Ingcinezelo yontanga "into eyinyani"? Ewe, kunjalo-kodwa kungekho ngendlela i-pop inkcubeko kunye nabezindaba abanokucinga ngayo. Abahlobo badlala indima kwiminqweno yabantwana bakho, kodwa abaxhomekelelane ngokufanayo xa bezama izinto eziyingozi.
Kunoko, impembelelo iyinto efihlakeleyo-yinto engumntwana wakho ekuboneni ukuba ngabaphi abanye abahlobo abakwenzayo kwaye banqume ukulandela i-suit ngoba bafuna ukungena.
Ingcamango yokuba "wonke umntu wenzayo" inokukwenza intsha yenza ukhetho onqwenela ukuba abayikuyenza.
Oku kuyinyani ngokukhethekileyo xa umntwana esicinga ukuba "abantwana abapholileyo" benza okuthile. Uphando lubonisa ukuba intsha yenza iingcamango ezingalunganga malunga neengcamango ze-clique- kwaye iingcinga zabo zihlala zingalunganga. Kodwa abatsha bakholelwa ukuba abantwana abathandwayo bayaphuza, bashiye umsi, okanye badumise isigaba, banokucinga ukuba ezo ziphatha ziya kubonakala zipholile.
Ngokubanzi, intsha iyakwazi ukuxhoma nabantu abenza izinto ezifanayo njengazo. Ngoko ke, ukuba wakho umntwana usemisebenzi enempilo enjengemidlalo okanye yezemidlalo, mhlawumbi baya kuba nabahlobo kunye neempawu ezifanayo. Ukuba bawela kwiqela labantu abathanda ukusela okanye ukuthatha ingozi , umntwana wakho okhulayo unako ukwenza okufanayo.
Imisebenzi Eyona Iminyango Exhasayo
Ngethuba umntwana wakho ubonakala ngathi ungo-level-headed kwaye uzalisekile ngengqiqo, ixesha elide, iimvakalelo kunye namahomoni - kunokukhokelela umntwana wakho ukuba enze izigqibo ezingathandabuzekiyo.
Kuqhelekile ukuba intsha ifune ukungena kunye nokuvavanya umda wabo kwaye uzame umntu omtsha. Ngoko ungacingi ukuba umntwana wakho uya kuhlonyelwa kuzo zonke iintlobo zengcinezelo yontanga.
Nangona kunjalo, uyazi ukuba ubuntabini bakho bentsha buhle kunabo bonke abantu. Ngaba uyathonya lula? Ngaloo ndlela, mhlawumbi uya kulandela umntu okhokelayo kwaye, ekugqibeleni, zama umsebenzi awayeza kuwenza ngokwakhe.
Abanye abaselula bayakwazi ukumelana nokukhwela kokulandela umhlobo kwisilingo.
Nazi izinto ezinhlanu eziqhelekileyo eziselula ezenziwa ngabaontanga ukuba benze oku:
1. Ukusebenzisa iziyobisi, utywala kunye noTuba
Njengoko unokukrokrela, ezi ngenye yeendlela eziphambili ezenza ukuba umntwana wakho abonakaliswe ngumhlobo ocinezelayo. Kodwa, njengoko kukhankanywe ngasentla, oko akuthethi ngaso sonke isikhathi umhlobo uphonsa indebe yeSolo kwisandla somntwana wakho kwaye ubanyanzele ukuba baxhamle ubhiya. Endaweni yoko, ukusela ubhiya, i-marijuana okanye i-cigarettes efumanekayo kungabangela uxinzelelo olwaneleyo ukuba umntwana wakho athi "ewe."
I-cigarettes iyaqhelekile phakathi kwabanamhlanje abaselula. Abanye babo bakholelwa ngokukhohlakeleyo ukuba abanabungozi kwaye iiglasi zabo zivame ukunyanzela ulutsha. Iintsholongwane zithenga i-e-cigarettes kwi-intanethi , kaninzi ngaphandle kolwazi lwabazali babo. Kubonakala kubangaphantsi kwehlazo oluxhomekeke kwi-e-cigarettes xa kuthelekiswa nokubheja kwendabuko, ekhokelela abaninzi abantu ukuba bazame.
