Ukuba ubuqaphele ukuba ukuzithemba kwakho phakathi kwexesha kuye kwawa, unokufuna isicwangciso sokwakha ukuzithemba. Ngelixa ungeke umise umntwana wakho ukuba ahlulele ngokucacileyo ukuba amakhono abo kunye namalungu afana njani nabanye, kukho iindlela ezininzi onokunika inkxaso.
Khuthaza amaTweens ukuba axabise iZakhono zabo
Xa abantu baxabisa imisebenzi eyenziwa kakuhle, bayathanda kakhulu, babhala uJohn Santrock, umbhali we- Life-Span Development .
Unokwakha ukuzithemba ngokugxininisa ukubaluleka kweetalente zakho. Ngokomzekelo, tshela wena kunye nabafundi bakho bentengo yemfundo kunye nokungahoywa iimbaleko. Kwenzeka njalo, nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho ukhululekile kwi-basketball kodwa unobuthakathaka eklasini. Oku kunokukhokelela ekuziphatheleni ukuzithoba ngenxa yokuba akanakulungele "kwizinto ezibalulekileyo." Ngoko yenza umdlalo (okanye nayiphi na isakhono esisetyenzisiweyo) ukubala! Qaphela ukuba akudingeki ukuba udlale abafundi ukuze ujonge i-athletics; unokwenza ukuba baninzi ngakumbi kubaluleke. Ngaphantsi: asikwazi ukukhetha indawo apho abantwana bethu bahamba khona, kodwa siyakukhetha xa senza udumo kunye nokwamkelwa.
Mamela kwaye uqaphele
Sisele sazi isipho esikhulu kunazo zonke esinokubanika abantwana bethu ixesha kunye nengqwalasela engacatshangwanga. Le nyaniso yinyani ngokukodwa ngokuzakhela ukuzithemba. Ukuphulaphula akufuneki kwenzeke kumanani amaninzi ukuze kusebenze.
Kwimizuzu eyishumi yenqaku lokwenene lixabisa ngaphezu kweeyure ezintathu ukuba "ndawonye" kodwa ingakhange igxininise into ekuthethwa ngayo phakathi kwakho. Ukuba umphulaphuli obalaphulayo kuthetha ukungahambisi izigwebo, ukugxekwa okanye ukucebisa. Mva nje oko umntwana wakho akutshoyo kwaye uphinde ubeke izimvo zakhe ukubonisa ukuba ulalele.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba u-tween wakho uthetha ngutitshala kunye nabahlobo bakhe bebambelele kwiingxaki zabo, usenokuthi, "Uziva ngathi akukho mntu uhlala esikolweni." Ingabonakala i-hokey ekuqaleni, kodwa iiseshoni eziqhelekileyo zokuphulaphula zingancedisa umntwana ukuba azive eqinisekisiwe kwaye efanelekileyo.
Khuthaza Imithombo Engaphezulu Yenkxaso
Iiseshoni zokuphulaphula nabazali zibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kufuneka badlale ingqalelo, ukuqinisekiswa kunye nenkxaso enokukwazi ukuyenza. Ngaphezulu, kunempilo ukukhuthaza abantwana bethu ukuba bathembele kwabanye ngaphandle kwethu. Ngenxa yoko unokwakha ukuzithemba ngokukhuthaza ukuxhaswa, ubudlelwane obunenjongo xa ubona oku kuqala ukuma. Ngokufanelekileyo, ezi ziza kuba ngabantu abadala, ezifana nomqeqeshi, utitshala okanye umntu onokwenkolo, kodwa ukuxhasana koontanga kunokuba luncedo. Unokuphinda ucinge ngeenkqubo zokuqeqesha ezisesikweni, utshilo uDkt. Santrock. Kakade ke, ukuba kunjalo, ukuba ngabafundi abafanele baphoqelelwe nantoni na; Ukuba ulungelelanise ulwalamano lwawo lunokuthi luphucule umqondo wabo wobuchule kunye nexabiso ngaphezu kokuncedisa.
Bavumeleke
Ukuvumela umntwana ukuba azame kwaye angaphumeleki kubalulekile ekwakheni ukuzithemba kwabo, ngokwe-NYU Child Study Centre. Oku kunokuba kuzwakala ku-counter-intuitive: Ndimele ndivumele umntwana wam enze kakubi ukuze bakwazi ukuziva kakuhle ngabo?
Ngelizwi, ewe! Abantu bafumana ingqiqo ngokwazi ukuthatha imingeni emitsha kwaye baphumelele kuzo. Ukuba udikibala ukungaphumeleli, udumise umntwana wakho ekuzameni izinto ezintsha. I-Tweens ifunda ukuzinza kunye nezakhono zokuhlangabezana xa bejamelene neengxaki. Kungcono, xa befikelela ekujoliswe kuyo, bafumana ingqiqo yobunini boqobo kunye nokukwazi.
Yiba Umzekelo Olungileyo
I-Tweens ifunda ukuzithemba ngokuzimeleyo ngokubukela abantu abadala abakujikelezayo kubonisa ukuzithemba okusemgangathweni. Ngoko ke, qwa lasela indlela ozenza ngayo ukuzithiba malunga nawe ngokuthi "Ndithobile" okanye "Andiyi kuba nantoni na." Xa unokuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba uyamangalisa kwaye unokukwenza nantoni na, ufunda ngakumbi ngezenzo zakho ngaphandle kwamazwi akho.
Ngoko ke, ukusebenzela ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba kwakho kunokuncedisa ngqo umntwana wakho. Yiyo, ngokuqinisekileyo, inkqubo eninzi ngokwayo. Okwangoku, unako ukugxila ekubambeni nasekunciphiseni iimpendulo zakho ezimbi. Ngeke nje uzive ulunge, kodwa i-kati yakho mhlawumbi iya kuba,!