Ukukhulisa umntwana akulula. Ukukhulisa umntwana okhuselekileyo kunzima nakakhulu. Ingaba umntwana wakho unenkinga yokusetyenziswa kakubi ngokweziyobisi , imiba yokuziphatha, okanye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo , kungenelela ngoncedo. Kukho izinto ezininzi ongayenza ukuze uncede umkhombise wakho umntwana ukuba angene endleleni efanelekileyo ngaphambi kokuba abe ngumdala. Nazi izicwangciso ezithandathu zokuba ngumzali wokukhulisa umntwana okhuselekileyo:
Qhagamshelana nomntwana wakho osemtsha unako konke okusemandleni akho.
Xa umzali okhuselekileyo usemtsha kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uzame ukushiya umntwana wakho njengokuba iingxaki ziba nzima kakhulu. Kodwa, ukugcina uxhulumano olunzulu nentombazana yakho, kubalulekile. Sebenza ngokuxhumana ngokufanelekileyo kwaye nizama ukugcina ulwalamano oluhle.
Ulwalamano lwakho kunye nentsha ekhuselekileyo ayiyi kufezeka. Kodwa, ukuchitha ixesha lomgangatho kunye kunye nokubonisa umntwana wakho onokukhathalela unokuhamba ixesha elide ekuncedeni umntwana wakho ukuba aphucule.
Khangela isimo sakho seminyaka yeshumi ukusuka kwindlela eyahlukileyo.
Indlela esetyenziswe rhoqo ngabagqirha kukujonga imeko okanye ukuziphatha kwentsha ngokwahlukileyo kwinto oyenzayo, inqubo eyaziwa ngokuba yi-reframing. Kule ntshintsho yengqiqo yembono kwizinto ezibangela ukuba ukuziphatha kwakho kwentsha ngokuqhelekileyo kugxininisa.
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali kunye nentsha banokufumana ingxaki ngokujonga imeko ngokujonga amehlo; esoloko ilandelwa ngokusebenza okanye ukucinga ngezinto ezahlukeneyo.
Kwaye nantsi iindaba ezilungileyo ngokwenene - xa umzali esabela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo akukho nto ikhethekileyo kwintsholongwane kodwa ukuba enze ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Funa uncedo lobugcisa.
Abaninzi abanenkathazo abancedisayo bafumana uncedo oluthile lokunceda ekuboneni isizathu esicwangcisekileyo seengxaki zabo kunye nenkxaso ekujonganeni nabo.
Ukufumana uncedo kumntwana osemncinci xa eqala ukufumana ubunzima ngokuqhelekileyo uphumelele kakhulu kunokulinda kude kube nzima ukuba iingxaki zibe nzima.
Kwabazali abathile, oku kungaba yinyathelo elinzima ukuthatha. Abanye besaba ukuba ukufuna uncedo kukubonakalisa ubuthathaka kodwa akukho nto inokuba yinyani kwi nyaniso.
Izinzuzo zokufuna uncedo lwezobuchwepheshe kwintsholongwane echaphazelekayo zibandakanya: uncedo olunamava ekuqiqeni izizathu ezibangelwa yintsapho yakho, ubuchule ekufumaneni ukuba uncedo olunjani lwamakliniki olunokwenzeka ukuba luncedo kwaye luncedo ekuncedeni umntwana wakho, wena kunye nosapho lwakho xesha elinzima.
Qaphela xa wakho umntwana esenkingeni.
Ukwazi ukuba umntwana wakho usele nkxalabo yintoni ebalulekileyo ekuvuleni izinto ezibangela ukutshintsha okutshintshisayo kwintsapho yakho. Abaqeqeshi abasebenza nabaselula bachaza indlela yokuziphatha engathandabuzekiyo yokuziphatha njengentshukumo yokuziphatha, oku kuthetha ukuba ukuziphatha kukubonakalisa kwangaphandle kwemiba efuna ukunyamekela.
Ukuziphatha okuxhatshazwayo kwentsha kuthatha iindidi ezininzi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iingxaki zempilo yengqondo ezifana nokudandatheka, ukungahloneli , nokuziphatha okuyingozi . Ngamanye amaxesha, intsha iphendulela kwiziyobisi okanye utswala ngotywala ekuzameni ukuphazamisa intlungu.
Ngaphantsi komntwana wakho onomsindo okanye ochasayo unokuba intlungu eninzi.
Ukuqaphela oku kunokukunceda uvelise iimfuno zakho.
Thatha inyathelo ukuba wakho umntwana usemngeni .
Abazali abanentshwankqiso yintsapho badla ngokutya. Abazali abaninzi bayazibuza ukuba baya kukwazi ukuba benzani ukuba imeko iqhuma ngaphandle kokulawula, ukubeka umntwana okanye omnye umntu engozini.
Iimeko zeengxaki aziqhelekanga ekujonganeni nomntwana osemva ongenasimo sengqondo okanye ongakwazi ukuhlangabezana kakuhle neemeko ezixinzelelekileyo. Ukuthatha amanyathelo okukwazi ngokukhawuleza indlela yokujongana nalezi zinto ezinobungozi ezenza kube lula ukuphendula ngokufanelekileyo ukuba kufuneka wenze njalo.
Gcinani engqondweni, unako ukubiza i-911 okanye uthabathe umntwana wakho kwimeko engxamisekileyo.
Izisongelo zokuzilimaza, ukuthetha ngokuzibulala, okanye izisongelo kwabanye abantu kufuneka zihlale zithathwa ngokungathí sina.
Zikhathalele.
Ukuba ugxininiswe kwaye ugxininiswe, awuyi kuba luncedo kumntanakho. Kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba uthatha amanyathelo okufumana inkxaso kunye nokuzinyamekela.
Ukuphila okunempilo, kulungele ukulungelelanisa nentsha yakho. Zithathele ixesha kwaye uzinike amandla akho ukuze uqinisekise ukuba uhlala emoyeni nangokwenyama.