Izingane ezinamandla ezinamandla zilungiselelwe imingeni yehlabathi. Bayakwazi ukujongana neengxaki, ukubuyisela emva kokungaphumeleli, nokujongana nobunzima.
Ukuze kucace, ingqondo yengqondo ayikwenzi ngokusebenza nzima okanye ukuxinezela iimvakalelo. Kwakungekho malunga nokuba nomusa okanye ukunyaniseka.
Esikhundleni saloo nto, abantwana abaneengqondo eziqinileyo bayakwazi ukuzinza kwaye banenkalipho nokuzithemba ukufikelela ngokupheleleyo.
Ukunceda abantwana bahlakulele amandla engqondo kufuna indlela emithathu yokwenza: ukufundisa ukubeka iingcamango ezingekho phantsi kweengcamango ezingakumbi, ukubanceda bafunde ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo ukuze iimvakalelo zabo zingazilawuli, kwaye zibonise indlela yokwenza isenzo esihle.
Kukho izicwangciso ezininzi zobuzali, ubuchule bokufundisa, kunye nezixhobo zokufundisa ezincedisa abantwana ukuba bakhe i-muscle yengqondo. Nazi izicwangciso ezili-10 eziza kunceda umntwana wakho akhulise amandla afuna ukuba ngumntu omdala onamandla:
1. Fundisa izakhono ezithile
Uqeqesho kufuneka lube malunga nokufundisa abantwana bakho ukuba benze ngcono ixesha elizayo, bengabandezeli ngenxa yeempazamo zabo. Sebenzisa iziphumo ezifundisa izakhono ezithile, ezifana nezakhono zokuxazulula iingxaki , ukulawula umgudu , nokuzimela . Ezi zakhono ziya kunceda umntwana wakho afunde ukuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo, nangona xa ejongene nesilingo, izimo ezinzima kunye neengxaki ezinzima.
2. Vumela Umntwana Wakho enze Iziphoso
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba iimpazamo ziyinxalenye yenkqubo yokufunda ukuze akaneentloni okanye abe neentloni ngenxa yokufumana into engalunganga.
Vumela imiphumo yemvelo xa ukhuselekile ukwenza njalo kwaye uthethe ngendlela yokuphepha ukuphinda uphinde wenze iphutha elifanayo ngexesha elizayo.
3. Fundisa Umntwana Wakho Indlela Yokuphuhlisa Ukuzithetha Ngokwempilo
Kunzima ukuba abantwana baziva beqinileyo ngengqondo xa bebhankanya ngokwabo ngokuhlaselwa okanye xa baqikelela iziphumo ezimbi.
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ahlaziye iingcamango ezimbi ukwenzela ukuba acinge ngakumbi. Ukuphuhlisa indlela ebonakalayo kunye nethemba elinokuthi lincede abantwana bakwazi ukuhamba ngamaxesha kunye nokusebenza kwinqanaba labo.
4. Khuthaza Umntwana Wakho Ukujamelana Neentloni
Ukuba umntwana wakho ugwema nayiphi into eyoyikisayo, akayi kufumana ukuzithemba afunekayo ukujongana novakalelo. Ingaba umntwana wakhoyika ukomnyama, okanye ukwesaba ukuhlangabeza abantu abatsha, ncedise umntwana wakho ukuba abhekane nesimo esithile esincinci ngelo xesha. Mvuyise, mdumise imizamo yakhe, kwaye umvuze ngokuba nesibindi kwaye uya kufunda ukuba uyinkwenkwe enokukwazi ukuphatha ngaphandle kwendawo yakhe yokuthuthuzela.
5. Vumela Umntwana Wakho Ukuba Azincumo
Nangona kunokuzama ukunceda umntwana nanini na xa ezama, ukumkhulula kwixinzelelo kuya kuqinisekisa ukuba akanakunceda. Vumela umntwana wakho alahleke, amvumele ukuba abe neentlungu, aze agxininise ukuba nguye onoxanduva nangona akafuni. Ngenkxaso kunye nesikhokelo, iingxaki zinokunceda umntwana wakho akome amandla engqondo.
6. Yakha impawu
Izingane zidinga ikhampasi yokuziphatha enamandla ukubanceda benze izigqibo ezinempilo. Sebenza kanzima ukufaka imilinganiselo yakho kumntwana wakho. Yenza amathuba okufunda ubomi obomeleza ixabiso lakho rhoqo.
Umzekelo, gxi ninisa ukubaluleka kokunyaniseka novelwano, kunokuba uzuze kuzo zonke iindleko. Abantwana abaqonda amaxabiso abo banako ukwenza ukhetho oluhle-nangona abanye bengavumelani nezenzo zabo.
7. Yenza Ukubonga kuqala
Ukubulela kuyisilungiso esihle sokuzixolela kunye neminye imikhwa emibi enokuthintela umntwana wakho ukuba angomelele ngokwengqondo. Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuqinisekisile konke okulungileyo kwihlabathi, ukwenzela ukuba nakwiintsuku zakhe ezibi kakhulu, uya kubona ukuba unento eninzi yokuvakalelwa. Ukubulela kunokunyusa umntwaba wakho kwaye kukhuthaze ukuxazulula iingxaki.
8. Ukuqinisekisa uxanduva lwaBantu
Ukomelezwa kwengqondo kubandakanya ukwamukela uxanduva lomntu.
Vumela iinkcazo-kodwa akusizizathu xa umntwana wakho enza iphosakelo okanye aphutha. Lungisa umntwana wakho xa ezama ukubeka abanye icala malunga nendlela acinga ngayo, ukuziva, okanye ukuziphatha.
9. Fundisa i-Skills Regulation Skills
Musa ukuzola umntwana wakho phantsi xa ethukuthele okanye evuyisa rhoqo xa edidekile. Kunoko, mfundise indlela yokujongana neemvakalelo ezingakhathazekiyo , ngoko akayi kukhula kuye kuxhomekeke kuye. Abantwana abaziqonda iimvakalelo zabo kwaye bazi indlela yokujongana nabo, bakulungele ukujongana nemingeni.
10. Udidi lweModeli Yengqondo
Ukubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba uyomelele ngengqondo yindlela efanelekileyo yokumkhuthaza ukuba akhule amandla engqondo. Thetha ngeenjongo zakho zobuqu uze ubonise umntwana wakho ukuba uthatha amanyathelo okukhula. Yenza ukuphucula ukuzimela kunye nokuqina kwengqondo ibe yinto ephambili ebomini bakho kwaye ugweme izinto abazali abanamandla abazenzayo .
> Imithombo
> Morin A. Izinto 13 Abazali Abanamandla Akunakwenzi: Ukukhulisa Abantwana Abazimeleyo Nokuqeqesha Ubomi babo Ubomi Bemihlali, Injongo, Nempumelelo . ENew York, NY: UWilliam Morrow, umshicileli weHarperCollins Publishers; 2017.