Imiphumo emibi efundisa izifundo zobomi.
Ukuthatha isigqibo malunga nomphumo wokuziphatha kakubi komntwana wakho kunzima ngezinye amaxesha. Ngaba kufuneka uthathe i-elektroniki okanye umxelele ukuba akakwazi ukuya endlwini yomhlobo wakhe?
Okanye kuthekani ukuba uyaphula into ethile ngentlungu? Ufanele umfundise njani ukuba enze ukhetho olungcono ngexesha elizayo xa ecatshukile?
Ngethamsanqa, imiphumo enengqiqo ithatha umsebenzi othile wokuqikelela. Xa usebenzisa imiphumo enengqiqo unako ukujongana nokuphulwa komthetho ngamnye ngendlela echanekileyo kunye neluncedo.
Ziziphi iziphumo zomngcipheko?
Imiphumo engummangaliso yiphumo kwaye ayikho isohlwayo . Kodwa, bachazwa njengendlela evumela ukuba "isohlwayo silingane nobugebengu."
Imiphumo yengqiqo ihambelana ngqo nokungaziphathi kakuhle. Ngokungafani nemiphumo yemvelo, imiphumo enengqiqo kufuneka yenziwe kwaye iqiniswe nguwe. Kodwa, kunokuba bahlaziye abantwana ukuba bazive bazibi okanye bazama ukubanyanzelisa ukuba bangenise, iziphumo ezinengqiqo zifundisa abantwana indlela yokwenza ukhetho olungcono kwixesha elizayo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uluhlobo luni lohlobo lomzali okanye isiluleko sokusebenzisa, imiphumo enengqiqo ingaba yindlela efanelekileyo yokuqeqesha. Kwaye iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba, zisebenza kakuhle kubantwana bazo bonke ubudala kwaye zisebenza kakuhle kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuphulwa komthetho.
Imizekelo yeziphumo zengqiqo
Nazi ezinye iziphumo zemiphumo enengqiqo enika abantwana ithuba lokuthatha uxanduva lokuziphatha kwabo:
- Umntwana oneminyaka engama-8 ugibela ibhayisikili yakhe ngaphandle kwendlela yokulahleka ukuze alahlekelwe ngamalungelo akhe ngebhayisiki iiyure ezingama-24.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eli-10 uphonsa ibhola endlwini aze aphule isibane. Kufuneka enze imisebenzi yokufumana imali eyaneleyo yokuhlawula isibane esitsha.
- Umntwana oneminyaka engama-4 wenqaba ukuwuthatha iimboli zakhe. Ulahlekelwa ngamalungelo akhe ukuba adlale needodoli kulo lonke usuku.
- Umntwana oneminyaka engama-6 ubala umzobo kwifestile yekhofu. Ugcina umbala kwitafile esikhundleni sephepha lakhe. Ulahlekelwa iikhrayoni kulo lonke usuku kwaye kufuneka ancede abazali bakhe bahlambe baze bahlambulule itafile.
- Umntu oneminyaka engama-9 ubudala ulahlekelwa ibhasi ngenjongo . Unina unomqhubela esikolweni kodwa kufuneka enze imisebenzi yokufumana imali yegesi ukuhlawula ukukhwela esikolweni kwaye kufuneka ahlale emva kwesikolo ukuba enze ixesha elililahlekile kusasa.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eli-7 ula ukudla isidlo sakhe sakusihlwa. Ngenxa yoko, akavumelekanga ukuba abe ne-dessert okanye i-snack ngaphambi kokulala.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eli-11 akenzanga imisebenzi yakhe okwamanje. Akavunyelwe ukudlala nge-electronics okanye abe nelinye lamalungelo akhe ade asebenze imisebenzi yakhe.
Indlela yokwenza iziphumo ezinengqiqo
Imiphumo engqiqo isebenza kakuhle xa abantwana beqaphela imiphumo ngaphambi kwexesha. Xa kunokwenzeka, nikeza isilumkiso esinjengathi, "Ukuba awuyikubeka ibhayisikili yakho ngoku, awuyi kukwazi ukukhwela ngomso."
Oku kunceda ukuthintela umzabalazo wamandla apho umntwana ebanga akungalungi ngenxa yokuba wayengayazi imithetho. Ngokulumkisa umntwana ngaphambi kwexesha, unako ukhetho lokukhetha ngokuziphatha kwakhe.
Xa umphumo onengqiqo uquka ukuthatha ilungelo , misela ixesha.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuthatha ilungelo ngaphandle kweeyure ezingama-24 kuninzi. Ukususwa kwelungelo ixesha elide lingase lilahlekelwe ngempumelelo.
Kananjalo unako ukugqiba isigqibo sokuba uthathe ilungelo uze ufumane umntwana wakho. Ngokomzekelo, thabatha i-electronics yomntwana wakho kude ahlambulule igaraji. Emva koko, ushiye kuye ukugqiba xa efuna ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe. Musa ukuguqula, ukumemeza, okanye ukunyanzela ukuba uyenze.
Iziphumo ziphumelele kakhulu xa zikhawuleza. Ukuba umntwana unobungozi namhlanje kwaye akafumani umphumo kude kube ngomso, akakwazi ukudibana nomphumo wokuziphatha kakubi.
Qiniseka xa unika iziphumo ezinengqiqo, kodwa uhlale uzinzile.
Ukuba ukhala okanye ukwenza usongelo, umntwana wakho uza kukujonga njengesijeziso. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana wakho unokugxininisa ngakumbi kwihambo yakhe evuthayo, kunokuba amanyathelo angathatha ukutshintsha indlela aziphatha ngayo.
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