Indlela yokufumana umntwana wakho ukulandela izikhokelo kwixesha lokuqala othethayo
Kwinqanaba elinye okanye kwelinye, phantse wonke umntwana ukhangele abazali bakhe wathi, "Hayi!" xa exelelwe ukuba enze into ethile. Njengoko kuphazamiseka njengoko kunokuba kukuva, ukungahambelani kukuba yinkampani yentuthuko yomntwana ophilileyo.
Xa umlingani wakho umda okanye uqikelele ngokwakhe, uzama ukuzimela ngokwengeziwe. Kwaye xa i-budding yokuzimela iphilile, umzekelo oqhubekayo wokungahloneli.
Ingaba umntwana wakho uthi, "Awukwazi ukwenza!" Xa umxelela ukuba athathe amathoyizi akhe, okanye uzenze nje ukuba akayi kukuva xa uxelela ixesha lokuba angene ngaphakathi, thabathe isenzo esiya kumshukumisela ukuqala ukuphulaphula ukuphucula.
1. Nika i-Daily Doses of Attention
Ukungahambisani nokokuba yindlela enhle yokuba abantwana bafumane ingqalelo. Kwaye nangona kungakhathali, abanye abantwana bayayinqwenela.
Udibanisa ukuziphatha ngokufuna umdla ngokunika umntwana wakho imihla ngemihla yokuqwalasela kakuhle. Dlala umdlalo ndawonye, sichitha ixesha ukuthetha, okanye uhambe uhambo. Imizuzu embalwa yokuqwalasela kakuhle ingenza indlela ende ekunciphiseni ukungcoliseki.
2. Dumisani ukuziphatha okumkelekileyo
Nangona kunzima ukubona ukuziphatha kakuhle xa umntwana wakho ehlala engafuni ukuphulaphula, kubalulekile ukufumana ukuziphatha okuhle ukudumisa. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufanele unike umntwana wakho ezinye izicelo ezilula ngenjongo yokudumisa ukuthobela kwakhe .
Kwitafile yedlo sakusihlwa, unokuthi, "Ndiyacela undiphe ipepper." Emva koko, ngokukhawuleza uthi, "Siyabonga ngokunikezela okunokwenzeka xa ndakucela ukuba." Oku kuya kuqala ukuthumela umyalezo owuxabisayo thobela.
3. Nika imiyalelo ephumelelayo
Qinisekisa ukuba ukuziphatha okungahloneliyoyo ubungqina kukunyaniseka.
Ukuba umntwana wakho akakakuvumi okanye uphazamisekile ukudlala umdlalo wakhe wevidiyo ongaphulaphuliyo, unokufuna ukutshintsha indlela onika ngayo izikhokelo .
Yenza uqhagamshelwano lwamehlo okanye wabeka isandla kwiphepha lomntwana ukuze uqaphele ngaphambi kokuba uthethe. Vala ingxolo yengemuva kwaye uqinisekise ukuba umntwana wakho uyakunceda ukuze ukwazi ukuthatha into oyithethayo ukuba akwenze.
4. Ukunika iinqununu
Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokulwa nokuziphatha okungcolileyo kukunikela ezimbini. Emva koko, umntwana wakho uya kuziva ukuba unako ukulawulwa kwimeko.
Gwema imibuzo efana, "Ngaba ufuna ukugqoka ngoku?" ngenxa yokuba umntwana ongcolileyo uya kuthi, "Hayi!" Buza imibuzo enjengale, "Ngaba ufuna ukugqoka ihembe lakho elibomvu okanye i-shirt ephuzi?" Qinisekisa ukuba unokuhlala kunye naluphi ukhetho.
5. Se benzisa uMthetho kaMyalelo woBamkhulu
Ulawulo luka-Grandma loqeqesho luya kuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokukhuthaza ukuthotyelwa. Xa isetyenziswe rhoqo, umntwana wakho uya kubona ukuba unolwazi xa efumana amalungelo akhe.
Ngoko endaweni yokuthi, "Awukwazi ukudlala umdlalo wakho wevidiyo ngoba awuhlambululi igumbi lakho," zama ukuthi, "Ungadlala umdlalo wakho wevidiyo ngokukhawuleza xa usuqedile ukucoca igumbi lakho." Utshintsho oluthile kumyalezo wakho lunokukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba asebenze.
6. Yenza inkqubo yoNcedo
Yenza umvuzo wokunika umntwana wakho inkuthazo yokuthobela. Ukubonelela ngokuqinisekileyo ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye uqwalasele ukudala inkqubo yoqoqosho lokubonakalisa ukugcina umntwana wakho endleleni.
Umzekelo, unokumvuza umntwanakho ngesikhombiso xa uphulaphula imiyalelo yakho ngaphandle kokuphikisana. Emva koko, mvumele ukuba atshintshe iimpawu zokufumana umvuzo omkhulu, njengexesha kunye nombane wakhe okanye ithuba lokuya epakini.
7. Ukuseka iKontrakthi yokuziphatha
Iikontrakthi zokuziphatha zikhumbuza abantwana ukuba banokufumana amalungelo amaninzi xa bebonisa ukuba banokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo. Misela isivumelwano sokuziphatha esiza kukunceda umntwana wakho akubonise xa ekulungele amalungelo amaninzi.
Umzekelo, vumela ukumvumela ukuba ahlale emininzi imizuzu engama-15 kamva emva kokuya kulala ngexesha ngeveki enye ngaphandle kokuphikisana.
8. Gwema amandla oMbane
Gwema ukungena kumzabalazo wamandla nomntwana ongathobeliyo. Kuza kwenza ukuba ukungahloniphi kube nzima. Endaweni yoko, sebenzisa isilumkiso esinjengokuba ukuba ... ke isitatimende sokuguqula indlela yokuziphatha. Nika isilumkiso esisodwa kwaye ulandele imiphumo xa kuyimfuneko.
9. Iingcamango zengqiqo
Isiganeko ngasinye sokungathobeli kufuneka sibhekiswe kumphumo ombi . Ukuphuma kwexesha , okanye umphumo onengqiqo, njengokulahlekelwa kwamalungelo , ingaba iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuphazamisa ukungahloneli. Uqeqesho oluhambelanayo luphambili ekunciphiseni ukuziphatha okungcolileyo.
10. Funa UluNcedo lwezakhono
Nangona ukungahloneli ngokugqithiseleyo kunokubonakalisa ingxaki enzulu ngakumbi, njengengxaki yokuchasana , ukungahloneli kunye nokungahambisani neengxaki eziqhelekileyo zokuziphatha kwabantwana . Ukuba unenkxalabo yokuba umntwana wakho unokufumana ingxaki enkulu, okanye ukuba izicwangciso zakho zokuziphatha azisebenzi, khuluma nomntwana wengane yakho.