Iingcebiso zoVavanyo lwabantwana abangama-10 abazali abangabodwa

Indlela yokucwangcisa ukuhlolwa kwengane yakho

Inkqubo yokuvavanya ukugcinwa kwinkqubo yokugada i-nerv-wracking kunoma yimuphi umzali. Qinisekisa ukuba uqulunqwe kakuhle ngala macebiso okuhlola:

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Mamela Ummeli wakho
Thetha kunye negqwetha lakho malunga nokuhlolwa komntwana wakho. Ifoto © Eric Audras / Getty Izithombe
Mamela ngokukhawuleza icebiso lakho. Uya kukuchazela inkqubo yokuvavanya kwaye uyakukunika imiyalelo ethile yokulandela. Qinisekisa ukuba ulandela ulwalathiso lwakhe.

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Qaphela uMsebenzi woVavanyo Umvavyili yingcali ezimeleyo. Akayena umhlobo wakho, umcebisi, okanye ummeli, nokuba ngaba ungumntu ocele ukuhlolwa. Ngoko ke, ungalokothi ucinge ukuba umhloli "unecala lakho." Umsebenzi wakhe ukuhlola ngokufanelekileyo oko kulungile kumntwana wakho.

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Ninyanisekile. Akunakuze, phantsi kweyiphi imeko, uxoxe nomhloli. Olu bungcali luqeqeshelwa ukuba lukhethwe kwiimpawu ezihambelana nokuxoka. Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba awukho inyaniso, kuya kubonakalisa kakubi kwisiphumo sokugqibela kuwe.

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Yilungiselele Intlanganiso Yakho Kuzo zonke iindleko, gcina rhoqo ukuqeshana kunye nomhloli, kwaye ufike kusasa okanye ngexesha. Ukongeza, qulunqa uluhlu lwemibuzo onayo. Unokufumana ukuba luncedo ukuhlawula nayiphi na imibuzo eyongeziweyo ngexesha lo dliwano-ndlebe. Oku kunokukunceda uhlale ugxininise ngethuba lencoko kwaye uvumele ukuhamba nokukhathazeka ukuba uya kukulibala ukucela into.

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Yenza Impembelelo Enhle

Qaphela ukuba ukuqala kokuqala kubalulekile. Qiniseka ukuba ikhaya lakho lihlambulukile kwaye lihlelekile. Kungabonakala kukuncinci, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uqwalasele ingcamango enokuthi ibe nayo yabanye ubunzima bakho bokubeletha ngokujonga nje kwifriji okanye kwindawo yokuhlamba. Kwakhona, mayeza ukuba iirekhodi zakho zesikolo kunye neirekhodi zezokwelapha zifikeleleke kwaye ziququzelelwe, ukuba umhloli unqwenela ukubhekisela kubo ngexesha lokutyelela ekhaya.

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Unesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo Uya kuba nethuba lokubonisa nayiphi na inkxalabo onayo malunga nomnye umzali. Qinisekisa ukuba awukho "umlomo ombi" kuye nayiphi na indlela. Endaweni yoko, yenza umgudu wokuxelela ngokwahlukileyo amandla kunye nobuthathaka obuyifumayo. Ukongezelela, musa ukwenza nayiphi na izityholo ngomnye umzali ongenakuxhaswa ngobungqina obuthile.

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Qinisekisa kwiingxaki zabazali Musa ukuxubusha iingxaki zomtshato ngokukhathazeka kwabazali. Ukuba ngumlingane ompofu akenzi umzali onobubi. Ukusebenzisa udliwano-ndlebe lwakho nomhloli ukuba uhlaziye iimfuno zakho zokungahambi kakuhle kunye nokungahloniphekiyo malunga nomtshato wakho akuyi kunceda ugcinwe ngumntwana wakho. Kungenza nokuba ube nombono wokuba unqabile ukuxhasa ukusebenzisana kwabo nomnye umzali.

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Ukusebenzisana Yibambisane kwaye uphendule yonke imibuzo ebuzwa ngumhloli. Kwakhona, qi ni sekise ukuba ulandele nantoni na yonke into umhloli ebuza yona ngaphambi kweentlanganiso zakho ezilandelayo. Oku kunokwenzeka, kuya kufuneka ukuba unikezele ngolwazi loqhagamshelwano kubantu abaningana abakwaziyo wena nentsapho yakho kakuhle, kwaye uya kufuna ukukhuphela ukukhutshwa ukuvumela umhloli ukuba athethe nala bantu.

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Gxininisa kwizinto eziMnandi kakhulu kubantwana bakho

Yilungele ukuxoxa ngokunyanisekileyo oko kukubaluleke kakhulu kubantwana bakho. Kungaba luncedo kumdlalo wokudlala lo mva kunye nomhlobo onokudlala "ummeli kaDeveli" kwaye uchaze iindawo apho ukuphawula kwakho kubonisa umdla wakho, kwaye kungekhona oko kubantwana bakho.

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Yiba nguwe

Okokugqibela, yiba nguwe! Xhumana ngokufudumele nabantwana bakho. Kwakhona, unayo imisebenzi yezinto ezizithandayo zezingane zakho, njengemidlalo yebhodi kunye neencwadi zokubalabala, ezizilungeleyo ngexesha lokutyelela ekhaya lokuvavanya. Ukubona abantwana bephumelela kwiindawo zokuhlala ekhaya, ngokuchasene nokuthathwa kwi-TV okanye kwinkqubo yemidlalo yemidlalo, baya kushiya umhloli ngomoya omshushu osebenze kanzima ukudala.