Ukuqaphela nokuxhasa iNkqantosi
Ukuba u-pakati wakho uthanda ukuchitha ixesha elide wedwa, usenokuzibuza ukuba kukho into engalunganga. Ngethuba nje umntwana wakho enomhlobo osondeleyo okanye amabini, ithuba lihle. I-kati yakho mhlawumbi ilula nje.
Yintoni i-Introvert?
Elinye iqhosha eliphambili lobuntu liyi-introversion / extraversion. Unokucinga ngaleli candelo njengoluhlu olusuka kwi-extraversion epheleleyo kwiphepha elilodwa ukuya kwi-introversion epheleleyo kwelinye icala.
Uninzi lwe-tween luwela kwindawo ephakathi kwebala, kodwa lithembele ngenye indlela okanye enye. Malunga ne-75% yama-American tweens ancike kwi-extraversion. Ukuphazamiseka kubangela ukuba uluntu lwethu sicinge nge-extraversion njengento "eqhelekileyo" kunye nokwazisa "njengengxaki." Ngokuchasene neentlobo ezithandwayo, nangona, ukungeniswa kuthetha ukuthini umntu "onesizungu," "awunanto engafaniyo" okanye nayiphi na indlela engavamile. I-Introversion ayikho into efana neentloni. Enyanisweni, izethulo zifana noluntu njengentanga yabo. Zineendlela ezahlukeneyo zokukhetha ukusebenzisana nehlabathi elibangqongileyo.
Ulwahlulo phakathi kwama-Introverts kunye noNyaka
Kukho iintlukwano ezintathu eziphambili phakathi kwezingeniso kunye nokuxhamla. Iyokuqala ixhalabisa indlela phakathi kweengeniso okanye ukugalela amandla. Ukukhutshwa okuvame ukuvakalelwa kukuxhotyiswa ngokuba ngamaqela abantu kwaye uziva uphelelwe ixesha elide elichitha ixesha linye. Ngokwahlukileyo, u-introvert uyaphinda ahlawule ngexesha elilodwa kwaye alahlekelwe amandla kwizakhiwo ezinkulu zoluntu.
Omnye umehluko omkhulu ngumyalelo wokuthetha kunye nokucinga: i-extraverts ijwayele ukucinga njengoko bethetha ngelixa i-introverts isicinga ngaphambi kokuba bathethe. Oku kwenza ukuba ama-introverts abonakale engabonakaliyo kunokuba atyhutshwe ngenxa yokuba asebenza izimpendulo zawo kwimibandela ngaphambi kokuba athethe. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba banikezelo lwabo lokuthintana kwentlalo, i-introvert inokukhetha ukuba neengxoxo ezinzulu kunye nomntu omnye okanye ababini ngelixa i-extraverts ikhetha incoko ehambahambayo kunye namaqela amakhulu abantu.
Indlela Ongayinceda ngayo i-Tween
Njengoko sibonile, ukungeniswa kwinto yonke enempilweni njengokongeza. Kunokuba nzima ukuba uqalise kwi-community-dominated-dominated society, nangona kunjalo, ngokukodwa ngethuba leminyaka. I-Tweens ithembele kakhulu ekuthelekisweni kwentlalo njengoko ihlakulela ukuvakalelwa kwayo, leyo leyo ingachaphazela impilo yabo jikelele. Ukuziva uhlukile ngexesha leminyaka ephakathi kungabangela uxinzelelo olukhulu. Enye into ongayenza ukuze uxhase i-tween yakho yangaphambili ibancede baqonde ukuba yiyiphi intshayelelo. Ngokukwabelana ngeeInternet kunye / okanye iincwadi malunga ne-introversion, unokubanceda ukuba baqonde ukuba uhlobo lwabo lobuntu luqhelekileyo kwaye lunempilo. Njengokuba abanye abantu banamehlo amnyama ngelixa abanye banamehlo aphilileyo, okubhekiselele kwihlabathi ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo akenzi umntu omnye ngakumbi kunomnye. Nantoni na oyenzayo, ungazami ukuphoqelela phakathi kwakho ukuba "ube yi-extravert" ngokwenza ukuba aye kwiintlanganiso ezinkulu zoluntu okanye amkhuthaze ukuba athethe lonke ixesha. Ukuba nantoni na, oku kuya kwenza ukuba azive ngathi uninzi olungabonakaliyo kuba izenzo zakhe ezinyanzelekileyo aziyi kuhambelana noko akuvakalelwayo. Ukuxhasa ukuthambekela kwengqondo yomntwana kuya kwenza ukuba azive ekhululekile ngaye.
Izimpawu zoMkiso
Nangona i-introversion iyinto eqhelekileyo, kukho izibonakaliso ezilumkiso ezingabonakalisa umba ohamba ngaphaya kobuninzi bomntu wobuntu. Ukuba i-kati yakho ingenabo abahlobo abasondeleyo nangona sele beya esikolweni esifanayo ngeenyanga, unokufumana ingxaki ngezakhono zentlalo okanye olunye uhlobo lwengxaki yomzwelo. Kule meko, ingxoxo kunye notitshala kunye nodokotela wengane yakho inokuthi ilandelwe. Ukuba uhlangothi lwakho lubonakala luxineke kakhulu, luqala ukunqumla wonke umntu oqhagamshelana noluntu, kunye / okanye ubeka izimvo malunga nokufuna ukuzilimaza yena okanye abanye, unokusingatha into enzulu ngakumbi, njengengxaki yesimo sengqondo .
Buza udokotela wengane yakho ngokukhawuleza.
Kukho konke, ukwahluka kohlobo lwabuntu kunokuba nzima kuma-tween abancinci njengama-introverts. Ngenkxaso kunye nokuqonda, nangona kunjalo, banokuqonda kwaye banandipha amandla abo obuntu.
Umthombo:
Rathus, PhD, Spencer. I-Psychology: IiNkcazo kunye neeNxibelelwano, iNgcaciso emfutshane. Lwe-8. 2007. UBelmont, CA: Thomson, Wadsworth.