Abantwana ababonakala bezithembele emzabalazweni wobuntwaneni ukuba bahlale bekhuselekile ngexesha leminyaka eliselula. Kwabaninzi, ubutsha buzaliswa ngokuzithemba, umfanekiso omzimba ongaqinisekanga, kunye nokungaqiniseki.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba, ungathatha amanyathelo okunceda umntwana wakho akwazi ukuzithemba. Nazi izicwangciso ezisibhozo eziza kubangela ukuzithemba kwexesha elide kwintsapho yakho:
1. Fundisa Intsha Yakho Ukulinganisela Ukwamkela NgokuziThucula
Abantwana abanomdla ukuqonda ubuchule banokugqiba ukuba bahluleka ngokupheleleyo. Intombazana enobunzima ngeemathematika angenza isigqibo sokuba akayena owaziyo. Okanye umfana ohluleka ukwenza iqela lebhola liza kuthatha isigqibo sokuba akaze ahlale efanelekileyo kwimidlalo.
Bonisa umntwana wakho ukuba uyakwazi ukumkela iimpazamo zakhe ngelixa uzama ukuphucula. Esikhundleni sokubhala ngokuthi "siyisiphukuphuku," nceda umntwana wakho abone ukuba ngelixa ekhuselekile esikolweni, usenokuzama ukuphucula.
2. Dumisani Umzamo Wentsha Yakho Umntwana Endaweni yesiPhumo
Kunokuba ukhulise umntwana wakho ukuba athole ibakala elifanelekileyo kwisifundo, mdumise ngokufunda konke. Esikhundleni sokuthi, "Umsebenzi omhle ufumana amanqaku amahlanu kumdlalo," tshela, "Yonke into oyenzayo oye yenzayo ihlawule."
Ingane yakho ingakwazi ukulawula umzamo wakhe kodwa ayikwazi ukulawula rhoqo umphumo. Kwaye, awufuni ukuba acinge ukuba ufanelekile ukudunyiswa xa ephumelela.
Mbonise ukuba kubalulekile ukuzama kanzima kwaye kulungile ukuba akaphumelelanga lonke ixesha.
3. Fundisa izakhono zokuQinisekisa
Iintswelo kufuneka zikwazi ukuzithetha ngokwabo ngendlela efanelekileyo. Umntwana osemtsha uya kukwazi ukucela uncedo xa engayiqondi umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo, kunokuzivumela ukuba awele emva.
Umntwana osemtsha okwazi ukuthetha yena naye akanako ukuphathwa kakubi ngabaontanga bakhe. Uya kuthetha yena xa engathandi ukuba uphathwe njani kwaye uya kukwazi ukucela oko akufunayo ngendlela echanekileyo.
4. Khuthaza Intsha Yakho Ukuhlola Amathuba Amasha
Ukuzama imisebenzi emitsha, ukufumanisa iitalente ezifihlakeleyo, kunye nokuzibekela umngeni ukuba abe ngunokunceda ukukhula nentembelo yentombazana. Kodwa, abaninzi abaselula bayesaba ukungaphumeleli kwaye abafuni ukuzihlazisa.
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba ajoyine iqela elitsha, udlale isixhobo somculo, ujoyine umsebenzi wokuzithandela, okanye ufumane umsebenzi wexeshana . Ukufunda izakhono ezintsha kuya kumnceda azive engcono ngaye.
5. Uhlobo Lokuthembela
Umntwana wakho uya kufundela ngakumbi ngokuzithemba ngokusekelwe kwinto oyenzayo-kungekhona oko utshoyo. Ukuba unetyala lokwenza iingxelo ezibalulekileyo malunga nomzimba wakho okanye ubuchule bakho, uya kufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba enze okufanayo.
Umzekelo wendlela yokujamelana neemeko ezintsha ngesibindi nokuzithemba kwaye ubonise ukubaluleka kokuzithanda. Thetha kwintsapho yakho malunga namaxesha apho ukhaliphe okanye izinto ozenzayo ebomini bakho ukuze uncede ukwakha ukuzithemba kwakho.
6. Yakha i-Self-Worth kwiSiseko esisempilo
Ukuba umntwana wakho ovelayo uvakalelwa kakuhle xa efumana uhlobo oluthile lwezinto ezithandayo kumajelo asekuhlaleni okanye xa efikelela kwisayizi ethile yebhulukhwe, uya kuba nzima ukuzithemba xa iimeko zingagqibekanga iimfuno zakhe.
Ukugxininisa ukubaluleka kwizinto ezingekho mbandela, iimeko zangaphandle, okanye abanye abantu kubangela ukungabi nokholo kwixesha elide.
Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba akhiwe isiseko esilungileyo nesigxina sokuzixabisa kwakhe. Gxininisa ixabiso lakho kwaye umfundise ukuba ukuzinyanya ngokwenene kukuphila ngokuvumelana nezo zinto. Ngokomzekelo, ncedise ukuba kubone ukuba kubaluleke ukuba ube nomusa nokunyamekela kunokuba ube mncinci okanye umhle.
7. Ukulinganisa iNkululeko kunye nesiKhokelo
Ukunyuka kwamagqabantshintshi okhetho lwakho luya kumomeleza ukuba alukwazi ukuthenjwa ukwenza izigqibo ezizimeleyo. Kubalulekile ukulinganisa inani elifanelekileyo lenkululeko kunye nenkolelo eninzi.
Nika umntwana wakho ngamathuba amaninzi ukuzisebenzisa izakhono ozifundisayo. Makhe abe nemiphumo yemvelo kwaye uya kufunda kwiimpazamo zakhe. Ngexesha elide, uya kukhulisa ukuzithemba okwandayo kwikhono lakhe lokwenza ukhetho oluphilileyo.
8. Nceda Intsha Yakho Yenze I-Self-Talk Talk
Ingqungquthela yengane yakho yangaphakathi iya kudlala indima enkulu kwindlela azivakalelwa ngayo. Ukuba uhlala ecinga izinto ezinje, "Ndiyingozi kakhulu," okanye "Akukho mntu uyandithandayo," uya kuziva azibi ngaye.
Fundisa wakho umntwana ukuba akhulise ukuthetha ngokwabo. Chaza ukuba zininzi iingcamango ezingezoyinyaniso kwaye uncede ukuba abone ukuba ukukhathazeka ngokweqile kuye kungalimaza. Mfundise ukuba aphinde acinge iingcamango ezingenangqondo ezifana nokuthi, "Ndiya kuphelelwa kukuba ndiyintsiphu," ngento engokoqobo ngathi, "Ndiyakwazi ukuphumelela iklasi yamatriki ukuba ndisebenza nzima."
> Imithombo
> I-HealthyChildren.org: Ukunceda Umntwana Wakho Aphe Impilo Enokuzimelela.
> HealthyChildren.org: Izindlela zokwakha I-Self-Esteem yakho.
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