Indlela amagama akho anokutshintsha ngayo indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho.
Ukudumisa kuyindlela elula kodwa efanelekileyo yokuqeqesha eyenza ukuziphatha kakuhle. Ukucacisa xa umntwana wakho elandela imithetho okanye emxelela ukuba uyayixabisa ukuthobela kwakhe kuya kumkhuthaza ukuba aqhubeke nomsebenzi omuhle.
Ukunyamekela nokunyamekela
Khawucinge nje ukuma kwigumbi elinabantwana abathathu. Ababini babantwana badlala ngokuthula kunye namathoyizi.
Omnye umntwana uhamba ejikelezayo, eqaqa ifenitshala aze ahlasele. Ngumuphi umntwana oya kukwazi ukufumana ingqalelo yakho? Ukuba unjengabaninzi abazali, unokwenza unomdla ongakumbi.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba udumisa abantwana abaziphatha, unokutshintsha imeko yonke. Ukuthi, "Wow, ndiyayithanda indlela ohleli kuyo udlala ngokuthula," kunokushukumisela umntwana ongenzi kakuhle ukuba alandele.
Kodwa kulula ukuvumela ukuziphatha kakuhle kudla ngokungaqapheli. Kodwa xa abantwana bengaboni, bahlala besenza konke okufunekayo ukuze baqaphele-kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, oko kuthetha ukungaziphathi kakuhle. Xa unika umntwana wakho ingqwalasela yokuziphatha kakuhle, akayi kuba lula ukwenza okuthile.
Iingxaki Zincoma Inokunceda
Indumiso ingakhuthaza iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha. Thatha umntwana wakho kakuhle kwaye uyibeke.
Ukuqiniswa okulungileyo kuya kukukhuthaza ukuba iqhubeke. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokuziphatha ezinokumamela ngokukhethekileyo ukudumisa:
- Ukuziphatha kwangokwemvelo - Mdumise umntwana wakho ngokuhlanganyela, uguquka, usebenzisa amagama anomusa, kunye nokusebenzisana kakuhle nabanye.
- Ukuthobela - Mdumise umntwana wakho ngokulandela imithetho kunye nokuphulaphula imiyalelo yakho. Khumbula ukunyamekela xa umntwana wakho edlala ngokuzenzekelayo okanye ezithandayo.
- Umzamo - Xa umntwana wakho efunda isakhono esitsha, indumiso ingamkhuthaza ukuba aqhubeke ezama. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba udumisa umntwana wakho ngokuzimisela ukuzama kanzima okanye ukukwazi kwakhe ukunyamezela njengoko efunda, uya kwandisa iinjongo zakhe zokuqhubeka uzama.
Yenza Uzuko luphumelele
Ukudumisa kunye nokunyamekela okulungileyo kunempilo xa kunikwa ngokufanelekileyo. Nazi ezinye iindlela zokwenza indumiso yakho iphumelele ekukhuthazeni ukuziphatha okuhle:
- Ukunika ingxelo ngokukhawuleza kwaye rhoqo. Ukunikezela indumiso rhoqo xa umntwana wakho edlala ngokukhawuleza ixesha elide okanye ukuba usebenza kanzima kwiprojekthi yonke imva kwemini.
- Yenza udumo olucacileyo. Esikhundleni sokuthi "Umsebenzi omuhle," uthi, "Umsebenzi omhle ukubeka iplate yakho kwindawo yokucima xa ndakucela ukuba." Oku kukucacisa ukuba udumisa ukuthobela kwakhe ngokukhawuleza.
- Hlaziya indumiso yakho ngokufanelekileyo. Esikhundleni sokuthi, "Umsebenzi oncomekayo ungagcini ," uthi, "Ndiqhayisa ngawe ngokuhlala uzinzileyo xa ndithi awukwazi ukuphuma ngaphandle." Yichaza indlela oziphatha ngayo ofuna ukufumana ngaphezulu, kungekhona ukuziphatha kwakho nethemba lokunciphisa. Ungaze udibanise indumiso kunye nokugxekwa, okanye uya kulahleka.
- Dumisani umzamo, kungekhona umphumo. Ukudumisa kunokwakha ukuzithemba ngokufanelekileyo xa uyisebenzisa ukubonisa umzamo wakho womntwana. Kunokuba udumise umntwana wakho ngokufumana i-100, dumisani ukuzimisela kwakhe ukufundisisa uvavanyo.
- Ukunikezela indumiso yangempela. Kunokuba uthi, "Ungumntwana onamandla kunazo zonke," okanye, "Ungumdlali webhola ekhatywayo kwisikolo sonke," unikezele indumiso. Thetha izinto ezinje, "Ungumgijimi omuhle," okanye "Unomsebenzi omkhulu wokufumana umsebenzi wesikolo."
- Gwema iileta. Amabhanki, nangona xa athembekileyo, ayilona ngcamango efanelekileyo. Ukubhekisela kumntwana wakho ngokuthi "ingqondo yakho encinci," okanye "inkwenkwezi yebhola," kunokubangela ukuba umntwana wakho acinge ukuba yinto eyaziwayo. Gxininisa indumiso yakhe ekuziphatheni kwakhe, kungekhona iimpawu zakhe.
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Unokuthintela ukuziphatha kakubi ngokubamba umntwana wakho entle. Kodwa, xa umntwana wakho ephula imithetho, kubalulekile ukubonelela ngemiphumo emibi eya kumnqanda ukuba angaphathi kakubi kwixesha elizayo.
Xa umntwana wakho enenkinga ethile yokuziphatha, yenza isicwangciso esicacileyo sokuba ungasebenzisa indumiso ukukhuthaza ukuziphatha kakuhle.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uxabela umntakwabo xa ecaphukile, gxotha amandla akho ekumdumiseni ngokusebenzisa amagama anomusa, ukuthintela kakuhle, kunye nezakhono zokulungisa iingxaki.
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