"Nceda, Mama? Ngaba sinako? " La mazwi aphindaphindiwe ngokuphindaphindiweyo anganxiba nokuba ngumzali onqabileyo.
Kodwa ingaba umntwana wakho uyakunxusa ukuba uhlale ixesha elide emva koko okanye ukukubethelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba uye kwindawo yokudlala, zonke iintsapho zibazali babo ngexesha elinye.
Indlela oyiphendula ngayo ekutyikitheni nasekucebiseni yintloko. Ukuba awuqapheli, ungakukhuthaza ukuba ungaqhubekeki.
Ukuba umntwabakho uyabetha, uyabetha kunye neengxaki ngaphambi kokuba ungasayi kuphinda uthabathe, ezi zicwangciso zokuziphatha zingakunceda ukuba umfundise ukuba "akukho nto ithetha."
1. Ungaze uphumelele
Uninzi lwabafundi bafunda ukususela kumncinci obacaphukisa abazali babo ukuba bangenise enye yezona zixhobo ezifanelekileyo kakhulu. Kodwa, ngokukhawuleza ekuncengeni komntwana wakho, uya kugxininisa ukuba ukuphazamiseka kuyindlela efanelekileyo yokufumana oko akufunayo.
Yenza kucacise kumntwana wakho ukuba ukuphazamiseka akuyi kusebenza. Ukuba uthethile cha, xelela ukuba ukucela akuyi kutshintsha ingqondo yakho. Ukubuyela emva kwegama lakho kuya kwandisa iingxaki zokuziphatha ngaphezu kwexesha elide.
2. Hlalani Ucocekile
Ukulahlekelwa kukupholisa kwakho kuyomeleza kumntwana wakho ukuba unamandla okukukhubaza. Okwenzakalayo ukuba ube nguwe, mhlawumbi uya kuba uqhube okanye utsho into ozisola ngayo.
Thatha ukuphefumula okukhulu, hamba kude, okanye uphinde uphinde uqinisekise ukuba zizinto ezimbalwa zokuhlala uxolo xa umntwana wakho engenzi kakuhle .
3. Qaphela iiprotesti eziqhubekayo
Ukunyamekela ukuziphatha ngokukhawuleza ngenye yezindlela ezilungileyo zokumisa imikhwa ecasulayo. Kulula nje, vuka kwaye ungamncedi umntwana wakho nje nje ekukukhathazayo. Xa eqonda ukuba iinzame zakhe zokufumana ingqwalasela ayisebenzisekanga, ekugqibeleni uyayeka.
Ngamanye amaxesha, iingxaki zokuziphatha ziba zibi ngakumbi ngaphambi kokuba zibe ngcono. Oku kunyanisekileyo xa uhoxisa ingqalelo yakho. Ngoko ungamangalisi xa umntwana wakho ephakamisa ilizwi lakhe okanye eba nexhala xa ufuna ukunyamekela.
Ukuba uyacaphukiswa kukuba awuphendulanga, thatha njengobubungqina bokuthi uyamkhathalela ngempumelelo-akafumani ingqalelo kwaye usebenza nzima ukuba ukhangele. Ekugqibeleni, uya kukhathala xa imizamo yakhe ingaphumeleli.
4. Nika isilumkiso esisodwa
Ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kudlula umgca ungena nto ungayihoyi-njengokuba uyakhala ngokukhawuleza kwindawo kawonkewonke okanye uqala ukumbamba kwisambatho sakho-unike isilumkiso esisodwa. Sebenzisa " ukuba ... ke isitatimende " kwaye ulungele ukulandela.
Zama ukuthetha into enjengokuthi, "Ukuba ungayeki ukumemeza, kuya kufuneka uhambe ngokukhawuleza." Qinisekisa ukuba ukhetha umphumo olungele ukuyisebenzisa.
5. Landela Ngokulandela
Ukuba umntwana wakho akahambelani, landela ngeempembelelo ezimbi. Unganikeli izilumkiso eziphindaphindiweyo okanye ugxininise ukuba unzima.
Endaweni yoko, mbeke ngexesha lokuphuma , uthathe ilungelo , okanye sebenzisa umphumo onengqiqo . Yenza kucacise ukuba xa ukugqithisa ukuwela umgca, akuyi kunyamezela.
6. Qha kamelana nesiyalo sakho
Ukubambisana kuyisisitshixo sokucima ukuguquka nokutshatyalaliswa. Ukuba unika kwiintsuku xa ukhathele okanye xa udidekile, uya kutshintsha imizamo yakho.
Njalo xa unikezela, umntwana wakho ufunda ukuba ukuphazamiseka kuyasebenza. Yaye iya kuba yinto engakumbi yokutshatyalaliswa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye uya kukutshutshisa. Qinisekisa ukuba uhamba ngendlela yokuziphatha ngendlela efanayo ngexesha ngalinye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba unjani uvakalelo.
7. Fundisa Iindlela Zakho Zempilo Zokuncedisa Ngeemvakalelo
Abazali beengxaki zezilwanyana ngezizathu ezibini ezibalulekileyo-bafuna ukufumana indlela yabo kwaye abafuni ukuziva bazibi. Ngoko ekuzameni ukuziva uhlungu okanye udidekile, umntwana unokukutshutshisa ukuze wenze konke afuna.
Fundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokujongana neemvakalelo ezinokukhathazeka ezifana nokuxhalaba, ukudabuka kunye nomsindo. Ummiselo womzwelo ubuchule obubalulekileyo obuya kumkhonza umntwana wakho ebomini.
Ukufundisa ngokufanelekileyo umntwana wakho ukuphilisana nezakhono eziza kumnceda ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe ngendlela eyamkelekileyo yentlalo. Ngokomzekelo, mfundise imifanekiso embala xa eve buhlungu okanye emfundisa ukuba abhale kwiphephancwadi xa ecasulwa. Xa sele engakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe, uya kuba nexhala kakhulu ngokuzama ukulawula ukuziphatha kwabanye abantu.
Ukuthintela i-Whining, Ukunyamezela, nokucela
Ukuba umntwana wakho unomkhuba omubi wokukhenkceza, ukuphazamisa, nokucela, unokufuna ukuthatha inyathelo kwaye ujonge iinkqubo zakho zokuba ngumzali. Thatha amanyathelo okukhuthaza ukubulela nokufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ambulele oko anako. Emva koko, akayi kuba lula ukuba agxininise ukuba uhlala efuna ngaphezulu.
Kwakhona, yenze umkhwa wokuthetha ngeemfuno ngokumalunga nokufunayo . Xa eqonda ukuba ngelixa ukutya kuyimfuneko, i-ayisikrimu yintando. Yenza kucacise ukuba unokuphila ngaphandle kokufunwa ezininzi kunye nokuncinca kwaye uyakuthi ayitshintshe loo nto.
> Imithombo
> I-American Academy yePediatrics: Ukusebenzisa iziphumo .
> HealthyChildren.org: Iingcebiso ezili-12 zokufundisa abantwana Ukubonga.