Iingcebiso zoMyalelo ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa nguKhanya kwakho (kwaye Kutheni ukuYala kungasebenzi)
Ukuba ungumzali, mhlawumbi ulahlekelwe ngumsindo wakho kunye nezingane zakho kwaye uzibambele ngezinye iinkalo. Thina ngabazali ngabantu kuphela, kwaye ngezinye amaxesha abantwana banokuyinyanzela ukunyanzela amaqhosha ethu nokusicelisa iingxaki zokuziphatha ezifana nokungahloneli nokuhlaselwa . Ukumema nokulahlekelwa ukupholisa kwethu, ngamanye amazwi, ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka. Kodwa ukuba ukukrokra kuyinto eyenzeka rhoqo kwikhaya lakho, kusenokuba lixesha lokuba uthabathe izinto ezenzekayo kwaye uqwalasele ezinye iindlela zokunxibelelana nomntwana wakho.
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba ukubetha akuyona indlela efanelekileyo yokuqeqesha kwaye, ngokwenene, impazamo yokuziphatha efanayo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuzibuza yona yinto enokufunda ngayo umntwana wakho xa eqeqeshwa ngale ndlela, kunye nokuba unokuchaphazeleka njani xa ecelwa rhoqo. Nazi ezinye zezizathu zokuba ungathanda ukuthoba ilizwi lakho kwaye uhlalise ngaphambi kokuba uqeqeshe umntwana wakho.
Ufundisa Umntwana Wakho Ukuba Ukunyaniseka Kulungile.
Ukuphakamisa izwi lakho kunokufumana ingqalelo yengane yakho kwixesha elifutshane, kodwa kubalulekile ukucinga malunga nokumemeza kukufundisa umntwana wakho. Xa uphakamisa izwi lakho, umntwana wakho ufunda ukuba ugonyamelo luyindlela efanelekileyo yokunxibelelana. Njengoko ukubetha umntwana wakho kuya kumfundisa ukuba ukubetha yindlela efanelekileyo yokuqeqesha, umntwana wakho uya kubona ukukhala njengento omele uyenze ukuze ufumane indawo yakho xa kukho ingxaki okanye ingxabano.
Ukumemezela Kuya Kuphelisa Ukusebenza Kwalo Kwixesha.
Ngaba ukukhawula kuyakuqwalasela umntwana wakho ngexesha elifutshane?
Ewe. Kodwa nantsi into: Ukuphakamisa ilizwi lakho lonke ixesha kunokunciphisa ukuphumelela kokumemeza okanye ukusebenzisa i-tone eqinile yezwi kamva. Kuyafana nomntu okhalayo yonke ixesha; ekugqibeleni, uya kuyilungisa. Ngokuphakamisa ilizwi lakho rhoqo, udala imeko apho umntwana wakho engeke akwazi ukukuphulaphula.
Akuhloneli.
Ungayivakalelwa njani ukuba umphathi wakho wakukhwaza xa wenza iphutha? Kuthiwani ukuba iqabane lakho okanye umhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho lithetha nawe ngale ndlela ngexesha lokulwa? Ngaba unokuziva uzikhusele kwaye unesihlungu kwaye unomsindo okanye uza kuziva unyanzelekile ukuva oko akutshoyo? Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntu uzama ukuthini, iingxaki uya kucinga ngakumbi ukuba umva loo mntu kwaye ucinge ngento ethethwa kuwe ukuba uphathwa ngentlonipho kwaye uthetha ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Umntwana Wakho Uya Kubuyela Kwakho okanye Ube Nomsindo.
Abantu basabela ngendlela engokwemvelo ukuba bahlelwe. Singabuyela okanye siphendule ngomsindo. Le yindlela oya kuyifumana ngayo kumntwana wakho xa ulahlekelwa ukupholisa kwakho, nokuba ingaba indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho ayilungisiwe, kufuneka uzibuze ukuba uyayifumana intlawulo.
Ubonisa Ukuba awunakulawula imizwa yakho.
Ukungathandeki, ukudideka, nokucaphukisa: ezo zixhobo ezinamandla kakhulu kumzali wokuqeqesha umzali. Kodwa ukumemeza kubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba awuyikulawula-into enqwenelayo xa ufuna ukugunyaza.
Ukumemeza uMeyi kungabonakalisa kakubi kunokuba sicinge.
Uphando olutsha luye lwabonisa ukuba ukukrazula kungabonakala kunobungozi njengokuba uphahla.
