Fumana iikhompyutheni zoLuleko eziSebenzela intsapho yakho
Ayikho enye indlela efanelekileyo yokuqeqesha abantwana.Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokukhulisa umntwana onoyolo ojika waba ngumntu omdala onoxanduva.
Kukho iingcamango ezininzi ezahlukahlukeneyo malunga nendlela yokuziphatha efanelekileyo okanye yintoni echaphazelayo iintlobo ezithile zokuqeqesha ziya kuba nezingane, ngoko kubalulekile ukwenza umsebenzi wakho wesikolo ukuze wenze ukhetho olunolwazi malunga nendlela yokukhulisa abantwana bakho.
Ekugqibeleni, ukufuna kwakho ukufumana iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuqeqeshwa kufuneka kube malunga nokufumana iindlela zokuziphatha eziza kusebenza kakuhle kwiintsapho zakho. Nazi izinto ezintlanu zokuqwalasela xa usenza isigqibo malunga naziphi izicwangciso zokuziphatha kunye nabantwana bakho:
1. Khawucinge ngeNdlela yomntwana wakho
Ubungqingili bomntwana wakho obuhlukile- ubuchule bakhe, ubuthathaka kunye nobuntu kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo. Oko kusebenza kakuhle kumntwana omnye akuyi kusebenza omnye.
Ukulungiswa okuqinisekileyo kungaba ngumphumo ophumelelayo kumntwana onobubele . Kodwa umntwana onamandla onqweneleyo akanakunqunyulwa ngaphandle kokuba alahlekelwe amalungelo akhe.
Ezinye iifana nazo zikhuthazwa ngakumbi yimbuyekezo kunezinye. Ngoko thabatha ixesha lokucinga ngokwenene malunga neentlobo zezinto eza kusebenza kakuhle ngomntwana ngamnye.
2. Thatha i-akhawunti yakho kwi-Akhawunti
Kakade, umzali umele aqwalaselwe. Emva koko, hlolisisa okufanelekileyo phakathi kobubele bakho nomntwana wakho.
Umzekelo, ukuba ungumntu onokuthula, umntu ongekho, ungakufumana kulula ukuphatha umntwana ohlazo othanda ukufunda nokudlala ngeebhloko. Kodwa, ukuba unomntwana okhululekileyo, usenokusondeza ngamandla akhe.
Oko kuthetha ukuba unomonde omncinci kwiindlela ezithile zokuziphatha.
Okanye, kusenokuthetha ukuba uxhomekeke ngokungqongqo malunga nemiba ethile. Ukuphuhlisa ukuqonda ngesimo sakho kunokukunceda ukuqinisekisa ukuba umzali wakho ngendlela efundisa abantwana bakho izakhono zobomi abazifuna ukuba ngabantu abadala.
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukucinga malunga nesimo somlingane wakho. Ukuba ubuyelweyo kwaye isilonda somlingane sakho siphezulu, kuya kubaluleka ukufumana isicwangciso soqeqesho esiya kusebenza kakuhle kokubili.
3. Ukuchonga isitayela sakho sabazali
Kukho iintlobo ezine eziphambili zendlela yokuba ngumzali ; ophethe igunya, ogunyazisiweyo, ongenakuvulwa, kunye nokuvumela.
Ukuchonga ukuba yeyiphi isitayela osijonga ngokwemvelo. Ukuphonononga ubungqina kunye neengxaki zesitayela somzali wakho kwaye unqume ukuba kukho na utshintsho ofuna ukukwenza kwindlela yokuziphatha.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba abantwana abakhuliswa ngabazali abagunyazayo bahamba kakuhle, ngokwenyama nangokomzwelo. Ngoko cinga ngamanyathelo onokuthatha ukuthatha isitala esipheleleyo.
4. Zifundise kwiintlobo ezintlanu zoqeqesho
Kukho iintlobo ezintlanu zoqeqesho ; ukuqeqeshwa okulungileyo, uqeqesho olumnene, uqeqesho olusekelwe kumda , ukuguqulwa kokuziphatha , kunye nokuqeqeshwa kwemvakalelo .
Ngokuqinisekileyo kukho amanani amaninzi kwaye babizwa ngamanye amaxesha ngezinye iincwadi kwiincwadi ezahlukeneyo okanye iimpapasho, kodwa ezi zizona zindidi eziphambili zoqeqesho.
Ukuchonga izicwangciso zokuziphatha ozisebenzisayo kwaye ucinge malunga nokuba zeziphi eziphumelela kakhulu kumntwana wakho. Udibaniso lweendidi ezininzi zokuqeqesha lunokuba luncedo kakhulu ekulawuleni ukuziphatha komntwana wakho.
5. Zama ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zoLuleko
Uqeqesho lomntwana wakho luya kuguquka ngexesha elixhomekeke kwizinga lakhe lokukhula kunye neemeko zobomi. Isicwangciso soqeqesho esisebenza ngoku, asikwazi ukusebenza ngonyaka ozayo.
Yingakho kubalulekile ukuba nebhokisi leethuluzi elizaliswe izixhobo zokuqeqesha ukuze uhlale ulungele isicwangciso esithile.
Xa uzama iindlela ezintsha zokuziphatha, njengokungafani nokuziphatha okuthile okanye ukuthatha amalungelo, ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kungase kube nzima ngakumbi ngaphambi kokuba kube ngcono.
Oko akuthethi ukuba uqeqesho lwakho alusebenzi. Ngamanye amaxesha iziphathamandla ziba zibi ngakumbi ngaphambi kokuba ziphucule njengoko abantwana baphendula kwimimiselo emitsha nemida emitsha.
Yenza imigaqo yakho icace kwaye uhlale uhambelana nokunika iziphumo. Okwangoku, qhubeka ufundisa umntwana wakho izakhono ezintsha ukuze afunde ukulawula ukuziphatha kwakhe kangcono.
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