Fumana Ulawulo Xa Uyala abantwana Abanoxolo, Uthando kunye nokuqonda
Kuya kwenzeka kuwo wonke umzali-loo mzuzu xa umntwana wakho onothambileyo, othandekayo, onothando angenza ngokukhawuleza okanye athethe into engakuchukumisa okanye ibuhlungu ngayo iimvakalelo zakho. Kwaye kuya kuba yilapho kwaye kuya kufuneka ukuba wenze umgudu omkhulu wokungaphumeleli ukuphola kwakho kwaye usebenzise ukuzinza kwengqeqesho yomntwana .
Kodwa njengoko kukho konke ukulwa, kuthatha ezimbini kwi-tango. Njengoko ukhokela umntwana wakho ekubhekiselele ekuziphatheni okungcono, khumbula ukuba unamandla okusetha uguquko. Nazi ezinye iindlela ongayenza ngayo imigaqo ethile ye-Zen-iimfundiso zobuBuddha-ezifunyenwe zigxininisa ukuvumela ukuhamba kwezikhonkco kunye nokuzola- kwisitayela somntwana wakho wokuziphatha . Konke oku kuthatha uxolo, uthando kunye nokuqonda.
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Zisuse kwisenzo.Ukuba ufumana utshisa phantsi kwekholeji, thabatha iphepha kwiimfundiso zeBuddha uze uthathe umbono omde wokuxabana wakho nomntwana wakho. Kunokuba nzima ukukwenza ngokufudumala kweso sikhashana, kodwa khumbuze ukuba uza kusebenza kwaye uzame ukuphendula ngomsindo nokulimala. Unokuba ufuna ukuhamba okanye uthathe imizuzu embalwa ukuzola phambi kokuba uxoxe nomntwana wakho.
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Ukujonga ngento enokuthula.Ngelixa uqokelela ukupholisa kwakho, cinga ngento enokuvuyisa. Ukuhamba? Ukutya kunye nomhlobo? Umhla kunye neqabane lakho ? Zinike into yokujonga phambili kwikamva elikude elikuphela kwakho.
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Beka iimfazwe zakho zibe nembono.Eminye imiqobo ephazamisayo, njengokungcoliseki okanye ukubuyela emva , yinto eqhelekileyo yokuphuhlisa abantwana. Khumbuza ukuba ubuhlobo bakho nomntwana wakho buqinileyo kwaye bunothando, kwaye lunokomelela xa usebenza ekuxazululeni iingxaki kunye.
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Khumbuza ngamandla akho.Ngenxa yokuba uzonqabile, akuthethi ukuba umntwana wakho uya kuzibeka kwakhona ngexesha elifanayo. Uyakwazi ukuqhubeka enomsindo okanye engathandekiyo. Kodwa ngokuthetha nomntanakho ngendlela enhle-ngelixa uyamkhumbuza ukuba uthethe nawe ngokuhlonipha-usetha itoni uze umkhombe endleleni ofuna ukuba ulandele.
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Khangela izinto ezinokubangela ukuziphatha.Ngaba kukho na utshintsho oluphawulekayo ekhaya lakho kutshanje? Ngaba kunokuthile kumkhathaza esikolweni, njengesixhaso okanye iingxaki ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo okanye umsebenzi wesikolo? Xa umntwana wakho ekulungele ukuthetha, zama ukufikelela kwingcambu yokuziphatha kwakhe.
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Musa ukoyika ukwenza iziphumo.Ukuba nguZen akuthethi ukuvumela umntwana wakho ahambe ngaphesheya kwakho. Ingaba lixesha lokuphuma okanye ukuthatha amalungelo, qiniseka ukuba ulandela izigwebo. Abantwana kufuneka baqonde ukuba abakwazi ukunyusa ngaphaya kwemiqathango oyimiseleyo kwaye uhambe nayo-mhlawumbi, baya kushenxisa imida ngokuqhubekayo ngexesha elizayo.
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Yithi "Ndiyakuthanda" xa uqeqesha abantwana.Ndihlala ndiqinisekisa ukuba ndithi kum unyana wam ukuba ndimthanda, nangona ndimcela ukuba aziphathe kakuhle okanye achaze ukuba kutheni ndingonwabanga into akwenzileyo. Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha ndifumana "Ewe, andinithandi!" ukubuyisela, kodwa oko kungenxa yekhosi. Xa ndihlala ngenyameko, ndikhokela umntwana wam ekuqondeni ukuba amalungu omndeni angakwazi ukuxabana okanye angavumelani, kodwa akufanele alandele ukuba bathandana kangakanani.
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Thatha ixesha lakho.Ingaba i-yoga okanye i-kickboxing, yenza into eyanciphisa uxinzelelo ukuze ukwazi ukuphatha kakubi-okanye nayiphina inselele-ngexesha elizayo xa livela.