Indlela yokuphendula kwiNgxoxo eDlulileyo, Ukufunga, Ukunyaniseka, kunye nokungahloneli
Ingaba umntanakho ugqiba amehlo akhe athi, "Naluphi na umama!" xa umxelela ukuba aqale umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo okanye uzenza ngathi akanakukuva xa umxelela ukuba avimbe i-elektroniki yakhe, ekupheleni kwesiqhelo sokungahloneli.
Ekupheleni kolukhulu koluhlu lokuziphatha okungahloneliyo, uya kufumana iimpawu ezifana nokubiza abantu amagama, ukungayithobeli imithetho, okanye ulwaphulo lomzimba.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana wakho uwela ngaphi, kubalulekile ukujongana nentlonipho ngaphambi kokuba nzima. Uphononongo luka-2015 olwenziwa ngabaphengululi kwiYunivesithi yaseVirginia lubone ukuba abantwana abangahloneliyo banokuba ngabantu abadala.
Ngoko ngoxa unokuba ulingeka ukuba uxolele ukungahloneli ngokuthetha izinto ezinjengalezi, "Akunjalo abantwana baya kuba bantwana," ukuxubha kuyo akuyi kwenza umntanakho nayiphi indlela yokuziphatha. Abantwana kufuneka bafunde indlela yokuphatha abanye ngenhlonipho ukuze bahlakulele ubudlelwane obuhle kunye noontanga, amanani olawulo kunye namalungu entsapho.
Ukungahloneli komntwana wakho kungabonakalisa uncedo ekufundeni iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokulawula umsindo, ukujongana nokukhungatheka nokuthetha ngokufanelekileyo. Nayi imiphumo emihle kakhulu yokuziphatha okungahloneliyo:
1. Qaphela ukunyamekela ukuziphatha
Kubonakala ngathi ukungahoyikanga into encinane kunokuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba ahambe naye.
Kodwa ukukhetha ukunyaniseka kungayinye yemiphumo emibi kakhulu.
Ukunyamekela akuthethi ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba ahambe kunye nentsingiselo, nangona kunjalo. Endaweni yoko, malunga nokuyeka ukungahloneli komntwana wakho kukudambisa emsebenzini.
Ukuba uxelela umntwana wakho ukuba ahlambulule igumbi lakhe, kwaye uvula amehlo akhe, ungazibandakanyi kwingxabano emide ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe okungahloneliyo.
Ngomzuzu ngamnye owuchitha kumzabalazo wamandla unemizuzwana engama-60 uya kuhlamba igumbi lakhe. Mnike isilumkiso malunga noko kuza kwenzeka xa engena emsebenzini.
Ukuba ukukhanya kwamehlo kuye kwaba yinto eqhelekileyo, jongana nombandela ngexesha elide xa bobabini nizolile. Yithi into efana nayo, "Ngaphambili namhlanje xa ndakuxelela ukuba uhlambulule igumbi lakho, waguqa amehlo akho. Ngaba uyazi ukuba uyakwenza loo nto xa uphahla?"
Thetha ngeemiphumo ezibangelwa ukungahloneli. Buza, "Ngaba ucinga ukuba ugxotha amehlo akho xa umhlobo wakho etshilo into ongayithandiyo?" Yenza ingxoxo malunga nendlela abanye abantu abavakalelwa ngayo xa bebona ukuziphatha kakubi.
Chaza imiphumo yemvelo yokuziphatha okungahloneliyo njengaye, "Abantwana abangahloneliyo bahlala benenkathazo yokwenza abahlobo."
2. UMgaqo kaMyalelo kaMkhulu
Ulawulo luka-Grandma loqeqesho luyindlela elula kodwa ephumelelayo yokufumana umntwana wakho amkele. Endaweni yokuxelela umntwana wakho into angenakuyenza , mxelele ukuba unokufumana njani ilungelo.
Ngoko kunokuba uthi, "Ukuba awuyi kuthatha ngoku ngoku, awuyi kudlala ngaphandle," uthi, "Ungadlala ngaphandle ngaphandle kokuba uqedile ukuthabatha amathoyizi akho." Emva koko, hambani uze ushiye umntwana wakho ukuba azenzele ndawonye.
