Ubunzulu-banzi Jonga i-Your Age-Old Age ye-18 yeNtlalo yeNtlalontle noThuthuko
Yintoni onokuyilindela xa unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho ijika i-18? Ngunyaka obalulekileyo kwimpilo yobutsha bakho kwaye kukho utshintsho oluninzi. Baya kukhula ngokomoya nangokwemvakalelo njengoko besetyenziselwa ukuba bengekho umntwana.
Unyaka onomdla wabaselula kwaye unokwenza abazali abaninzi banxungupheke.
Ukufuna iNtshukumo Yomntu Omdala
Umntwana oneminyaka engama-18 ubudala usekufuneni kwesazisi kwixesha elizayo.
Bafuna ukufumanisa apho baya kufumana khona namhlanje. Yilixesha leenguqu ezinkulu eziza nenkululeko eninzi nolonwabo, kunye neemvakalelo zokuxhamla kunye nokukhathazeka. Umntwana oneminyaka eyi-18 uhlala ecinga kwaye enomdla ngeenjongo zabo zekamva.
Njengoko unyaka wabo wokuqala njengomntu omdala osemthethweni, umntwana usemnyaka we-18 kwisibhakabhaka esasisebuntwaneni. Bavame ukuphuma kuyo ngokuzinzile ngakumbi kunye nokuzimela ngokuzimeleyo kunye nolwazi oluninzi lwezakhono zobomi abazifunayo njengomntu osemdala.
Emva kweminyaka engama-18 eneminyaka engama-20 ubudala bayaphumelela esikolweni esiphakeme kunye nokuya kwisinyathelo esilandelayo-bathambekele ekusebenzisaneni kunye nokuqonda abanye. Ewe, oku kuquka abazali babo!
Amaqela Oontanga Aba Namaqhinga Aphantsi
Ngokweenkcubeko, uneminyaka eyi-18 ubudala ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kwaye uyazi ngesondo sabo. Baye bagcina omnye umhlobo okanye ababini abahlobo abasondeleyo kwiqela labo labafundi beklasi eliphakamileyo kodwa abanalo ubunzima obuninzi beengcinezelo zontanga , kuba banako ukukwazi ukuzimela.
Nangona amaqela oontanga anako ukudonsa ngaphantsi komntwana oneminyaka engama-18, umntwana usetshenziswe kakhulu ngabahlobo abasondeleyo okanye ubuhlobo kunye nesini esahlukileyo. Banobuchule obusakhulayo bokuthatha izigqibo ezizimeleyo kunye nokunciphisa. Oku kubasebenzela kakuhle njengoko benza ubuhlobo obutsha kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo.
Njengoko amakhwenkwe namantombazana bekhangele phambili kwikamva labo, baqala ukujonga iinkalo zesini esahlukileyo abazifunayo kwizalamane zabo zangomso - nangona 'bengakulungele ukuhlala.'
Ixesha elizayo lilapha kwi-18 eneminyaka engama-18 ubudala
Umntwana osemtsha obeke iinjongo aze asebenze kwizakhono zobomi uya kulindela phambili ukuhamba kunye nezicwangciso zabo ezizayo.
Bakhombisa ukuzithemba nokuziqhenya kwizinto abaye bazenza - njengokufumana idiploma yabo yesikolo esiphakeme . Banovuyo malunga nesinyathelo sabo esilandelayo kwaye banomdla wokuyilandela nge-gusto enengqondo kunye namandla. Oku kunokubangela ingxaki xa umntwana esengathabathi kuwo wonke umfanekiso kunye nokuthatha uxanduva lokuba ngumdala omdala.
Nangona bekunandipha ukuzimela, bayaqonda ukuba abazali banamava kunye nokuqonda ukuba bafuna ntoni ukuphumelela. Ngoko ke, uya kufumana umfana wakho oneminyaka eyi-18 ekubuza imibuzo kunye nokuphulaphula iimpendulo zakho.
Enoba bakhetha ukuthatha icebiso lakho okanye hayi, baqwalasela ngakumbi into oyithethayo. Abazali bavame ukuzonwabisa ngeli xesha kunye nentombazana yabo, eyenza unomdla omkhulu kwiintsapho.
Umntwana osemncinci okhethileyo ukungena kwilizwe lomsebenzi esuka esikolweni esiphakeme uya kuhluthwa ngokukhawuleza, njengoko ejonga kakuhle ukuba kusebenza, iindleko zokuphila kunye nazo zonke iimbopheleleko eziza nazo.
Lo mntwana oneminyaka engama-18 unokuthukuthela ngobudenge benkqantosi yabo ebomini okanye banokufumana uxhamla ngamava kwaye baqale ukwenza iinjongo zokuphila ezingcono.
Ukuphakama komzali
Eli lixesha lokuziqhenya ngabazali. Emva kokukhulisa umntwana wakho ufike kwiyona nto ibalulekileyo kwaye usinda ngokuphumelelayo.
Ngelixa kunokubakho iintliziyo ezithandwayo ngexesha lokutshintsha kwintsholongwane yakho ibe ngumntu osemdala, gcina ugxininise kwimpumelelo yabo kwaye uzame ukungazibopheli nayiphi na intlungu onokuyihlawula ngayo. Oku kunokubangela ukuba netyala lakho kwintombazana yakho.
Ukuzali, xa senziwa kakuhle, ngumsebenzi esisebenza kuwo. Ziqhayisa ngezinto ozifezile kunye nokufezekiswa kwentsha yakho.
Unenkxalabo yokuba Uneminyaka eyi-18 yokuThuthukiswa kweTe ayiqhelekanga?
Abazali abaninzi abaneminyaka engama-18 ubudala banenkxalabo yokuba uphuhliso lwabo lwentlalo noluntu lukhawuleza okanye alukhawulezi ngokwaneleyo. Abazali banokuqala ukufumana izilumkiso zokuxhatshazwa kweziyobisi okanye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo njengoko ubuntwabuntlalo ngokuqhelekileyo lixesha lezentlalo kunye neengxaki zengqondo.
Ukuba oku kuyinyaniso kwintsapho yakho, funa uncedo ngokukhawuleza.