhethiweyo okanye iindleko eziphantsi.
Ukuqiniswa okufanelekileyo akufuneki ukuba yinto ebonakalayo.
Kunoko, unako ukuqinisa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuziphatha komntwana ngo:
- kunika a mahlanu aphezulu
- ku dumisa
- ukunika ingxowa okanye ukupaka ngasemva
- kunika izithupha
- ukubetha nokunyamezela
- xelela omnye umntu omdala ukuba uyaziqhenya njani ngokuziphatha komntwana wakho ngelixa umntwana wakho ephulaphule
Unokubonelela ngokuqinisekileyo ngokunika umntwana amalungelo angaphezulu okanye imivuzo ebonakalayo.
Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uhlambulule igumbi lakhe ngaphandle kokucelwa, mthabathe kwindawo yokudlala njengomvuzo. Emva koko, uya kukhuthazwa ukuba ahlambulule igumbi lakhe kwakhona.
Kukho iintlobo ezininzi zeendlela zokufumana umvuzo ongazisebenzisa njengokomelezwa okulungileyo. Abantwana abancinci ngokuqhelekileyo benza kakuhle ngemifanekiso yezitifiketi kunye nabantwana abakhulileyo basoloko baphendula kakuhle kwiinkqubo zoqoqosho lweedokethi .
Iimfuno zokuQinisekisa
Sebenzisa ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo ukukhuthaza nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha ofuna ukuba umntwana wakho aphinde. Imizekelo yokuziphatha ekuqinisekiseni iquka:
- benzisa imbeko
- ukudlala ngokuthula
- elinde ngomonde
- ukudlala kakuhle kunye nomntakwabo
- ukuthobela isicelo ngokukhawuleza
- ukufaka umzamo omkhulu kumsebenzi onzima
- ukugqiba imisebenzi
Iishedyuli zokuQiniswa
Xa umntwana wakho efunda indlela entsha yokuziphatha okanye esebenzayo kwisakhono esithile, kubalulekile ukubonelela ngokuqinisekileyo ngesiseko esifanayo.
Emva kwakho konke, ngaba uza kusebenza kangangoko xa uhlawulwa kuphela ngezinye iinkhathi? Unokuyeka ngexesha elithile ngenxa yokuba uya kuthatha isigqibo malunga nemigudu yakho.
Kuyafana okufanayo kumntwana wakho. Ukuba uyimbamba nje ngokulungileyo emva kwexesha okanye uzinikezela ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuziphatha kwakhe akuyi kutshintsha.
Oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele unikeze umntanakho umvuzo rhoqo xa ephethe isitya sakhe kwisitya.
Ungasetha inkqubo yokuvuza apho unikezela ngokuqinisekiswa ngokukhawuleza ngesimo sesitika okanye uphawu. Emva koko, izitikiti kunye neenkonkco zingaphinde zatshintshwe kwimbuyekezo emikhulu.
Emva kwexesha, unako ukubeka indawo yakho yokuqinisa. Xa umntwana wakho ekwazi ukuqonda isakhono, ukuqiniswa ngokumangalisa ngexesha elifanelekileyo kungasebenza. Yithi, "Hayi, ndiyakhathazeka kakhulu ukuba ulungele ukuhamba esikolweni ngexesha elidlulileyo. Ndicinga ukuba siya kudlala kwindawo yokudlala ngokuhlwa."
Gwema ngokukhawuleza ukuqinisekiswa okulungileyo
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali bafaka ingozi ngokuziphatha kakubi. Enye indlela eqhelekileyo oku kwenzekayo ngqalelo.
Ingqalelo inokuqinisa ngakumbi, nangona ingqalelo ingqalelo.
Ngokomzekelo, umntwana ocaphukisa umama wakhe ngokunyanisekileyo ufumana ukuqiniswa rhoqo xa unina esithi, "Yeka loo nto!" Okanye "Musa ukwenza oko." Ukunyamekela kungayinye yezona ndlela ezifanelekileyo zokuphendula ukuziphatha okufunayo.
Enye indlela abazali abaqinisa ngayo ukuziphatha kakubi kukungenisa. Ukuba umzali uxelele umntwana akakwazi ukuphuma ngaphandle, kodwa umntwana uyabongoza aze amncengezele ade umzali anike, ukugcoba komntwana kuye kwaqinisekiswa ngokuqinisekileyo. Umntwana ufundile ukuba ukugcoba kumncedisa ukuba afumane oko akufunayo kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuphinda aphinde aphinde amhlophe.
Qinisekisa ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi akuqinisekanga. Xa umntwana wakho engalunganga ulandelelana nemiphumo emibi, njengokulahlekelwa kwamalungelo okanye nemiphumo emihle .
Yaye qiniseka ukuba uchonga ukuziphatha okuhle ofuna ukuqinisa. Uza kufumana ukuba ukuqinisekiswa okulungileyo kunokuba ngcono kunezohlwayo.
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