Ngaba uke wanikela xa umntwana wakho ecinezelayo kwaye ekhunga ? Ngaba uthatha into yokudlala okanye ilungelo lokuziphatha kakubi nje kuphela ukulibuyisela ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho uthembisa ukuba ulungile? Le mizekelo nje embalwa yento ekuthethwa ngayo ukuba ngumzali we-pushover.
Ukuba yi-pushover yenza ukuba lula kubazali kulula kwixesha elifutshane. Unokwenza umntwana wakho ujabule, ubalekele ukuphazamiseka, uze uhambe ngosuku ngaphandle kwemfazwe.
Kodwa kwixesha elide, ukuxhaswa phantsi nokunika kuyo kuza kubangela iingxaki zomntwana kunye nomntwana wakho.
1. Umntwana wakho akayi kukuthabatha
Ukuba wenza izisongelo ezingenanto okanye ubuyela kwigama lakho, umntwana wakho akayi kukuthabatha. Uya kufunda ukuthetha okuthethayo kuba ukuziphatha kwakho akuhambisani namagama akho.
Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bakwazi ukuba uthetha oko utshoyo kwaye uthetha oko uthethayo. Ngaphandle koko, umntwana wakho akayi kukujonga njengento ethembekileyo, igunya elifanelekileyo.
2. Ukuziphatha kakubi kuqinisekiswa
Xa umntwana wakho ekhala ngenxa yokuba uthe akakwazi ukufumana enye icookie, kwaye uyayinika, umfundise ukuba ukukhala kuyindlela efanelekileyo yokufumana oko akufunayo. Njalo xa unikezela kumntwana wakho-nokuba ngaba uziva unetyala okanye ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukuphepha ukugqithiswa ngokupheleleyo-uqinisa ukuziphatha kakubi.
Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana baqonde ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi akusebenzi. Ngaphandle koko, ukuziphatha kakubi kuya kuba kubi kakhulu.
Bonisa umntanakho ukuba awuyi kunika ukukrakra , ukugcoba , okanye ukuvakalisa ukuba, "Unomama onzima kakhulu!"
3. I-Cop Cop / Bad Cop Scenarios
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, xa umzali omnye engumfundi, omnye umzali uhlawula ngokunyanisekileyo . Oku kunokumisela umzali omnye kuba yipolisi elungileyo kwaye enye iphosa elibi.
Ingumkhuba onobubele onobubele ongabangela ukudideka kunye nokukhungatheka kwabantwana.
Sebenza kunye neqabane lakho kumzali njengeqela. Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho abone ukuba bobabini uncedisana kunye nokuqinisa imithetho ngendlela efanayo.
4. Umntwana Wakho Unokufumana Iimiphumo ezimbi
Abantwana abakhulayo nabazali abangaphezulu okanye abavumelekile banokubonakalisa imiba yokuziphatha. Basenokuba nako ukufumana imicimbi yezempilo, ukusuka ekutyebeni ukuya kumathambo amazinyo.
Izingane zidinga abazali abagunyazayo abangakwazi ukubeka imida baze banamathele kubo. Ngoko nokuba unyanzelisa umntwana wakho ukuba aqhube amazinyo akhe okanye unqabe ukumvumela ukuba adle enye incedisayo, ukwenqaba ukuba yi-pushover kuya kuphucula impilo yengane yakho nentlalo.
5. Abantwana Abafuni Ukuhlawulwa
Nangona umntwana wakho angaziphatha kakuhle, kwaye unokuthi ufuna ukwenza imithetho, abantwana abanqweneli ukuba balawulwe. Enyanisweni, abantwana abangaboni ngathi abazali babo banakho konke okuphantsi kokulawula banokukhathazeka. Yaye xa ungeke ukwazi ukubeka imida ecacileyo kunye nemida ephilileyo, umntwana wakho uya kubuza ukukwazi kwakho ukumgcina ekhuselekileyo.
Bonisa umntwana wakho ukuba xa ubeka umda, njengaye, "Akukho ukuhamba ngebhayisikili yakho kuloo mthi," ukuba uya kuqinisekisa ukuba ulandela loo mgaqo.
Ukuba uhlala ugoba imithetho, okanye unganiki umphumo xa loo mithetho iphukile, umntwana wakho akanakho ukuzithemba ukuba uya kuthatha amanyathelo afanelekileyo ukuze umgcine ekhuselekile.
Ukuphula Umkhondo Wokuba ngumzali wePushover
Akukaze kube mva ukuba utshintshe isitayela sakho somzali . Ukugqiba ekubeni uya kuba mvume kakhulu kwaye ube negunya, kuya kuba ngcono kuwe nomntwana wakho.
Ukuba usetyenziselwa ukuba ube yi-pushover, nangona kunjalo, kunokuba nzima ukuphula umjikelo. Iingxaki zendlela yokuziphatha ziba zimbi ngakumbi ngaphambi kokuba zibe ngcono.
Xa uzama ukuma umhlaba wakho, umntwana wakho uya kubiza okokuqala, ngoko kuya kufuneka ulungele ukuma uqinile.
Ukuphuhlisa icebo lokukunceda ukujongana neengxaki zokuziphatha ezinokuvela xa ungaziniki.
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