Intetho ebuyayo yinkxalabo ephazamisayo kodwa eqhelekileyo enokuthi ikhutshwe
Enye yezinto eziphambili zokuziphatha kwabazali abazali kufuneka bajongane nendlela yokujongana nomntwana othetha nabo. Intetho ebuyayo inokwenzeka malunga naluphi na ubudala, eqala ngokukhawuleza nje xa abantwana beqala ukuqala okokuqala "Hayi!" Kuyinxalenye eqhelekileyo yophuhliso lwabantwana.
Ukuphendula emva kwakhona kunokubangelwa ziziintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo. Ingakwazi ukusuka kumntwana ezama ukuzama ukulawula ubomi bakhe njengento anxibe ngayo, adle okanye akwenze.
Ingaba yindlela yomntwana yokuvavanya imida yakhe. Okanye kunokuba yinto yokumelana nokulamba okanye ukukhathala.
Oku kuthethi, intetho yokubuyisela into ethile abazali kufuneka bathathe amanyathelo okulungisa ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza. Njengabazali, ngumsebenzi wethu ukufundisa abantwana bethu indlela yokubonisa iimfuno zabo kunye nezimvo ngendlela ehloniphekileyo neyakhayo.
Indlela yokuphatha abantwana abathethayo
Fumana uxolo; Hlala uphole. Indlela oyiphendula ngayo kwiimpendulo zakho zomntwana unokubeka itoni ekusebenzisaneni kwakho. Abantwana bangaba nezakhono kakhulu ekuxhaseni amaqhosha abazali . Kungaba nzima ukuphendula kumntu oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala othi, "Awuyena umphathi wam!" ngokukhawuleza, "Enyanisweni, ndinguye!" Kodwa xa ubonisa ukuba uzolile kwaye ulawula, umisela umzekelo kumntwana wakho kwaye umbonise indlela afanele aziphathe ngayo.
Ungangeni kwimfazwe yamazwi. Xa abazali besabela kwingxoxo yabantwana kunye neengxelo zabo, abachazi ngokucacileyo ukuba le ndlela eyamkelekileyo yokusingatha ingxabano.
Ukuba awufuni ukuba umntwana wakho afunde ukuba iibhanki zorhwebo yindlela efanelekileyo yokuxoxa ngeengxaki, ngoko ungaphenduli de ube ungathetha ngendlela ezolile. Ngamafutshane, ukuba ufuna ukunqanda ukuthetha kwakhona kumntwana wakho, ungalondli inkunzi yentetho yokuthetha.
Khumbuza ukuba le nxalenye yendalo yophuhliso. Ukuthetha emva koko yinto yonke eyenziwa ngabantwana ngokwemvelo njengoko ikhula ngokuzimeleyo kwaye ixhomekeke.
Njengoko kuphazamiseka njengokuba oku kuziphatha, zikhumbuze ukuba umntwana wakho akaphendulanga ngenxa yokuba wenza into engalunganga okanye ngenxa yokuba ayikuhloneli.
Gcina umgca xa uthetha intetho elandelayo. Ingaba umntwana wakho uyacaphuka emva kwesikolo okanye emva kwemisebenzi yechungechunge? Ngaba uhlala ebonisa ukuziphatha okubi njengokuba uthetha emva xa engazange alale ngokwaneleyo ? Zama ukugcina iithebhu xa umntwana wakho ebuyela kwakhona ukuze uthabathe amanyathelo okutshintsha okanye ukuphelisa loo nto.
Nika kwaye ucele inhlonipho. Xa umntwana wakho ebonisa uluvo lwakhe ngento ethile, ngokwenene into enhle. (Enyanisweni, uphando lubonisa ukuba abantwana abaneengcamango zabo kunye neengcamango zabo kwaye abanesibindi sokubhengeza abaxhomekeke engozini yokuhamba kunye noontanga abanokuzama ukusebenzisa iziyobisi kunye notywala.) Oku kuthetha ukuba kubalulekile ukuba abazali balinganise ukuqonda kunye nemfuno yokuhlonipha. Nangona abantwana besazi ukuba bakhuselekile ukuvakalisa izimvo zabo kwaye loo mama nobaba bephulaphule oko bacinga nokuziva, kufuneka baqonde ukuba ukuthetha nawe ngokuhloniphayo nangokuzithobayo akuxoxiswanga. Qinisekisa ukugxininisa umyalezo ongeke uliphulaphule oko bathethayo ukuba bakwazi ukuthetha nawe ngendlela ezolile kwaye ehloniphekileyo .
Bonisa umntwana wakho ukuba ulalele. Xa wena kunye nomntwana wakho sele nilumkile, nikela ingqalelo yakho ngokupheleleyo ngengane yakho. Bonisa umntanakho ukuba xa egcina isiphelo sakhe sokuthetha ngokuthetha nawe ngendlela ehloniphekileyo nokuzola ukuchaza oko akufunayo okanye ukucinga - uyayifumana kwaye ayifumene. Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uhlale uvuma, kodwa uya kufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba uyayivuma umbono wakhe.
Khangela oko umntwana wakho akubonayo. Yiyiphi imiboniso yeTV ekhangayo? Uninzi lubonisa namhlanje lubonisa abantwana bexoxa nabantu abadala kwaye bavame ukubonisa ukugculela kunye nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo. Nangona oko kulungile ukuba uhlaziye, ngokuqinisekileyo awunjalo uhlobo lomzekelo ofuna ukuba umntwana wakho abe naso.
Funa uncedo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uhlala ekhuluma ngokuphindaphindiweyo intetho, imizamo yakho yokunqanda ukuziphatha ayinakuchukumisa, kwaye ubona ezinye iziphathamandla ezifana nokucaphuka, ukulahla, kunye nokungafuni ukuphulaphula okanye ukulandela izikhombisi-ndlela, khuluma nomntwana wezingane. Umntwana wakho unokufumana ingxaki yokuchasana, okanye i-ODD, enokulawulwa kunye nokuphathwa ngoncedo olufanelekileyo.
Njengokukhungathekisa nokukhungathekisa njengokuba intetho ebuyisayo ingaba, gcinani engqondweni ukuba impendulo yakho emihle iya kugcina le ndlela yokuziphatha ihlolwe. Yazi kwakhona ukuba abanye abazali abangenakubalwa nawe bahamba into efanayo. Okubaluleke kakhulu, zikhumbuze ukuba uxolo kwaye ungaphantsi uvumeleke ukuba uchatshazelwe yintetho ebuyayo, ngakumbi umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukusebenzisa iindlela ezilungileyo zokuvakalisa izimvo zakhe.