Ukuphelisa intetho ye-sassy ngala macebiso alula
Ngezantsi ziingcebiso ezintlanu zokuphelisa intetho ye-back back. Awunakucinga xa umntwana wakho efunda amagama akhe okuqala ukuba ekugqibeleni wayezisebenzise loo mazwi ngokumelene nawe ngolunye usuku. Phantse malunga nayo yonke into iya kubandakanyeka intetho emva, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuziphatha okuvumelekileyo. Ukuba i-kati yakho ingasaphenduli kwisicelo esivela kuwe nge-retort efana, "Andiyicingi njalo!" vele ulinde.
Ngesinye isikhathi, i-eye-rolling, isimo sengqondo , kunye namazwi ahamba nawo aya kuzibonisa. Xa kwenzeka, nantsi into omele uyenze xa i-kati yakho ingena kwi-sass.
Beka Umzekelo Omhle
Kubonakala kucacile, kodwa indlela engcono kakhulu yokukhuthaza ukuziphatha okuhloniphekileyo ukusuka phakathi kwakho kukuzifanisa. Xa uphelelwe ngumsindo okanye u-frazzled, qiniseka ukuba izenzo zakho namazwi akukuniki. Bonisa wakho umntwana ukuba nangona ugxininisekile kwaye udiniwe, unako ukuphendula ngendlela yoluntu.
Abantwana babona ukuziphatha kakubi kunye nokuziphatha kakubi esikolweni, kumabonwakude, nakuyo yonke indawo kule mihla. Khangela ukuba xa abantu beziphatha ngokugqithisileyo, okanye ngendlela efanelekileyo, kubonakalisa kakubi kubo. I-Sitcom (kunye nezo zijoliswe kwiintlobo kunye neentsapho) zijongene ne-backass talk, ngokukodwa kubalingiswa babantwana. Umntwana wakho unokucinga ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kuhlekisayo kwaye kunengqiqo, kodwa kufuneka ucacise ukuba ubomi abukho i-sitcom, kwaye ulindele ukuba umntwana wakho alandele imigaqo yokuziphatha oyimisele yona.
Gxuma Kwizenzo Ezimbi
Kubalulekile ukuhlala phezulu kwindlela yethu yokuziphatha, ukwenzela ukukhusela imikhwa emibi endleleni. Xa intombi yakho ikubona xa uxelela ukuba uqale umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo, okanye uphendule uthi, "Ewe, uqinisekile!" xa umcela ukuba asuse itafile yedlo sakusihlwa, lixesha lokuthatha isenzo. Mxelele ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe kukucaphukisa kwaye akukho ntlonipho .
Mcele ukuba acinge kwakhona impendulo yakhe kwaye uzame kwakhona.
Iseluleko esifanayo sisebenza xa iingxaki zakho ziphakathi kweengxaki zakho okanye zizama ukugxeka iimeko zakhe kuwe. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uyayikrokra phakathi kwakho ngenxa yokuhluleka ukucima itafile yondlo, unokuphendula, "Awungikhumbuzi!" okanye "Ndilibale, kutheni unganditshilo kwakhona!" Xa intetho ebuyela emuva iba yindlela ekhohlakeleyo, kubalulekile ukuba unganikeli. Mane uphendule, "Isicelo esinye simele sanele," kwaye uqhubeke nesicwangciso sakho senxaxheba, nokuba uya kuqhuba umphumo okanye ukumcela ukuba aphinde acinge ngamagama akhe.
Kuzama ukuvumela ukuba phakathi kwakho kuphephe ukujonga isimo sengqondo, ngakumbi xa ukhathele. Xa ukhathele into yokugqibela oyifunayo kukulwa. Ingxaki kukuba ukuthetha emva kukuziphatha okukhawuleza kuba ngumkhwa, kwaye indlela yodwa yokuthintela ukuba kwenzeke kukujongana nayo, ngasinye sihlandlo.
Qinisekisa iziphumo zeNtetho Ebuyayo
Ukuba isimo sakho sengqondo asiyi kulungiswa emva kwesicelo esivela kuwe, lixesha lokufumana okungakumbi. Tshela umntwana wakho ukuba akayi kuqhuba ingxoxo kunye naye ade adibanise kwaye angakwazi ukuthetha ngokuhloniphayo. Mthumele ekamelweni lakhe ukuze uhlale phantsi, umxelele ukuba akuxelele xa sele ekulungele ukuthetha.
Xa esesimo esihle sengqondo, mkhumbuze ngenyameko ukuba kukho indlela efanelekileyo kunye nendlela engafanelekanga yokuthetha nawe kwaye ulindele ukuba akhumbule umahluko xa enomsindo, ediniwe okanye edangelekile. Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba ufuna ukuva oko akuthethileyo kwaye uyaziva ekhululekile ukuthetha. Ngelo xesha, kubalulekile ukuba azi indlela yokwenza ngenhlonipho.
Ukuvuza umgangatho wokuziphatha
Kanye nje ngokuba wenza umphumo wokuziphatha kakubi kunye nokungcolileyo, kufuneka uhlawule umvuzo wakho xa ehloniphekile kwaye ephethe ngokuhlonipha. Mxelele ukuba uyaziqhayisa njani xa ehlonipha wena nakwabanye, kwaye umvuzo wokuziphatha kwakhe kunye nexesha kunye, ukunyanga, okanye ukukhupha.
Xa abanye bevakalisa ukuziphatha kwakho okulungileyo, belana ngeendaba kunye naye ngoko uyazi ukuba abanye bayaphawula indlela aziphatha ngayo kuluntu, kunye nendlela aphatha ngayo abanye abantu, kuquka nawe.
Yamukela iMingeni, ngamanye amaxesha
Ngamanye amaxesha i-pakati ayithethi ukuba yintetho okanye ibuyisele intetho. Ubuchopho be-Tween buya kukhula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngokunjalo zabo ziza. Imibuzo engama-curious ingaba nemibuzo ejongene nemingeni xa ingenakwenzelwe ngokwenene. Umzekelo unokuba xa ucelomngeni wakho weengxaki uthisha malunga nento afunda esikolweni. Ncedisa phakathi kwakho ukuqonda umahluko phakathi kokubuza kunye nocelomngeni. Khankanya ukubaluleka kwetoni yezwi, kwaye ngokuphandle imibuzo ngokufanelekileyo. Umdlalo wokudlala ukuze umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba kulungile ukubuza, kodwa ukuba kukho ubuchule abathile obandakanyekayo ekwenzeni ezopolitiko.