Kananjalo unokuzama ukuthetha izinto ezinje, "Xa unciphisa ilizwi lakho kwaye uthethe ngokukhawuleza, ndiya kukuphendula," okanye "Ndiza kudlala nawe xa uyeka ukuziphatha." Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ukuziphatha okuhloniphekileyo nokuziphatha kakuhle kuveza iziphumo.
3. Ukunikezela isilumkiso esisodwa
Sebenzisa, "ukuba ... ngoko," isitatimenti sokulumkisa umntwana wakho oko kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ukuziphatha akutshintshi. Yithi, "Ukuba ungayeki ukuphazamisa xa ndikhona kwifowuni kufuneka uhambe ekamelweni lakho."
Oku kunika umntwana wakho ithuba lokutshintsha ukuziphatha kwakhe. Qinisekisa ukuba ulungele ngokupheleleyo ukulandelelana ngesiphumo esibi xa engathobeli.
Gwema ukuphindaphinda izilumkiso zakho ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ngaphandle koko, uya kuqeqesha umntwana wakho ukuba angavumi.
4. Ukubonelela ngesiphumo esibi
Iindlela ezininzi zokungahloneli nto kufuneka zibangele umphumo osisiphumo . Thatha iminyaka yomntwana wakho kwaye ubukhulu becala lube luqwalaselwe xa ugqiba isohlwayo.
Ukuphuma kwexesha kungabangela umphumo ongeyiphumeleli kubantwana abancinci. Ukuba uneminyaka engama-6 ubudala ekhwaza ebusweni bakho xa ecaphukile, umzekelo, thumela ukuba aphume ixesha.
Imiphumo yengqiqo ingasebenza kubantu abadala kunye nentsha. Ukuba umntwana wakho uhamba emnyango emva kokuba umxelele ukuba akakwazi ukuhamba, okanye umntwana wakho ekubiza igama, athathe amalungelo akhe . Ungasusa i-electronics kwieyure ezingama-24 okanye ummisele ukuba ahambe endlwini iintsuku ezimbini.
5. Sebenzisa iRhafu
Ukuba umntwana wakho okanye umfana wakho uziphatha ngendlela engamhloneliyo, kubuyiselwa ukuba kubuyiselwe ukubuyisela kwakhona. Ukubuyiselwa ngokuphathelele ukwenza into enomdla kwixhoba okanye ukwenza into yokubuyisela umonakalo owenziwe.
Ukuba umntwanakho ushaya umntakwabo, menze enze imisebenzi yomntakwabo ngomhla. Okanye, ukuba wakho umntwana usephule into engaphaya komsindo, yenza ukuba uyilungise okanye uyihlawule ukuze uyigqibe.
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuthi, "Ndiyaxolisa," akuyi kulungisa izinto rhoqo. Ukubuyiselwa kuya kumnceda ukuba athathe uxanduva ngokuziphatha kwakhe okungahloneliyo ngelixa esebenza ekulungiseni ubuhlobo.
Umsebenzi kwiNtuthuko
Xa uqwalasela ukuziphatha okungahloneliyo kuyinto evamile ukuba umntwana wakho athathe amanyathelo amabini phambili kunye nesinye isinyathelo emva. Ngoko ngelixa enokuzibonakalisa enesidima kwaye enomusa ngolunye usuku, unokwenza umzabalazo olandelayo.
Uqeqesho oluhambelanayo luphambili ekuncedeni ukuba enze inkqubela phambili kwixesha elide. Ukubonisa indlela yakhe yokuziphatha xa ubona. Yaye xa enemini embi, cinga ukungahloneli kwakhe uphawu olufuna ukuba alusebenzise.
Okubaluleke kakhulu, yiba ngumzekelo omhle. Ingaba ukhungathekile ngenkonzo oyifumayo kwivenkile yokudlela okanye ucaphukile kwi-telemarketer eyaphazamise isidlo sakho, sidla abanye ngentlonelo kwaye umntwana wakho uya kulandela.
> Imithombo
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