Indlela efanelekileyo yokusingatha iinkxalabo malunga nokuhanjelwa kwenkundla
IiNkundla zikwabela ukuhanjelwa ngenjongo yokukhuthaza abazali abangabikhoyo ukuba bahlale beqhagamshelana nabantwana babo rhoqo. Nangona kunjalo, oko kukhangeleka kwiphepha alisoloko kusebenza ngexesha langempela, ukushiya abazali abaninzi bebuza, "Ngaba ndiyakwenqaba ukuthumela abantwana bam enkundleni-ukuvakashelwa?"
Umzekelo:
- USherry ukhononda ukuba abantwana bakhe bachitha ixesha elide kunye nentombi yakhe yexesha elide ngexesha lokutyelela kunoyise
- Izingane zikaMarc zixhalabele ngokutyelela azinako ukulala iintsuku ngaphambi nangemva koko, zikhala kwaye zixelela ukuba abafuni ukuya
- UJanelle ukwesaba ukukhusela abantwana bakhe xa ebathumela ukutyelela ngenxa yembali yakhe yangaphambili yobundlobongela basekhaya kunye nokusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala
Le mizekelo embalwa yemingeni abazali abangabodwa abazama ukulandela imiyalelo yenkundla ngeli xesha benza okulungileyo kwiintsana zabo.
Ukususela kwimbono yeenkundla, ii-oda zokutyelela ziqinisekisa ukuba bobabini abazali bachithe ixesha kunye nabantwana babo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iinkundla ziyakuthanda amalungiselelo apho abantwana bagcina khona ubudlelwane kunye nabazali bobabini, nangona bahlala ngokukodwa okanye omnye. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iziganeko ezincinci apho umzali angafuna ukurhoxisa okanye ukunciphisa amalungelo omnye wokuvakasha komzali. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kufuneka ubonise ukuba ukutyelela kubangela ingozi kubantwana bakho.
Ukungafuni nje ukuba umnye umzali usebenzisa ixesha lakhe lokutyelelwa akuthathwa njengesizathu esivakalayo sokususa ilungelo lomzali lokutyelela.
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Umzali okholelwa ukuba abantwana bakhe basengozini esondeleyo banokungafuni ukuhanjelwa. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unesizathu sokukholelwa ukuba yakho yangaphambili isemzimbeni okanye ukuxhaphaza ngokwesini abantwana bakho, kuya kuba bubulumko ukuba ungabathumeli.
Kwamanye amazwe, umzali unokunqabela ukutyelelwa ukuba amanye amalungiselelo okuhlala enomzali acingelwa njengengozi, njengokuba uhlala kwindawo yokuhlala elwaphulo-mthetho. Ukongezelela, ukuba umntwana wakho wenqaba ukutyelelwa, akufuneki ukuba umnyanzele ukuba atyelele.
Yintoni Eya kwenzeka Ukuba Ndiya Kuthumela Abantwana Bami?
Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba abantwana bakho basengozini esiseduze, akufanele uwathumele ukutyelela. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kukho inkundla enikwe umyalelo wokugcinwa kwenkundla esele ikhona, unokubanjelwa incikivo yenkundla. Cinga ubungakanani bokukhathazeka kwakho ukhuseleko malunga nokusongela ukuba uya kubanjwa ngokunyaniseka uze wenze isigqibo sakho ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuba ingozi iyinyani, isigqibo esilungileyo siya kucaca kwaye uya kukwazi ukuba wenzeni.
Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka uqwalasele ukuba ngaba iinkxalabo zakho zifana nezikhetho. Umzekelo, unokukhetha ukuba abantwana bakho balale ngo-8: 00 ntambama ebusuku. Kwaye ngokubanzi, ukulala ubusuku obuhle kukuyingxenye yokuphila ngendlela enempilo. Kodwa ukuhlala kude kube ngu-10: 00 okanye ngo-11: 00 akuthethi ukuba abantwana bakho basengozini.
Yintoni endimele ndenze emva kokunquma ukuthumela abantwana bam ekutyeleleni?
Ukuba unobungane obuhle kunye neyokuqala kunye nenkxalabo yakho into anokulungisa, zama ukuthetha malunga nomcimbi.
Umzekelo, ukuba inkxalabo yakho ingaphezu kokusetyenziswa kakuhle kweendawo zokuhlala kweemoto, mcele ukuba abe nezihlalo zeemoto ezihlolwe. Uninzi lwamasebe amapolisa azakwenza oko mahhala. Ukuvumela ukuba umntu owaziyo ngaphambili ukuba enze ntoni ukunciphisa ukukhathazeka kwakho unokufumana ishedyuli yentsapho yakho yokubuya kwindlela.
Ukuba ungaziva ukuba unako ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo wakho ngomcimbi, okanye awuyi kukhuseleka ukwenza njalo, kufuneka ucele inkundla ukuba iguqule isivumelwano sakho sokugcina umntwana. Qwalasela iinkxalabo zakho ngaphambi kwexesha kwaye wabelane ngazo nejaji. Ukuba kusebenza, banikele ubungqina bokuxhasa ibango lakho, ngokunjalo.
Ijaji iya kuguqula ishedyuli yokutyelela okanye iyishiye. Ukuba ijaji ivakalelwa kukuba ukuhanjelwa kufuneka kuguqulwe, unokuyila inamba yezenzo zokulungisa, ezifana nokwenza ukuhanjelwa ngokubhekiselele kumzali ongeyena okhuselekileyo ohamba kwindawo ephephile okanye ukuya kwiingcebiso zokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi neziyobisi. Kwiimeko apho kukho izigxeko zokusetyenziswa gadalala, ijaji inokuyalela ukuba ukuhanjelwa kuhlolwe ngumntu onontlalontle okanye omnye umntu onoxanduva.
Ukuba wena kunye nomnye umzali akanalo ishedyuli yokutyelela inkundla ngoku, ngoku kube yinto elungileyo yokuya enkundleni nokudala ilungiselelo lokugcina umntwana. Kule ndlebe, unokwabelana ngeenkxalabo zakho uze uchazele ijaji isizathu sokuba ukholelwa ukuba ukutyelelwa kungabangela ingxaki kubantwana bakho.