Ziziphi izinto eziQinisekisa Ngubani ofumana i-Child Care?
"Ngubani oya kugcina abantwana bethu, mna okanye wam?" Lo ngumbuzo we-dollar wezigidi zonke umzali olwa nokugcinwa kwengane ufuna ukwazi. Kwaye nangona kungenakwenzeka ukuchaza ngokucacileyo ukuba umgwebi uya kulawula njani kwimeko yakho, unokulindela ukuba ijaji inomnye umgomo engqondweni: ukugqiba umdla wabantwana bakho.
I-Best-Interests Standard and Child Custody
Abazali abaninzi bafumana le nto yezomthetho idideka.
Ngaba bonke abazali abafuni into engcono kubantwana babo? Inxalenye enkulu, ewe. Nangona kunjalo, kwininzi yamatyala okugcinwa kwabantwana abachaphazelekayo, iyawa kumgwebi ukufumanisa oko kuya kuba bhetele kubantwana, nangona babini bobazali beenjongo ezilungileyo kunye nezifiso ezikhuphisanayo.
Izinto ezisetyenziselwa ukuQinisekisa ukuThengiswa kwabantwana
Nangona kungekho Magic 8 Ibhola, unokulindela ukuba ijaji liqwalasele ezi zinto zilandelayo ngaphambi kokwenza isigqibo:
- Kubantwana bakho iminyaka. Nangona kungekho miselo onzima-kwaye, ngokuqhelekileyo iinkundla zikhetha ukugcina ukuvumelana, ngakumbi kubantwana abancinci. Njengoko abantwana bekhula, iinkundla zihlala zikulungele ukuqwalasela amanye amalungiselelo.
- Iinqwenelo zomzali ngamnye. Iinkundla ziya kufuna ukwazi ukuba yeyiphi na into oyithandayo. Nangona oko akuthethi ukuba umnqweno uya kunikwa, kufuneka ulindele ukuba ijaji licele ukukhethwa komzali ngamnye.
- Umgangatho wobudlelwane phakathi koonyana kunye nomzali ngamnye.
- Impilo yengqondo yomzimba yomzali ngamnye, kunye nabantwana.
- Ukuzimisela komzali ngamnye ukuxhasa nokuququzelela ubudlelwane obuqhubekayo nabantwana kunye nomnye umzali. Oku kubalulekile enkundleni kuba bafuna ukwazi ukuba akukho namnye kuni ozakuma endleleni yobudlelwane bakho nabantwana bakho.
- Enoba ngaba umzali unikezela uninzi lwabantwana ukunyamekela kweli nqanaba. Kweminye imimandla, iinkundla ziya kubheka ukugcina ukuvumelana. Ngoko ukuba omnye umzali unikela ngobuninzi benkathalo xa omnye ehamba ixesha elininzi, umzekelo, unokuchaphazela isigqibo sejaji.
- Ikhono lomzali ngamnye ukubonelela ngendawo ezinzile, enothando. Kwiimeko ezininzi, inkundla iya kubuza umzali ngamnye ukuba angenise ukuhlolwa kokugcinwa komntwana ukuze afunde okungakumbi malunga nale nxalenye yecala ngaphambi kokuba enze isigqibo.
- Indawo yokuhlala yokuhlala kwikhaya lomzali ngamnye. Kwezinye iimeko, inkundla inokufuna ukwazi ukuba abantwana baya kuba nelinye igumbi labo.
- Amandla ngamnye omzali wokubonelela izidingo zomzimba, ukunyameka kwengqondo kunye nokunyangwa kwezonyango. Inkundla inokucinga kwakhona ngeembono zamangqina kumntu egameni lomzali ngamnye.
- Izinga lokulungiswa kunye nokuqhotyoshelweyo phakathi kwabantwana kunye nekhaya labo, imimandla yesikolo kunye noluntu / ummandla.
- Indlela abaza kuchatshazelwa ngayo ngabantwana ngokuqhubeka nokulungiswa kwamalungiselelo okugcina okanye ukuphazamisa ilungiselelo.
- Iimfuno zabantwana (ukuba zithathwa njengezidala kwaye zikwazi ukuveza iminqweno yazo).
- Naluphina ubungqina obuqinisekisiweyo bodlova lwasekhaya, ukusetyenziswa kakubi, okanye ukunganakwa ngumzali.
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuba izityholo zobuxoki zokuxhaphazwa okanye ukunganakwa ziye zaziswa ngumzali kumnye.
Nangona le miba iboniswa ngokubanzi ekunqumeni ukugcinwa komntwana, imigaqo ekhethiweyo esetyenziswayo ihluka ukusuka kwiphondo ukuya kwilizwe. Ukuze ufunde okungakumbi malunga noko ungalindela kwimeko yakho, uphando ngemithetho yokugcinwa kwabantwana kwimeko yakho.