Iingcebiso ezi-5 zokuphakamisa intsha eyimfuneko yokuba ngumdala onoxanduva

Uninzi lwabazali baphupha ngomntu ojongene nokuzimela, okhulayo-oboleka isandla ngemisebenzi yasemakhaya ngaphandle kokubuzwa, uhlala ebiza ukuba angene kwaye axhomeke kunye nesihlwele "sokunene" . Kodwa, ngokwenene, bonke abatsha baya kutsala ibhola ngokuxanduva (ngamanye amaxesha, ubuncinane).

Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana wakho okhulileyo ukhangeleka njani, uya kufuna udweliso oluqhubekayo lokuba ngumntu omdala ozimele, onoxanduva. Nazi izicwangciso ezinhlanu zokukhulisa umntwana osemthethweni oza kulungela ukujongana neengxaki zabantu abadala:

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Vumela I-Teen Yakho Yikhombise Njani Inkululeko Akwazi Ukuyenza

Yenza kucace ukuba uya kunika inkululeko xa umntwana wakho ebona ukuba uyakwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezintle. Xa ibonisa ngexesha lokufika kwexesha, xa ekhetha ngokufanelekileyo nabahlobo, kwaye xa ejongene nokunyamekela uxanduva lwakhe, uyazi ukuba unako ukuphatha inkululeko engaphezulu.

Cinga izixazululo zeemeko ezinokuthi umntwana wakho angabhekana nexesha elizayo. Enoba uyahamba nabahlobo okanye ushiya ikhaya lakhe yedwa ubusuku , mbuze indlela anokusingatha ngayo imiba ethile.

Buza, "Yintoni ongayenza ukuba umhlobo wakho akunike ugwayi?" okanye "Yintoni ongayenza xa umntu ekhwaza emnyango waza wathi uyindoda yokulungisa efuna ukungena?"

Thetha malunga nokuba sonke senza amaphutha ngamanye amaxesha. Kwaye ukuba nezo mpazamo kubonisa uxanduva. Tshela umntwana wakho ukuba uyazama ukufihla iimpazamo zakhe ngokuxoka okanye ukufihla iimpazamo zakhe, uyazi ukuba akalungele ukuphatha uxanduva oluninzi.

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Yakha iShedyuli Ngomntwana Wakho

Le ntsuku, intsha ininzi iqhubeka, kwaye kufuneka ikwazi ukwenza ishedyuli ukwenzela ukuba iqinisekise ukuba konke kwenziwa.

Kwixesha ledijithali, isimiso esibhaliweyo sibonakala singadingekile. Nangona kunjalo, ubuchule bokudala ishedyuli ebhalwe ephepheni kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo unamathela kuyo kusekhona umsebenzi obangela uxanduva.

Hlala phantsi kunye neqhekeza iphepha, dwelisa iiyure zomhla kwicala elinye kunye neepensile kwimisebenzi ngaphesheya. Ungalibali ukufaka ngexesha lokuhla. Ingane yakho ayifuni ukuyenza le ntsuku yonke, kodwa ixesha eliqhelekileyo liya kufundisa izakhono zolawulo lwexesha .

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Khuthaza Intsha Yakho Yokunceda

Ukwenza imisebenzi ibonisa uxanduva. Kodwa ukuhamba ngaphaya nangaphezulu kwemisebenzi yendlu yasemakhaya yindlela enhle yokuba umntwana wakho abe ngumntu ozimeleyo.

Fundisa wakho umntwana ukuba abuyele kuluntu ngandlela-thile. Ukuzithandela kwiindawo zokuhlalisa izilwanyana, ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimigudu yokuhlambulula yoluntu, okanye ukuxhaswa ngemali ngenjongo efanelekileyo kunokunceda umntwana wakho azive ephethe uxanduva-oluya kumkhuthaza ukuba aziphathe ngokuthe ngqo.

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Fundisa i Zakhono zoBomi

Kungaba lula ukucinga ukuba umntwana wakho usemgodini wokuzimela ngokuzimeleyo ngenxa yokuba uyaphumelela kwintsimi yebhola okanye ngenxa yokuba wenza umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo owenziwe ngexesha. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho wenza kakuhle kwiindawo ezithile zobomi bakhe akuthethi ukuba ulungele ukuthatha uxanduva lwehlabathi lenene.

Qiniseka ukuba ixesha lokutyalombela ekufundiseni izakhono zobomi bakho bentsha . Izakhono ezisebenzayo, njengendlela yokwenza iimpahla kunye nokupheka ukutya, zibalulekile. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi indlela yokuphatha imali yakhe kwaye uyaqonda indlela yokuthetha nabanye abantu ngokufanelekileyo.

Ngelixa umntwana wakho ekhulile angakhathalela ezinye zezakhono nje ngokukujonga, akayi kufunda yonke into ngokuyibona. Ukufundisa ngokusemthethweni umntwana wakho indlela yokuphatha ikhaya kunye nendlela yokulungisa iingxaki zobomi.

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Cacile malunga neziphumo

Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho umntwana wakho wenza iiphoso (okanye uyaziphulaphula ngenjongo imigaqo yakho). Qinisekisa ukuba ukhetho lwakhe olubi lukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi. Imiphumo engqiqo , njengokulahlekelwa kwamalungelo, ingaba ngutitshala osebenzayo.

Melana nomnqweno wokuba uxolo okanye ukhulule umntwana wakho kwiimpazamo zakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha, imiphumo yemvelo ingasebenza njengezikhumbuzo ezilungileyo ukwenza ukhetho olungcono ngokuzayo.

Kunzima ukubukela umntwana wakho akhule kwaye uqaphele ukuba akayi kuba ngumntwana wakho ngonaphakade. Nangona kunjalo, wenza intombazana yakho ukuba ungayinayo xa ungayifaki ingqiqo yemfanelo. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, wakho umntwana uya kukubonga ngokumguqula ube ngumntu okhulileyo, ozimeleyo.