Izindlela eziphumelelayo zokulawula ingxaki efanayo yokungahloneli abantwana
Umbuzo wendlela yokuphatha abantwana abangcolileyo kuyinto eninzi abazali abaye bajamelana nayo ngenye indlela. Ukuthembela kubantwana kuyinkalo eqhelekileyo, ingakumbi kubantwana abancinane kwiminyaka yabo encinane kunye nakwishumi elivisayo. Ingxenye eqhelekileyo yokuphuhliswa komntwana kwaye ingabonakaliswa ekuziphatheni ezifana nokuthetha emva okanye ukungathobeli abazali, ootitshala nabanye abantu abadala.
Phakathi kwabantwana abaneminyaka esikolweni, ukuxhatshazeka kuya kuthatha indlela yokuphikisana nawe okanye ungenzi nto into oyicelileyo (okanye yenzayo kakhulu, ngokukhawuleza kakhulu) kunokuba intukuthelo epheleleyo, enokuthi ibe yinto enokuthi ivele kubantwana abancinci. Umntwana wakho unokuzama ukulawula imeko okanye ukumemezela ukuzimela kwakhe. Unokuvavanya umda kunye negunya lakho. Mhlawumbi unokubonisa ukungathandi kwakhe into oyicelile ukuba ayenze, njengokuthatha amathoyizi akhe okanye ukwenza imisebenzi yakhe.
Xa ukungaqiniseki akukho oko kubonakalayo
Kwezinye iimeko, into ebonakala ngathi iyinqambi ingaba ngumntwana okhwaza ngenxa yokuba ugxile kakhulu kumsebenzi. Ukuqonda okubangela ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kuyincandelo ebalulekileyo yokujongana nengxaki yomntwana obonakala echasayo.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuziphatha okungcolileyo okuqhubekayo ixesha elide kwaye liphazamise ukusebenza komntwana esikolweni kwaye ubudlelwane bakhe kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo banokuba ngumqondiso wento ebizwa ngokuba yi-contraction disorder disorder, okanye i-ODD.
Kubantwana abano-ODD, ukungahloniphi kubonakaliswe ziziphathamandla ezinjengeentlungu okanye ubundlobongela obonakala bungafanelekanga kumntwana. Abantwana abane-ODD banokubonisa ezinye iingxaki ezifana nokudandatheka, uxhalaba okanye i-ADHD. Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntwana wakho unokufumana i-ODD, qhagamshelana nodokotela wengane yakho, amaqela enkxaso kunye nezinye izibonelelo ze-ODD ukuze ufumane uncedo nolwazi.
Indlela yokuLawula ukuthembeka kwabantwana
Fumana kwingcambu yokuziphatha kwakhe. Khangela izizathu kunye neziphumo kwaye uzame ukugcina ukulandelwa komntwana wakho. Ngaba kukho iphethini? Ngaba zikhona izinto ezithile azithandiyo okanye azifuni ukuzenza? Ngaba unqabile xa izinto zibuhlungu okanye zikhawuleza?
Kwakhona, qiniseka ukuba uye wucacile ngokwaneleyo malunga nemithetho kunye nemisebenzi yendlu, kwaye ukuba bafanelekile ukuze umntwana wakho alandele. (Ngokomzekelo, umntwana oneminyaka engama-5 okanye engama-6 unokufumana ukuxakeka ukuba axelelwe ukuba ahlambulule igumbi lakhe kwaye unokukwazi ukwenza umsebenzi ongcono xa uyiphula kwimisebenzi encinci, njengokuthabatha amathoyizi akhe phantsi kwaye kukunceda ubenqume.) Emva kokuba uphando ngeyona nto, ungathatha amanyathelo okulungisa imeko ukuze akwazi ukukuphikisa.
Misela umntwana wakho ukuziphatha kakuhle. Zama ukuphepha iimeko apho umntwana angase akwazi ukuyihlamba okanye abonise ukuziphatha okubi. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uyazi ukuba umntwana wakho uthambekele ekufumaneni i-cranky xa eninzi kwiqhekeza yakhe, zama ukuba ungamisela izinto ezininzi kuye emva kwesikolo okanye ngeveki. Ukuba uyazonda ukuguquka ngokukhawuleza, zama ukuvumela ixesha elongezelelweyo xa usuka kwenye into ukuya kwenye.
Phatha umntwana wakho njengoko ufuna ukuphathwa. Kanye njengokuba zikhulile, umntwana wakho oqhelekileyo unokuzihlaziya. Unokuba nomoya ombi, okanye unokuziva ephazamiseke kwaye efuna ixesha lokuchitha ixesha. Qiniseka malunga noko akumele akwenze, kodwa uthetha naye ngendlela enothando nangengqiqo. Xa ubeka umzekelo omhle ngendlela yokubonisa uluvo okanye ukungavumelani ngendlela enothando nangenhlonipho, abantwana bakho baya kulandela.
Zisebenzise ngamakhono akhe omlomo. Abazali besikolo esikhulileyo abantwana banenzuzo ekhethekileyo kubazali bezingane ezincinci xa kuziwa ekujonganeni nokuziphatha kakubi njengokungcoliseki: Bakwazi ukuthetha.
Xoxa nomntwana wakho oko akufunayo, kwaye uzame ukuphumeza isisombululo esisebenzela bobabini.
Ukuseka imithetho esemthethweni. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi kakuhle oko akumele akwenze kwaye akamele akwenze. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uthetha nawe ngento ehloniphekileyo yinto engenawo uqobo kuyo yonke indlu yakho, yenze kucacise kumntwana wakho ukuba kuya kuba nemiphumo xa ibonisa uhlobo lokuziphatha.
Ukuncintisana xa unakho. Ingaba umntwana wakho ugxininisa ekumbathweni kwakhe kwincinci yengubo ebusweni obushushu? Esikhundleni sokubandakanyeka empini, unokukwazi ukuza kulungelelanisa, njengokumcela ukuba agqoke iiglasi okanye i-leggings nge skirt. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kuluvo oluhle lokunika xa umntwana wakho efuna ukulawula into encinci ukuze ukwazi ukuqina ngakumbi xa kuziza izinto ezinkulu.
Xoxa ngeendlela. Ngamanye amaxesha, umntwana unokubonakalisa ukuziphatha okungcolileyo ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukuthetha ngokuthe xaxa okanye ukuba wenza njani izinto. Enye indlela yokunceda umntwana wakho azive ngathi unako ukulawula ngaphezulu izinto kukumnika ezinye izinto. Umzekelo, xa ubeka iiparameters (njengokuthi, "Iimidlalo kufuneka zitshitshwe" okanye "Umsebenzi wesikolo makaqedele"), sebenza kunye nomntwana wakho xa uya kwenza loo misebenzi (iityshi zingasuswa ngaphambi kokulala okanye Umsebenzi wesikolo unokwenziwa emva komdlalo wokutya okanye umzuzu ongama-30 womdlalo wokukhulula, umzekelo).