(Abazali abathile, ngokwenene, bakhetha ukungcola, kodwa iingcali ezininzi, ezibandakanya i-American Academy of Pediatrics, azixhasekanga kwaye zikhomba uphando olubonisa imiphumo emibi yesihlwayo somntu, ngakumbi xa abazali bebetha abantwana ngentukuthelo.) Abaphandi IYunivesithi yasePittsburgh yafumanisa ukuba ukusebenzisa isiyalo esinzima, okubandakanya ukukhwaza, ukuqalekisa, okanye ukusebenzisa izihlamba, kunokuthi kubonakale kubonakalise abantwana njengabetha. Bafumanise ukuba abantwana abaye bafumana isohlwayo esinokuthetha ngamazwi abazali babenokuba banokudandatheka okanye babonise iingxaki ezingekho phantsi kobuhlanga okanye ngokuziphatha.
Ngoko siyeka njani ukukhawula, kwaye yintoni esinokuyenza kunokuba sibonakalise ukungonwabi kwethu xa abantwana bekhohlakele?
Nazi ezinye iindlela zokuzama:
Zinike ixesha.
Xa ufumana ukulahlekelwa ukuphola kwakho, thabatha imizuzu embalwa (15, 20, okanye ngaphezulu - nokuba yintoni efunekayo) ukuzola kwaye wenze enye into. Emva koko, unokubuyela kwakhona kwingxaki xa unokucacisela ngokucacileyo kumntwana wakho oko ufuna ukuba enze ngokungafaniyo ngexesha elizayo kunye nemiphumo eya kuba yintoni xa engayithobeli imiyalelo yakho. (Umzekelo, ukuba akayifaki itafile emva kokuba umcele ukuba akwenze amaxesha amahlanu, mxelele ukuba uya kubeka itafile ngokukhawuleza ngexesha elizayo; ukuba akaphulaphuli, uya kulucima kwaye uncedo lokulayisha i-dishwasher, nayo.) Ukuthatha ixesha lokuzinqabisa phantsi kuyindlela enhle yokuqeqesha ngesimo sengqondo seZen .
Yenza kube lula ukuba Ahluleke.
Zama ukubona izinto kumbono womntwana wakho. Ukuba umcela ukuba enze into xa ephakathi komdlalo wevidiyo okanye ubonise ukuba umnike imvume yokudlala okanye ukubukela, mhlawumbi akayi kuphendula ngokukhawuleza; mnike iincinci ezili-10 zeempepha uze umxelele ukuba ufuna ukumisa kungekudala. Ukuba wayethetha ngokuqamba amanga ngento ethile, fumana isizathu sokuba wenza oko akwenzileyo ngaphambi kokuba uphendule. Ukuba ulungele ukukhawuleza, velisa iindlela zokumnceda ukukhawuleza izinto. Ngamanye amagama, misela umntwana wakho ukuba aziphathe kwaye aqonde oko kwenzekayo xa engenzi.
Bhala uluhlu lwezinto ezenziwa ngumntwana wakho.
Ngethuba elizayo xa uphelelwa ngumntwana wakho, zama le ndlela: Bhala zonke izinto azenzayo ngokufanelekileyo. Unokwenza oku entloko xa upholisa. Emva koko, xa kufika ixesha lokuhlala phantsi kwaye uthetha nomntwana malunga nokuziphatha kwakhe kunye noko ukulindele ukuba akwenze ukulungisa, unokuxelela umntwana wakho ngezinto zonke ocinga ukuba ulungile, kwaye kutheni ufuna ukuba akwazi ukwenza okulungileyo ngexesha elizayo.
Thetha Ngomnene Ukwandisa Impembelelo Yakho.
Emva kokuba unqabile, hlala phantsi nomntwana wakho uze umcele ukuba anakekele ngokupheleleyo. Thetha ngendlela ezolile kunye necacileyo (kwaye ugcine mfutshane kubantwana abancinci) kwaye umxelele ukuba kutheni ungahlali ujabule ngokuziphatha kwakhe kwaye ufuna ukuthini ukwenza okungafaniyo ukuya phambili. Kanye njengoko ufundisa umntanakho imbeko ngokusebenzisa loo meko ngokwakho, indlela othetha ngayo nomntwana wakho iya kuba yindlela ingane yakho ekuthetha ngayo nawe.
Ungaze Uthukise Umntwana Wakho okanye Usebenzise Izikhalazo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ingxaki yokuziphatha okanye indlela yokuxhalabisa ngayo, khumbula ukuba amagama anokuba sisixhobo esinamandla kakhulu esinokuba sisixhobo. Kanye njengokuba unokwakha ukuzithemba komntwana ngokukhuthaza, unokusiphulaphula ngeentlanzi okanye iziqalekiso. Qaphela kakhulu into oyithethayo kumntwana wakho kunye nendlela othetha ngayo.