Inentliziyo yakho, uzibophelele ekuphumeleleni ukugcinwa kwabantwana. Kodwa ngaba uyazi oko kufuneka ukwenze-kwaye ungenzi-ukwenza ukuba kwenzeke oko?
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Ezi zenzeko kunye neento ezingakunceda ziza kukubonisa ezinkundleni ekukhanyeni okugqwesileyo kwaye kukuncede uphumelele inkundla yakho yokugcina umntwana:
- Yibonise ukuzimisela ukusebenza kunye nomsebenzi wakho wokuqala. Abanye abazali baye balahlekelwa ngumntwana ngenxa yokubonakalisa ukungathandi ukusebenzisana nomnye umzali. Khawukhumbule ukuba ngelixa ungayithandi yakho yangaphambili, yena uyincinjana yobomi bentsapho yakho, kwaye kufuneka ubonise inkundla yentsapho ukuba uzimisele ukusebenzisana.
- Usebenzisa amalungelo akho omzali. Ukuba unikwe amalungelo okuvakasha kunye nezingane zakho, zisebenzise. Sebenzisa ixesha elininzi kunye nabo njengoko unako, kwaye qi ni sekise ukuba wenza izinto eziqhelekileyo, zemihla ngemihla-kuquka umsebenzi wesikolo kunye nemisebenzi .
- Ngaba ucele ukuhlolwa kokugcina ekhaya. Oku kunokuba luncedo kakhulu, ingakumbi ukuba unomdla wokuba i-ex yakho iya kuzama ukubonisa ingcamango embi ebomini bakho.
- Ngaba uqaphele ukuba imbono yinto yonke. Enye yezinto ezilukhuni kunzima ukuqonda kwixhoba lokugcinwa kwinqanaba liyiyo yokuba ayikukhathazeki ukuba oko kuthetha ntoni ngawe okanye akunjalo; oko kubaluleke ukuba ingaba inkundla ikholelwa ukuba yinyaniso. Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuzithobela enkundleni njengomzali onobuchule, obandakanyekayo, onothando. Oku kubandakanya ukufika ngexesha, ukugqoka enkundleni, nokubonakalisa ukuziphatha okufanelekileyo kwetyala phambi kwejaji.
- Ngaba uzifundise malunga nomthetho weentsapho. Funda phezulu kwimithetho yokugcinwa kwabantwana kwimeko yakho ukuze ukwazi ngokukhawuleza oko ukulindele.
- Yilungiselela amaxwebhu. Kwiimeko apho ukholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba abantwana bakho bangakhuselekanga nomnye umzali-umzekelo, ngenxa yokuba unembali yokuxhatshazwa ngokwenyama-kufuneka ubhale ngokucophelela ukusebenzisana kwakho kunye ne-ex yakho, kunye nokusebenzisana kwakhe nabantwana bakho . Kodwa qaphela ukuba omnye umzali unokuvakalelwa ngendlela efanayo ngawe kwaye unokulungiselela amaphepha afanayo enkundla.
- Yenza umsebenzi kunye nommeli ogcinwe ngumntwana. Nangona ungacingi ukuba unako ukufumana igqwetha, qulunqa ukubonisana ngokukhululekile ukuze uxoxe ngezinto ozikhethayo. Unokwazi ukujonga iikliniki zomthetho zamahhala kwindawo yakho, qhagamshelana nesahluko sendawo sase-American Bar Association, okanye ubuze uncedo lwabantu bezomthetho.
- Musa ukuthetha ngokungekho kakubi kubantwana bakho. Phambi kwezingane zakho, zama ukugcina izimvo zakho neemvakalelo zakho malunga nawe. Velisa ukukhungatheka kwakho kumhlobo othembekileyo, endaweni yoko.
- Musa ukufika ngokukhawuleza ukutyelela okanye ukupota. Izinto ezincinane ezifana nokubonisa ngokukhawuleza zingasetyenziselwa ukudala ingcamango embi yokuzinikela kwakho.
- Musa ukwenza umkhuba wokuhlaziya ixesha kunye nezingane zakho. Ukuphindaphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo ixesha lakho lokubeletha lingenza ukuba kubonakale enkundleni ukuba usanda kufaka i-custody ngaphandle kobuxoki - kungekhona ukuba ufuna ukugcinwa. Ngoko qiniseka ukuba ukhona xa uthi uya kuba njalo ukuba wakho umdala akakwazi ukubonisa iphetshana elibhalweyo enkundleni ebonisa kakubi kuwe.
- Ungasebenzisi kakubi utywala okanye iziyobisi, ngakumbi xa unabantwana bakho. Nantsi enye into enokuthi ibhalwe kwaye isetyenziswe kuwe. Qinisekisa ukuba akukho nkcazo yokuba wenza into ebangela ukuba abantwana bakho basengozini.
- Ungavumi ukwenza nantoni na inkundla ibuza kuwe. Eli lixesha lakho lokubonisa iinkundla ukuba uzinikezele kangakanani. Ngoko ukuba zifuna ukuba uthathe iiklasi zabazali okanye ufune ukululekwa, yenza njalo ngokukhawuleza. Jonga nje njengethuba lokubonisa ukuba uzimisele kangakanani ukuya kubantwana bakho.
- Musa ukubandakanya abantwana bakho kwimeko yamatyala. Unokulingwa ukuba wabelane ngeenkcukacha ngelo xesha kunye nezingane zakho, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba zibe ngabantwana ngoku kwaye zingabeki umthwalo wemicimbi yabantu abadala kumagxa abo.
- Musa ukuqulunqa amabali ambi kumzamo wokuwina. Ungalokothi ufikelele kwiimangalo ezingekho phantsi kwezinto zokuxhaphaza okanye ukugqithisa ukungaphumeleli kwexesha lakho ukuze ufumane ukugcinwa. Nawaphi na ubuxoki obunayo buya kubuya kwaye kusetyenziswe nxamnye nawe enkundleni.