Ukukhathazeka ngokuzama ukubonisa ukuba ungumzali ongcono emehlweni enkundla? Ukuqonda umgangatho 'womzali ongcono' kunye nento enkundleni ekhangelwe ngayo kuya kukunceda ubeke umgcini wabantwana enkundleni kwaye ubeke uxinzelelo lwengxaki yakho yangoku.
Ukunakekelwa kwabantwana
Abazali abanethemba lokuphumelela ukugcinwa kwengane kufuneka baqale baqhelane nemithetho yokugcinwa kwabantwana ekulawuleni kwabo kwaye balungiselele ukubonakalisa enkundleni ukuba babe ngumzali ongcono.
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba injongo yodwa yenkundla yinto enomdla kumntwana, enokuthi angabandakanyi isigwebo sokugcinwa kwedwa.
Qonda i-Standard 'Parents' Standard Standard
Uninzi lwabazali luya kwintetho yokugcinwa kwengane ngenjongo yokufuna ukugcinwa kuphela. Kwabazali abathile, oku kungenxa yokuba bakholelwa ukuba omnye umzali "akafanelekanga" ukukhulisa umntwana wakhe. Abanye banokukhetha ukugcinwa kuphela kwezizathu. Nangona kunjalo, nayiphi na umzali enethemba lokunqoba umntwana kufuneka aqonde ukuba kukho umthwalo ophezulu wokubakho umzali ofuna ukugcinwa kwedwa. Ukunika ilungelo lokugcinwa kwedwa, iinkundla kufuneka zenze umzali omnye ' njengomzali ongcono ,' onokuba nzima ukwenza, ingakumbi ukuba ngaba babini abazali baye babandakanyeka kwada kwale ngongoma. Ukongezelela, abaninzi abagwebi banqwenela ukuthintela umzali ukuba abe nolwalamano nomntwana wabo kuba into yokuba abazali bobabini, kunye kunye, banako ukunyamekela umntwana.
Ngenxa yoko, nayiphi na umzali ofuna ukugcinwa kuphela kufuneka abonise ukuba unako ukunyamekela umntwana, okanye ngaphandle kokuncediswa komnye umzali.
Ukongezelela, ukusuka kwinqaba yejaji, abazali abafanele 'bathathane' ngexesha lokuvalelwa kwengane. Kunoko, umzali ofuna ukugcinwa kuphela kufuneka agxininise ekuboniseni ukuba ungumzali ongcono ngaphandle kokuhlaselwa ngumlingani wakhe.
Ukubonisa ukuba ungumzali ongcono
Abazali abafuna ukugcinwa kuphela kufuneka baqwalasele ezi zinto zilandelayo ukuxhasa isikhalazo sokugcina isicelo:
- Ukuphila kakuhle komntwana: Ngokomzekelo, gxininisa indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho, ukulala, ukutya ukutya, kunye nemisebenzi emva kokufunda esikolweni. Abagwebi bahlala bebona abazali abakhuthaza impilo yokuphila.
- I-Psychological Well-Being of the Child: Ngokomzekelo, ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana unokufumana ukuvakasha ngokukhululeka nomnye umzali. Abagwebi bathambekele ekuthandeleni abazali abaxhasa ngokucacileyo umntwana olwalamano oluqhubekayo nomnye umzali.
Cinga ngoNxibelelwano oluManyeneyo
Ngamanye amaxesha akukho mzali onokuwunqoba umntwana. Kunoko, inkundla inqabile ukucacisa ukuba umntu omdala ungumzali ongcono kwaye unqume ukulawula ngokubambisana ngokubambisana, okungekho ukugcinwa ngokusemthethweni komthetho okanye ukugcinwa komzimba ngokubambisana. Abazali bafanele baqaphele ukuba isigwebo sokugcinwa ngokubambiseneyo akusikho ilahleko. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ngokwenene imeko ihambelana neminqweno engcono yomntwana. Ukongezelela, ukugcinwa ngokubambisana kukuvumela abazali bobabini ukuba babelane ngemithwalo elinganayo ekunyamekeleni komntwana kwaye bancedise ukuququzelela ubophelelo olufanelekileyo phakathi komntwana kunye nabazali bobabini.
Vumelana neSicwangciso soBzali
Kwiimeko apho kungekho "mzali ongcono" kwaye kusetyenziswa ukuba inkundla ilawule ukugcinwa kokubambisana, abazali kufuneka basebenzisane kunye nokuqulunqa ishedyuli yomzali. Amazwe amaninzi afuna isicwangciso esibhaliweyo somzali, kodwa nangona urhulumente wakho akwenzi, kunokuba luncedo ukubeka iinjongo zakho phantsi kwiphepha uze usebenze kunye ukuseka ishedyuli esisebenzela wonke umntu ochaphazelekayo.
Ulungiswe nguJennifer Wolf