Ukuqonda oku kulandelwa kobutsha
Iyintoni inkcazo yokuthelekiswa okuphantsi? Ngale ngqungquthela yomxholo, funda ngakumbi malunga nokuthelekiswa okuphantsi, kuba kutheni abantwana kunye nentsha bahlala kuzo, kwaye kutheni ukuthelekiswa okunjalo akuphilisanga ukwenza lonke ixesha.
Ukuchaza ukuthelekiswa okuphantsi
Ukuthelekiswa okuphantsi kunye uhlobo oluthile lokuthelekisa uluntu okanye uvavanyo lwendlela esilingana ngayo noontanga bethu.
Xa senza ukuthelekiswa okuthe ngqo, siyazigweba ngokwabantu abangenazo izakhono okanye banenhlanhla kunathi. Ngokomzekelo, u-pakati okhuselekile kwibhola unokuzifanisa nomdlali owona mbi kakhulu kwiqela kwaye ucinge, "Hayi ubuncinane ndingazibamba ngcono kunokuba angakwazi."
Ukuthelekiswa okuphantsi kukuphambene nokuqhathaniswa okuphezulu apho i-kati ifanisa nomntu ongcono kwiqela kwaye uzibethe ngokucacileyo ukuba kutheni angayifani. Ukuthelekiswa okuphezulu kunokulimaza ukuzithemba komntwana .
Kutheni ukuthelekiswa okuphantsi kwexesha akusoloko kulungile
Kuya kuba yingozi xa umntwana esetyenziselwa ukuthelekiswa komgangatho ongaphantsi kunye nokuthelekiswa okuphezulu; Kwimeko enjalo, umntwana akanako ukuzama ukuphucula kwaye angase ahlakulele ingqondo engenangqiqo, engaphezulu. Ngexesha elifanayo, intsalela yokuthelekiswa okuphezulu ingaba yingxaki kuba ukuthelekisa okuphantsi kukukhusela ukuzithemba .
Ukunyanzela kwi-Oneself
Abazali banokukhuthaza abantwana babo ukuba bagwebe imizamo yabo kunye neemeko ezinxulumene nokuzimela kwabo ngaphambili kunokuba baxhomekeke kwabanye.
Ukuba umdlali webhola kumzekelo okhankanywe ngaphambili ukhange iinjongo ezingaphezulu, umzekelo, kufuneka ahlole ukuba zininzi iinjongo azifumene ixesha elidlulileyo kwaye ahlole ukuba yeyiphi na indlela ayisebenzisa ngayo ukuphucula. Oku kungcono kunokuzifanisa nomfundi onamakhono ahlukeneyo wezemidlalo , ubukhulu bomzimba kunye nezinye izixhobo.
Oko kwathiwa, ukuthelekiswa kwentlalo kwenzeka ngokwemvelo kwaye akudingeki ukuba kube yinto engafanelekiyo, ingakumbi xa kuthelekiswa ukulinganisela phakathi kokuthelekisa phezulu nokuhla. Abazali banokuzama ukunciphisa ukufanisa okunxulumene nentlalo ngokuziyeka ukwenza oko ngokwabo. Musa ukuthelekisa umntanakho kumntakwabo omdala, ebonisa, umzekelo, ngaluphi umdala umzalwana osekhulile axabisa intlapheko ephambili.
Abantu bafanisa nabantwana babo bonke ixesha, bekhokelela ekubeni nomona kunye nentukuthelo phakathi kwabo. Ukuthelekiswa kwabazalwana kunye noodade akulungele kuphela ulwalamano lwabantwana, kwaye kunokukhuthaza abantwana ukuba baqale baqhubisane.
Kutheni ukuthelekiswa koMgangatho ongekho phantsi
Abazali banokuchazela abantwana ukuba ukuthelekiswa okungekho nto kuchanekileyo kwaye akulungile kuba wonke umntu uhlukile. Ukuba umntwana wakho wakhiwe "ngcono" kunomdlali ongcono kakhulu webhola ekhatyeni lakhe okanye udlale umdlalo ixesha elide, akufanelekanga ukuzithelekisa kumdlali ohluphekileyo.
Kuyafana nokuthelekisa ngokuthe ngqo. Mhlawumbi abazali bomdlali obalaseleyo kwiqela bahlawule ukuba baye kwikampu yebhola yonyaka. Enye enye inzuzo eyenza ukuthelekiswa okungalungile.
Cacisa umntwana wakho ukuba ngenxa yokuba wonke umntu akahlukanga kuphela kodwa unemithombo yezofuzo kunye nezinye iingenelo, ukuthelekiswa akuyona into ehamba phambili yokuyenza.
Yenza umntwana wakho azi ukuba abadlali ababalaseleyo kwihlabathi bayazikhuphisana nabo kunye neengxelo abazibekele zona.
Umthombo:
Myers, uDavid G. Psychology, i-10th edition. ENew York: McGraw-Hill.