Iintsholongwane zingashukunyiswa ngomlomo ngokwemvelo. Nangona kunjalo, oko akuthethi ukuba bafanele bafumane ipasiti yamahhala ukuze bathethe kwaye baphathe kakubi.
Enyanisweni, uphando lubonisa ukuba intsha engaqhelekanga ingaba ngabantu abadala, ngoko kuyonaxesha elibucayi lokufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba angabhekisana njani nomsindo ngaphandle kokuthetha, ukugubungela amehlo, okanye ukugubha umnyango.
Ukuva umntwanakho uthe izinto ezinje, "Akunakulungile," okanye "Andifanele ndiphulaphule," kunokuba nomsindo Kodwa, intsha eninzi isebenzisa ulwimi oluninzi olubalabalazelayo ukubonisa ukungafuni.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba zeziphi izinto ezithethayo umntwana wakho, indlela ophendule ngayo ukungathobeli iimeko ezinokuthi ziqhubeke njani.
Nazi iindlela ezona zifanelekileyo zokuphendula xa umntwana wakho ekhuluma kwakhona:
1. Ukumisela iMigaqo egcizelela iNhlonipho
Yenza imigaqo ecacisa ukuba zeziphi iimpawu ezamkelekileyo kwaye zeziphi izimo aziyi kunyamezela. Nangona abanye abazali bengacingi ukuba iingcango ezimbalwa ziyahlulwa, abanye abazali banomgaqo wokunyamezela. Yenza kucace ukuba iziphathamandla ezithile, njengegama lokubiza, ukusongela, nokubeka phantsi, kuya kuba nemiphumo emibi .
2. Hlalani Ucocekile
Ukumemeza okanye ukuphikisana emva koko kuya kwandisa imeko. Ngoko, kungakhathaliseki ukuba intetho yakho yintsholongwane yinto engayihloneliyo, hlalani.
Thatha umoya okhulu, hamba kude, okanye uhlakulele imantra ukuba uphinde uphinde ubuyele entloko yakho. Yenza nantoni na into efunekayo ukukhusela umsindo wakho ukuba ufumane okusemandleni akho.
3. Hlonipha iinzame zokufumana ingqalelo
Ukuthetha ngokuphindaphindiweyo kubangelwa ngumnqweno weselula ukuphuma ekwenzeni into angayifuni ukwenza.
Emva kwakho konke, ixesha elide eliselula liyakwenza ukuba uhlanganyele kwingxabano, ixesha elide unokulibazisa ukwenza oko umcelile ukuba akwenze.
Ukuba uthabatha kwaye ujoyine ingxabano, unokuyeka ukulandela izikhokelo zakho. Ngoko ngamanye amaxesha, ukungahoywa kwiso elincinane okanye ukunyakaza ngaphantsi komphefumlo kunokuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokusebenza.
Xa ungakhange uqhagamshelane nemehlo, uphikisane, okanye ubeke ingqwalasela ekuziphatheni, kuya kukhangela. Kwaye ungabuyela kwindlela ekuqinisekiseni ukuba umntwana wakho olandelayo uyayilandela.
4. Musa ukunikela
Esinye isizathu abaselula abakhuluma ngayo kukuba bacinga ukuba bangabazali ukuba batshintshe iingqondo zabo. Nantoni na oyenzayo, unganikeli xa umntwana wakho engumntwana engahloniphi. Ukuba wenza, uya kuqinisa ukuziphatha okungahloneliyo kwaye umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokufumana oko akufunayo.
Ungavumeli umntwana wakho ukuba abe netyala kuwe ukuba utshintshe ingqondo yakho xa uthe watsho. Nangona umntwana wakho eselula uthi ungumzali obalaseleyo emhlabeni, okanye uzama ukukuqinisekisa ukuba uyonakalisa ubomi bakhe, unamathela kwimithetho yakho.
5. Hambisa isilumkiso esisodwa
Ukuba umntwana wakho wenqabe ulandele ngokulandela indlela owamnike yona, okanye uyaqhubeka engenzi nto, mnike isilumkiso. Mxelele ukuba kuya kuba yintoni umphumo xa engavumi.
Musa ukuphindaphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo isilumkiso. Kunoko, unike isilumkiso esisodwa kwaye ulandele kunye nesiphumo xa engatshintshi indlela yakhe yokuziphatha.
6. Ukulandela ngokulandela
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyaphula umthetho ngokukhawuleza ekubiza igama okanye engatshintshi indlela yakhe yokuziphatha xa umnike isilumkiso, landela umphumo .
Susa amalungelo okanye ubeke uxanduva olongezelelweyo xa luyimfuneko.
7. Ingxaki -Sombulula kunye
Ukuba ukuthetha emva kuye kwaba yinto eqhelekileyo endlwini yakho, sebenzisa ithuba njengendlela yokufundisa isakhono sakho sokusombulula iingxaki . Lindela de wonke umntu azive ezolile kwaye asebenzisane ukujongana nengxaki.
Hlala phantsi kwaye uxoxe ngezinto ozikhathazayo malunga nokungabi nhlonipho. Mema wakho umntwana ukuba anikele ngeengcinga kunye nezicwangciso malunga nendlela yokujongana nale mpawu. Yenza kucace ukuba ufuna wonke umntu endlwini ukuba aziphathe ngokuhlonelana omnye nomnye.
Bonisa ukuba uzimisele ukwenza utshintsho ngokunjalo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uthe uxoxa ngenxa yokuba uhlala emtshela ukuba ahlambulule igumbi lakhe xa ephakathi embonisweni oyintandokazi, sebenze kunye ukuze ufumane isisombululo.
Ngesicwangciso esisebenzayo nesingqinelanayo, ukuziphatha okungahloneliyo kunokuba ngcono. Ukufunda indlela yokusebenzisana nabanye ngaphandle kokunyaniseka kubaluleke kakhulu ubuchule bokuphila obuya kubakhokela umntwana wakho kwixesha elizayo.
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