Njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula kwaye efumana izigaba ezahlukeneyo zophuhliso, kunokukunceda ukwazi ukuba zeziphi ezinye zalezi zigaba, kwaye oko kuthetha ntoni ekuhambeni kwexesha ukuya kwimeko yakho kunye nolwazi lwakhe lwentsha. Inkcazo yokuphumelela kwesazisi akuyona ingxaki enzima ukuyiqonda. Libhekisela nje ekufumaneni ingqiqo yenyani.
Kuyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokuphuhliswa komntu kunye nenkqubo eqala ebuntwaneni, ngokugqithiseleyo kwiminyaka emibini kunye nentsha, kwaye iphela ekudala.
Ngeengcebiso kunye nemizekelo elandelayo, fumana ukuqonda okubhekiselele ekuphumeleleni kwesazisi kunye nendlela onokuxhasa ngayo abantwana bakho okanye abantu abatsha ebomini bakho njengoko bevelele kwindlela yale nkqubo yokuguqula.
Ziziphi izazi zengqondo zithetha ngokuPhumelela koBume
Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba impumelelo yesazisi ingenzeka kuphela emva kokuba umntu sele ehlolisise iintlobo ezininzi zezinto ezikhethwa kuye. Ngamanye amagama, umntu kufuneka abe neengxaki zesazisi (okanye ukutshatyalaliswa kwezazisi ) ukuze afumane ukuphumelela kwezazisi. Ngokomzekelo, umntu ophumelele ukuba ngumntu malunga nomsebenzi uya kuqala ukuzama iindlela ezahlukeneyo zomsebenzi nge-internship, uphando lwe-intanethi kunye nodliwano-ndlebe lwengcaciso ngaphambi kokuchonga okufanelekileyo.
Xa abantu abaselula benomsebenzi wokuchasana nomntu okanye i-identity crisis of different types, bazama izinto ezininzi, ezifana nenkolo, iinkolelo zezopolitiko okanye iindlela zokuphila, ngokukhulula. Bavele bahlolisise iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuphila kunye nefilosofi ngaphandle kokwenza nayiphi na isizathu okanye indlela yokuphila. I-kati yakho ingaba ngumculo we-rap ngelinye ilanga, kwaye ngeveki ezayo unokuva ukuthotyelwa kwindoda okanye kwidwala leklasi.
Okanye, umntwana wakho unxibe njenge-hippie iinyanga, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uya kwi-preppy, okanye i-grunge.
Abantwana, i-tween, kunye nentsha bonke abanakwenzeka ukuba baye bafikelela kwizinga lokuphumelela kwezazisi. Basenokwenzeka ukuba bangaqiniseki ngokuzisiza kwabo ( ukusabalalisa ubunikazi ), ukuba bamkele kwangethuba "ubunikazi" ( ukuchithwa kwesazisi ) okanye ukuba bafune ukucinga ngokwabo ( ukuchasana nobunikazi ). Akunakwenzeka ukuba bafumane la maxwebhu ngokulandelana, nangona kunjalo.
Abantu abadala bangafikelela kwisigaba sokuphumelela kwezazisi ngokukhetha uhlobo oluthile, ixabiso kunye neendlela zokuphila. Ukufumana ukuphumeza ukuba ungubani na kunika umntu uluvo olukhethekileyo kwaye luncedisa ukuba uchaze ubuthathaka kunye namandla kwaye uthathe imiba kwizinto.
Abanye abazali banokubamba ingcamango yokuba abantwana babo bahlakulela iindlela zokuphila ezibonakala ziphikisana nazo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuvumela abantwana ukuba bahlakulele ubuni babo. Kwezinye iimeko, abantwana banokukhasana ngqo neenkolelo zabo zezopolitiko, iinkonzo, kunye nemisebenzi, kuphela ukuba babuyele kubo njengabantu abadala. Nangona umntwana ekugqibeleni unquma ukuhlala ubomi obuhluke ngokupheleleyo kubazali bakhe, kubalulekile ukuba avunyelwe ukwenza njalo, nje ngokuba indlela yakhe entsha yokuphila ayimngciphe yena ngokwakhe okanye abanye.
Imvelaphi
Ukuphumelela kwesazisi ngenye yeemimiselo zesazisi ezifunyenwe nguCanada Marcia onguchwepheshe wengqondo wengqondo waseCanada. Waqala ukushicilela umsebenzi malunga nale mibandela yobume kuma-1960. Ezinye izazi zeengqondo ziye zalungisa umsebenzi wakhe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. U-Marcia ugqibe ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba abantwana abaselula abadidekanga kodwa baneziganeko ezibini eziphambili njengoko zibonisa ubume babo: ingxaki kunye nokuzibophezela. Ukuphumelela kwesazisi kukuzinikela.
U-Erik Erikson uTheorist naye wabhala ngokubanzi malunga neengxaki zobungqina, kwaye uMarcia wasebenzisa umsebenzi wakhe ukuze enze izigqibo zakhe malunga nobungqina bokuba sele eselula. Incwadi kaMarcia "I-Ego Identity: Incwadi Yophando Lwezobugcisa" iquka umsebenzi wakhe kwi-theory.
Umthombo:
Santrock, John, Ph.D. Abantwana, i-Eleventh Edition. 2010. eNew York: Hill-McGraw-Hill.