Ingaba Umntwana Wakho Uza Kudala?
Ukuza kwexesha eliqhelekileyo ligama elisetyenziselwa ukuchaza ukutshintsha phakathi kobuntwana kunye nabantu abadala. Kwezinye iinkcubeko, ukuza kweminyaka yobudala kunqunywe kwixesha elithile xa umntwana engaselula. Ezinye iinkcubeko zinqume ukuza komntwana xa ehlasela ukutshatyalaliswa okanye ubudala (13, 15, 16, 18, no-21 baqhele ukuba bacinga ukuba bangamaxesha abalulekileyo kubantu abadala).
Uninzi lweenkolo zinomcimbi osemthethweni ozayo ochaphazelekayo obandakanya iintsapho kunye noluntu.
Iinkcazo zokuza kwexesha
Ukufika kweminyaka yobudala kubaluleke kakhulu, kwaye kuya kuba yinkqubo enzima njengoko abanye abantwana banqikaza ukushiya abantwana abasemva. Iincwadi, ii-movie kunye nomculo zidla ngokubhekisela ekufikeni kweminyaka yobudala kunye neengxaki okanye iingxaki ezinxulumene noguquko. Zininzi iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuchaza igama elithi "yobudala." Umzekelo:
- Ukuqinisekiswa komntu njengomntu omdala onoxanduva ngaphakathi koluntu lonqulo;
- Ubushushu (okanye, kwezinye iimeko, ukulahlekelwa ubuntombi);
- Ukufumana ubudala obusemthethweni (eUnited States, malunga ne-18 okanye 21);
- Ukufumana umzuzu we-epiphany apho ubuntwaneni bubekwe eceleni;
- Ukuthatha uxanduva ngokwalo kunye nokhetho lwakho lomntu.
Ukuza Kwenzeka Kwexesha Kuya Kubonwa Njani
Uninzi lweenkcubeko kunye neenkolo zinemibhiyozo ethile, imikhosi, okanye imibhiyozo edibene nokuza kweminyaka.
Ngokuxhomekeke kwenkcubeko yakho kunye / okanye inkolo yakho, umntwana wakho unokugubha enye okanye ngaphezulu kwezi.
- Ibha okanye iBat Mitzvah. Xa uneminyaka eyi-13, abatsha abangamaYuda bathatha inxaxheba kwisiganeko esibalulekileyo nesonwabileyo esibizwa ngokuthi iBar Mitzvah (okanye, ngamantombazana, iBat Mitzvah). Esi siganeko sibhekisela kwisiqhelo seminyaka yesifundo sesiHebhere nesiTora kwaye sibonisa ukungena komntwana ekukhuleni. Ewe, namhlanje umama waseMelika oneminyaka eyi-13 akayena umntu osemdala, kodwa isiganeko sinokubaluleka komthonyama.
- Isiqinisekiso. Abaselula bamaKatolika baqinisekiswa ngokholo lwabo njengenye yeemisakramente ezibalulekileyo (kunye nobhaptizo kunye ne-Eucharist). Intsha ehamba ngokuqinisekiswa ixhaswa ngumntu omdala kwaye ukhetha igama lokuqinisekisa (ngokuqhelekileyo igama lika-saint). Njengokuba intsha engamaYuda, intsha yamaKatolika ayinabantu abadala ngokusemthethweni nangona kunjalo banabantu abadala emehlweni esonto.
- Quinceanera. KwiMexico, ePuerto Rican, kwiCuba, kwiCentral naseMzantsi Melika, amantombazana eneminyaka eli-15 ubudala ahamba ngemikhosi yecawa kunye nokubhiyozela ukuphawula ukuza kwakhe. Esi siganeko sisoloko sikhulu, kuquka abahlobo kunye nosapho.
- I-Sweet 16. Iindwendwe ezininzi zaseMerika zibhiyozela intombi yabo yokuzalwa kunye neqela elihle "eli-16". Oku kubakho ukugubha enkulu lokuzalwa okuquka abahlobo kunye nosapho.
Iingxaki zokuza kwexesha
Kubazali, ukuzala umntwana phakathi kokufika kweminyaka kunokuba nzima, njengoko bejongana nentliziyo ephukileyo, ukudideka, ukufumana ubungqina babo , kunye nemingeni yemithwalo yemfanelo eyongeziweyo-konke okokuqala. Kubantwana, ukuza kweminyaka yobudala kunokuba lunomdla njengoko behlukana nabazali babo kwaye benze iindidi zentlalo entsha. Nangona kunjalo, kunokuba yinto ebuhlungu kubantwana abanoyika ikamva baze baphuphe ukhuseleko lwabantwana.