Iziphumo eziza kukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba asebenze ngexesha elizayo.
Kungenxa yokuba umntwana wakho uhamba ngexesha elide (ininzi yabo ingathanda ukuthunyelwa emagumbini abo), akuthethi ukuba awukwazi ukufaka imiphumo emihle. Kodwa kubalulekile ukufumana izijelo kubaselula abaya kubafundisa izifundo zokuphila.
Okwangoku, uneminyaka embalwa nje ekhohlo ukulungiselela umntwana wakho wehlabathi. Kwaye kuya kuba nzima ukubetha umlinganiselo owanika umntanakho inkululeko eyaneleyo, ngelixa eqhubeka enika ezininzi izikhokelo.
Yiba njengomzali ongekho ngaphezu kwe- helicopter umzali kunye nentombazana yakho akayi kufunda indlela yokwenza izigqibo eziphilileyo. Ukuba uvumelekile, kunjalo, akayi kuzuza izakhono afuna ukuba ngumntu omdala onoxanduva.
Isiyalo kufuneka sigxilise ekufundiseni, singajezisi
Musa ukugcina umyalelo wokuphulwa komthetho. Ukuba umntu oneminyaka engama-16 ubudala uhleli egumbini lakhe kwaye edlala imidlalo yevidiyo yonke imini, akanakho ukuziphatha kakubi. Kodwa, ukuba usenokufuna ukuqeqesha ukuze amncede aze aphile ngokuziphathekayo.
Xa wakho umntwana ephula imithetho, landela ngemiphumo emibi. Nazi imiphumo emithathu engaba yimpumelelo yokufundisa izixhobo kubantwana:
1. Iziphumo zendalo
Imiphumo yemvelo ingaba ngowona ootitshala abakhulu kunabo bonke ubomi. Kodwa, kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba ukhuselekile ukuyisebenzisa.
Musa ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba asebenzise utywala ngethemba lokuba uya kugula aze amfundise isifundo.
Akunakusebenza ngendlela oye wayilungiselela ngayo.
Ukuba kunjalo, umntwana osemtsha uzimisele ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo, ukufumana i-zero okanye ukuhlala emva kwesikolo kunokumfundisa isifundo.
Ngoko kunokumgxotha ukuba enze umsebenzi wakhe, mnike ithuba lokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo okanye ukujamelana nemiphumo.
Imiphumo yemvelo ayisebenzi kunye nabo bonke abatsha, nangona kunjalo.
Ngoko kubalulekile ukucinga ngokucophelela malunga nokuba umntwana wakho uya kufunda kwiimpazamo zakhe ukuba ungangeneli.
2. Ukulahlekelwa kwamalungelo
Ilungelo kufuneka lifumane, kwaye ukuba umntwana wakho engayithobeli imithetho, musa ukumvumela ukuba ajabulele loo malungelo angaphezulu. Umphumo onengqiqo unokubandakanya ukususa ilungelo elihambelana ngqo nomgaqo wakho okhulayo.
Ukuba umntwazana wakho ulahleka ixesha lokubuya kwakhe ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku, ungamvumeli ukuba aphume kunye nabahlobo ngoMgqibelo ebusuku. Okanye, ukuba akafumani umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo owenziweyo ngenxa yokuba udlala imidlalo yevidiyo, mthathe i-electronics. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuthatha amalungelo kwieyure ezingama-24 kusebenza.
Iziphumo kufuneka zenzakalise. Ukuba uthatha ikhono lomntwana wakho lokubukela iTV kodwa uchitha ngokuhlwa ukujonga i-Netflix kwi laptop yakhe, akunakwenzeka ukuba ube ngumphumo ophumelelayo. Khetha ilungelo eliza kunceda umntwana wakho acinge kabini ngaphambi kokuba enze iphutha elifanayo kwakhona.
Unako kwakhona ukuba umntwana wakho athole amalungelo. Qinisekisa ukuba ucacise amanyathelo ayifunayo ukuthatha ukubuyisela amalungelo akhe.
Esikhundleni sokuthi, "Unokubuyisela ifowuni yakho xa ndiyakuthemba kwakhona," tshela, "Unokubuyisela ifowuni yakho xa ufumana umsebenzi wakho wesikolo wenza ubusuku obulandelayo kumqolo."
Yenza isivumelwano sokuziphatha esibhaliweyo esichazela ukulindela kwakho. Emva koko, ayiyi kuba nayiphi na imibuzo malunga nokuba yintoni na ukuba umntwana wakho angaphinda athole njani amalungelo akhe.
3. Ukubuyisela
Kukho amaxesha apho kubalulekile ukuba uhlawule umvuzo wakho . Ukuba uyayichitha umcingo wommelwane, musa ukumthabatha nje ifowuni yakhe ngosuku. Menze ahlawule ukulungisa ucingo kwaye ngaphezu koko, menze enze imisebenzi eyongezelelweyo kummelwane.
Nangona kungekho nto ixhoba elicacileyo, usenokusebenzisa ukubuyisela. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho ukhawuleza xa eboleka imoto yakho, menze enze imisebenzi yenkonzo yoluntu ngaphambi kokuba akhokhe imoto kwakhona.
Nika inani elithile leeyure kufuneka enze. Xa ugqiba inkonzo yakhe yasekuhlaleni, uyazi ukuba uzama ukuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo ukufumana amalungelo akhe.
Ukubuyiselwa yindlela efanelekileyo yokuncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba ahlaziye nabani na owenze kakubi okanye abeke engozini. Kunokuba luncedo ukucela impembelelo yakho kwintsholongwane ukuba yintoni uhlobo lokubuyisela acinga ukuba luya kulunga.
> Imithombo
> Dawn M. Zahrt, uMarlene D. Melzer-Lange. Ukuziphatha okunyamezelayo kwabantwana nakwi-Adolescents. Iingcali ekuhlaziyweni . Agasti 2011, 32 (8) 325-332.
> I-HealthyChildren.org: Indlela yokuthetha kunye nokuphulaphula intetho yakho.
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