Ukuchonga okufanelekileyo phakathi kobubele kunye nomoya wengane yakho
Umoya wakho udlala indima enkulu kumzali wakho umntwana. Kucingwa njengenye yezinto ezintlanu ezenza ukuba uqeqesho luphumelele .
Isimo sakho sichaphazela indlela oqinileyo okanye ovumelekileyo ukuba ube kunye nomntwana wakho. Kwakhona kudlala indima ekunyamezelweni okuya kuba neendlela ezithile zokuziphatha.
Ukuhlolisisa isimo sakho sengqondo kunye nendlela ehambelana ngayo nomoya wengane yakho kunokukunceda ufumane iindlela eziphambili zokuphendula iimpawu zomntwana wakho.
Yintoni i Tempile?
Isimo sakho senziwe yimpawu ozalelwe ngazo. Isimo sakho sengqondo sinquma indlela oqonda ngayo nokuphendula ngayo iimpawu zomntwana wakho. Ikwachaphazela ubuhlobo bakho nomntwana wakho kunye nezicwangciso zokuziphatha oziqeshayo.
Ezi zilandelayo zilandelayo zenza ubume bakho:
- Ukuqonda - Ngaba unomdla kangakanani ukuvakala, ukuvumba, izandi, ukunambitha kunye nokuthintela? Ngaba unzima gqitha ukuva ngezwi elikhulu kwaye unokubekezelela njani le ntlungu?
- Izinga lomsebenzi - Unomsebenzi onjani imihla ngemihla? Ngaba unandipha imisebenzi emininzi okanye ukhetha umsebenzi wokuhlala?
- Ubungakanani - Unamandla amangakanani ekuphenduleni? Ngokomzekelo, ngaba ubonisa indlela enkulu xa uphelelwa ngumsindo okanye abanye bakunzima ukuqagela indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo?
- Ukuphindaphinda - Ngaba unandipha ishedyuli rhoqo okanye uyancwina ngokukhawuleza?
- Ukuguquguquka - Uyenza njani ngenguqu? Ingaba uyagxuma kwimeko entsha okanye uthatha ixesha lokuvavanya imeko ngaphambi kokungena?
- Ukunyamekela - Uhlala unomsebenzi omude kangakanani? Ngaba unokuthi uhambe ukusuka kwenye into ukuya kwelinye ngaphandle kokugqiba okanye unamathela omnye umsebenzi kude kube yenziwe?
- Ukungahambi kakuhle - Kude kangakanani ixesha lokujonga ingqalelo kwaye kulula kangakanani ukuphazamiseka lula?
Hlaziya i Tempile
Xa uhlolisisa iimeko ezenza isimo sengqondo, cinga ukuba ngamnye uya kwizinga elilodwa ukuya kweyesihlanu.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba unokusondela ekupheleni kokugqithisa kweembalo kwezinye iindawo nakweminye imimandla, unokuba ngaphezulu phakathi kwendlela.
Akufuneki ukuba yintoni / okanye imeko kodwa kunezididi onayo iimpawu ezithile.
Thelekisa iSimo Sakho kuMoya Womntwana Wakho
Isizathu esibalulekileyo sokuba kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuziphatha kwakho kukuba kunokukunceda uqhathanise isimo sakho nesimo sengqondo somntwana wakho. Ukulungelelana phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho kunokukunceda uqaphele indawo apho unokuba ngumdlalo omhle kunye neendawo apho unokujamelana nazo.
Khumbula, ububele bakho abuhle okanye bubi. Kuphela nje loo mpawu ozalelwe ngayo.
Kwaye awuyi kukwazi ukutshintsha isimo sengqondo somntwana kodwa unokwazi ukunceda umntwana wakho ngezinto ezithile ezinzima kuye xa uqaphela ukulungelelanisa phakathi kobubele kunye nomoya wengane yakho.
Kuthiwani Ukuba Iimitha Zethu Zifana?
Kukho ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye kunesidima sokuba nomoya ofana nofana nomntwana wakho. Umzekelo, ukuba nonke unamanqanaba omsebenzi ofanayo, kuya kuba ngumdlalo omhle.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba nonke unamanqanaba afanayo ofanayo kwindlela oziphendulela ngayo, unokuphela ekungaboni ngaso linye.
Impendulo yemoya ingasasazeka kwaye ngoko ukuba unomsindo kwaye umntwana wakho unesimo esifanayo, kunokubangela ukuba umntwana wakho athukutheke.
Kuthiwani Ukuba Iingxaki Zethu Zichasene?
Kukho ubuchule kunye nokuqhelaniswa ukuba neentliziyo ezichaseneyo. Khawucinge ngomzali othanda ukuzakhela umntwana othanda ngokwenene isakhiwo kunye nesenzo? Ingakhokelela kwiingxaki ezithile zokuziphatha njengoko umntwana uya kuba nexhala kwaye akhathazeke xa engazi izicwangciso ngaphambi kwexesha.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuchasana ngamanye amaxesha kunokubambisana. Umzali okwazi ukulungelelanisa-kodwa ukhulisa umntwana onzima kakhulu-unokuncedisa umntwana ukulungelelanisa kwimisebenzi ngokubonisa umonde nokumisela imisebenzi emitsha.
Ukuphuhlisa iindlela ezifanelekileyo zoLuleko
Ukuqaphela isimo sakho sengqondo kunye nokulungelelana nomntwana wakho kunokukunceda uqaphele indawo apho unokuba nzima khona ukuqeqesha umntwana wakho. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unengxaki kwingxolo kwaye ukhulisa inkwenkwe eneminyaka emine ekhutheleyo, ungayiphendula njani ngokufanelekileyo?
Kunokuba luncedo ukuqaphela ukuba iimpawu zakhe ziqhelekileyo kwaye izinga lakho lokunyamezela ngokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo liphantsi.
Nangona awukwazi ukutshintsha isimo sakho somoya, unokutshintsha iindlela zakho zokuba ngumzali. Qinisekisa ukuba zeziphi iinkalo zakho ezinamandla kwaye zeziphi iinkalo ezingabuthathaka. Khangela ingqalelo kwibhokisi lakho lokufundisa kwaye ukhangele izicwangciso ezintsha ezinokuba luncedo kumntwana wakho.
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