Kuqheleke Kanjani Ukufumana Ukutshata Kwaminyaka Eli-12 Kwakudala
Ngokubhekisele kwizinto ezinzulu, u-romance romance ubonakala ufana nobudlelwane obutsha kunye noluntu ngeendlela ezininzi. Ngenye, ulwalamano oluphakathi kolunye ulwalamano alugcinwanga ngasese. Abaninzi abaneminyaka engama-12 ubudala ababethandana nabo bathi bathetha ngabanye ngobuhlobo babo. Ukongezelela, uninzi lwabantu abathandanayo badibana nabazali babo. Oku kunokuba ukwesaba ukuvumelanisa, kodwa kubalulekile ukudlala kunye nezinye izinto ukuze umntwana wakho azive ubaxhasa.
Ukuba kukho iinkalo ezithile zomntu abathandanayo ongazithandayo, zigcine kuwe. Zama ukugxila ekufumaneni indlela inkwenkwana okanye intombazana eyenzayo ngayo. Umntwana wakho akayi kuvuleka malunga nokuba ngaba ufuna ukutshatyalaliswa ukuba ngubani odibana naye.
Imizila
Amanye aphakathi kweentando zihlala zikhona amandla. Olunye uphando lufumene ukuba i-20% yabantwana abaneminyaka engama-12 ukuya kwe-14 ubudala yayinebudlelwane obude ubuncinane benyanga ezili-11. Ngenxa yokuba ubomi bexesha elikhawulezileyo besiguqulayo, iinyanga ezili-11 ngokuqinisekileyo lixesha elibalulekileyo. Oko kwathiwa, ulwalamano phakathi kwezinto ezi-13 mhlawumbi lube lukhulu ngaphezu kobudlelwane obusemva. I-Tweens ithambekele ekukhetheni isoka okanye intombi yakhe esekelwe kwimbonakalo yomntu, iimpahla, kunye / okanye isimo senhlalakahle. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, intsha iyakwazi ukugxila kwiimpawu zangaphakathi kunye neemfuno eziqhelekileyo xa ukhetha iqabane, njengabantu abadala.
Ukuthandana kwabantwana: Akulindelekanga kodwa aqhelekileyo
Kukho konke, i-kati yakho ayiyodwa yodwa inokuba nolwalamano olusisigxina, olunzulu.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba abantwana abaphandana nabo banempilo okanye bangenabungozi, nangona kunjalo, iqhutywe ingxoxwa yenzululwazi yoluntu. Ngako oko, kukuya kuwe ukufumanisa oko ukhululekile kumntwana wakho kunye nokusekela imithetho yomgaqo wokuthandana, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni enye intsha enokuyenza okanye engenziyo.
Ukuxhasa inkxaso yakho xa iqala ukutshata
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyayivuma okanye awuyi kuvunyelwa, umntwana wakho uya kubonakala enkundleni eneminyaka eyi-12.
Zama ukuba lizwi lesibongo kunokuba ugxeke. Akunakukwazi ukuthetha nawe malunga neemvakalelo zabo okanye ukucela iingcebiso xa usebenzisa isigwebo esininzi malunga nokuthandana ngokubanzi, okanye malunga nokulungela ukufikelela kumhla. Kubalulekile ukuba i-tween ivezwe amandla kunye nolwazi olubancedisa ukubeka imida, ukulindela, kunye nemida kubo kunye nomntu abathandanayo. Hlalani nibandakanyeka ngokubelana ngamava okuqala okuthandana, kunye nendima yokudlala xa i-tween yakho ivakalelwa kuyo. Kubalulekile ukuba bakhe ukuzithemba ngokuthandana kule minyaka yokuqala ukuze bangatshintshwanga ngcaciso engafanelekanga. Kananjalo qiniseka ukuba banezicwangciso zexesha elifanelekileyo ukuba umhla ungayi kuhamba njengoko kucwangcisiweyo. Ngokusebenzisana ne-pakati yakho xa beqala ukutshatana, uya kugcina imigca yonxibelelwano evulekile ukusuka ekuthandweni kwabo bokuqala ukuya ekupheleni kwabo.
Umthombo:
Collins, W. Andrew. Ngaphezulu kweNtsomi: Ukubaluleka kokuPhatha koBudlelwane boLuntu ngexesha loLutsha. Umbhalo woPhando malunga noLutsha. 2003. 13 (1): 1-24.