2. Ukuba
Kwezinye iimeko, umfana unokukhuthazwa ngumhlobo ukuba athathe into ngaphandle kokuhlawula. Kwabanye, kungaba yinto yokufuna into ethile (njengemidlalo yemidlalo ebiza kakhulu okanye i-makeup) eyenziwa ngabanye abatsha. Ukuva amabali malunga nendlela abanye abatsha ababa ngayo ngaphandle kokubanjwa kunokubangela ukuba umntwana wakho acinge ukuba ukweba kungcono indlela yokufumana oko bafuna.
Ukuxhatshazwa
Ngengqondo yomntwana , kungcono ukuba ngumxhaphazi, kunomngcipheko okhethwe ngumnye umntu. Okubi nakakhulu, ukulungelelana okanye ukuma ukuze umntu oxhatshazwayo anokwenza umntwana wakho atyekele.
Ngoko ke, kulula ukunyanzelwa ukuba ujoyine ukuhlambalaza okanye ukuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo ukuze ugweme ukuba nguye othaywayo. Ngexesha ledijithali, ukuxhatshazwa kwe-cyberbullying kuyinto engozini.
Ingane yakho ingalingeka ukuba ijoyine xa umntu ethatyathwa okanye ebizwa nge-media media apho udlalwa ngumhlambi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, intsha ithi kwaye yenza izinto emva kwekhompyutha zazo ezingenakuze zenze ngokwayo.
4. Umsebenzi woSondo
Unokucinga ukuba oku kuziphatha okubungozi kumabhinqa, kodwa qi ni sekise ukuba kukho abantombazana abaselula apho baziva bexinzelelwe kwimisebenzi yesondo, nabo. Kunokwenzeka ukuba amahlebezi kunye namabali malunga nokuziphatha kakubi ngokwesini kwisondo.
Ukuthunyelwa kwe-Sexting yinkathazo enkulu namaninzi namhlanje. Kwaye nangona abazali benkolelo yokuba intsha yabo "ayinakuze yenze njalo," uphando lubonisa ukuba intsha inokuxoxa ngokubambisana ngesondo. Ukuthunyelwa kwe-Sexting kuye kwavakala phakathi kwentsha, ebangela abaninzi babo ukuba bangaziboni izingozi ezingabandakanywa ukwabelana ngezithuba ezingabonakaliyo okanye ezithandwayo.
5. Eminye ingozi yokuziphatha
Kuhlobo lwabahlobo abanqwenela ukulivakalisa, abantwazana bahlala bebonisa ukuziphatha abaqhelekanga. Ingaba umfana ufuna ukubonisa ukuba imoto yabo ihamba ngokukhawuleza kangakanani umhla wabo okanye ufuna ukuba "ngumhlobo omhle" ngokuvumela abapals bakhohlise umsebenzi wabo wesikolo, umnqweno wokubonakala ngathi "upholile" unokubangela ukuba intsha ingacingi maxesha.
Amandla omzali
Nangona wakho umntwana usetshutshiswa ngabahlobo babo, uyancedisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abanqweneli ukuphoxeka abazali babo (nangona kungabonakali okwenyaniso kuninzi ixesha!), Kwaye kaninzi balinde ukuzama ukuziphatha ngokukhawuleza baze bazi ukuba ziphi iziphumo. Xa umntwana wakho efika kwiminyaka yabo yeshumi elivisayo, beka imithetho kunye nemiphumo yemisebenzi abanokunyanzelwa ukuba benze.
Kodwa ungabona njani ukuba wakho umntwana usetshenziswe ngabahlobo kwintsimi eyingozi? Gcina imizila yokunxibelelana evulekile kwaye uphendule iimpawu zokuziphatha kwazo ziguquka, njengokutshintsha ngokukhawuleza, utshintsho kwiingubo (kwaye kungengcono) okanye ulwimi okanye ukuziphatha kakubi. Ukuba unenjongo yokugcina ulwalamano olusondeleyo nentombazana yakho, usenokukwazi ukukhupha iingxaki ngaphambi kokuba uqale.