Ukulungiswa kwakhona kufana nokusebenzisa ubugcisa bokulwa. Ufuna ukuzama nokusebenzisa amandla omdlali wakho, ngoko uya kuzama uvuselele amandla omntwana wakho kumntwana onento enhle. Ukubuyiselwa kwemisebenzi kumisa umsebenzi ongalunganga ngokukhawuleza kwaye ubeka umgangatho wokufunda okulungileyo kokungalunganga. Ukuba uhlala usebenzisa indlela efanayo yokuziphatha , njengokumxelela nje umntwana wakho ukuba ayeke umsebenzi, oku kusebenza kuphela kwisiqingatha somsebenzi.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuziphatha okukhubekile kuyekile, kodwa awuzange uqalise ukuxhobisa umntwana wakho nayiphi na enye indlela efanelekileyo okanye iimpahla ezithandayo.
Ukuba unake uqhuba ngeyure kwaye ufumene amazinyo akho, uyaqonda ukuxhamla phakathi kwelo nyathelo kunye noxinzelelo oluvakalelwa ngalo. Umncinane ohamba ngesigaba sokumanga akaqondi ukuxhamla kodwa emva kokuba isiganeko singakwazi ukufumana uxinzelelo. Ungakwazi ukuhanjiswa kunye nokunciphisa ukuxhatshazwa ngokunikela into efanelekileyo ukuluma njengendwangu yokuhlamba ebandayo okanye isetter. Qinisekisa ukuqinisekisa ukuba kulungile ukuluma iinqwelo zokuhlamba kodwa kungabalimi abantu.
U mzekelo
Ngoko, ukuba umntwana wakho uyakhala kwaye akhwaza egumbini lokuhlala, unokuthi, "Ukumemeza akuvumelekanga ngaphakathi, kodwa singakwazi ukuphuma ngaphandle kwaye sijonge." Okanye unako ukunikela ukuba umntwana wakho aye egumbini lakhe kunye nomculo kwaye akhuthaze ingoma enkulu.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ubeka isanti kumdlali odlala naye, mkhuphe kwi-sandbox uze unike ibhola esikhundleni.
Unokukhubaza okwesikhashana umnqweno womntwana wakho wokukuxelela, "Hayi!" ngokuyijika kwaye uyivumele. Ukuba ufumana "u-NO" onqabileyo ekuphenduleni kwisicelo, cela umbuzo onobuqili onje, "Ngaba ufuna ukutya iimbongolo ezinqabileyo kwixesha lesidlo sakusasa kunokutya kwesonka?" Emva koko umntwana wakho uziva ngathi unako ukukwazi ukukuxelela, kodwa ukungabi nantoni eyenza ukuhamba ngesandla kunye nomntwana onqabileyo uye wahlukana.
Khumbula, nangona kunjalo, ukuba "ii-NO" eziqhelekileyo ezivela kwintombazana yakho ziyinxalenye eqhelekileyo yophuhliso kwaye ngokwenene zimnceda ukuba azibonele ngokwakhe. Londoloza ukulungiswa kwezihlandlo xa ezi kukukhathaza kakhulu kwaye ufuna ukuphuka kuyo.
Ukuqhawula phezulu
Njengokuba kukho imeko ezininzi zokuba ngumzali, akukho nto ifanayo-ifanayo-yonke indlela yokuziphatha komncinci. Uqeqesho olungakumbi oluluncedo lwakho oluluncedo. Abazali banokufumanisa ukuba ngaphezu koko baxhomekeke kwindlela enye, indlela engasebenzi ngayo. Xa usebenzisa i-redirection, hlawula ingqalelo indlela impendulo yomntwana wakho ngayo. Yiba ngokulinganayo njengoko kunokwenzeka, kodwa hlala uguquke xa ufumanisa ukuba ukulungiswa kwakhona akusebenzi. Unokufuna ukuzama enye yalezi zixhobo zobuncinane bokuqeqesha .